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Originally posted by eyescryforALLAAH07
IF the woman has grounds for a divorce, she can go to ANY qualified scholar or shari#ah court and put forward her case.
if they deem it a good reason they will tell her "right you are divorced" and that is it![/QUOTE]
This was more or less what the programme actually said.
[QUOTE]whereas the husband can issue the pronouncement of divorce 3 times to finalise it (usually with at least one month between), [/QUOTE]
This too was explained, although as one of the young Muslim men at the centre of one of the domestic desputes was explaining, there seemed to be an almost ‘Candyman’ aspect to it, where he could pronounce the divorce pretty much by just repeating it three times there and then without having to wait any particular length of time. Whilst it’s a while since I saw the show and am possibly misremembering a couple of things, I do remember one of the Muslim women actually pointing out how unfair this was; a wife had to petition a male Sharia court and have it drag on and one, whereas the husband had no such problems and could just pretty much end the marriage there and then.
the woman CAN get a divorce if her husband is unjust to her... like the following things:
[QUOTE] 2 - if the husband apostates from islaam the woman is AUTOMATICALLY divorced from him IMMEDIATELY.[/QUOTE]
One of the Muslim males in the programme seemed pretty much into pornography. I've got a recollection of it being an issue because his kids were finding it and this was one of the reasons the woman wanted a divorce. I'm not sure how Islam stands on pornography, how does it stand?
[QUOTE]i could go on and on and on... and like you said you watched something on tv!
do you always trust the media? [/QUOTE]
No, I don't always trust what I see in the media. Although, you are offering me information via a media channel, the internet, am I to trust you ? As I said initially, the programme seemed fairly even handed to me. It was presented by a young Muslim male, and was generally sympathetic. If anything, it painted the reality of the implementation of Sharia law as being very drab and mundane: hardly the hotbed of insurgency conspiracy that some would like to believe.
[QUOTE]usually on these types of programmes they have either ignorant muslims who are so confused with the rulings of marriage and divorce that they think our laws are like that of the jews OR you have extremists who treat divorce just like the jews![/QUOTE]
To be fair, I'm not sure whether in the position to comment on this particular programme if you hadn't seen it.
[QUOTE]this means that the man may think he can beat his wife black and blue continually, and think she cannot seek a divorce...
ANY qualified GOOD islaamic scholar or court would issue her a divorce straight away, ESPECIALLY if he has been advised on how unislaamic it is to do such and he continues to do it!...[/QUOTE]
At the risk of going off-topic – or perhaps not – isn’t that actually covered in some Islamic writing, that a husband can beat his wife, but is governed by some guideline about how he does it or what he uses to beat her with?
[edit on 16-9-2008 by Merriman Weir]
[edit on 16-9-2008 by Merriman Weir]
Originally posted by eyescryforALLAAH07
and you see, unlike an "official court", the divorce is immediate with no waiting around... everything paperwork based would be sorted out in due course...
anyway, my mother told me the same thing was on GMTV one morning about a sister saying she had waited years to divorce etc...
however in islaam as we believe divorce to be the most hated of lawful things by Allaah, we DO strive to keep marriages together as much as possible, BUT if things are bad within the marriage and continue that way, she does have the right to seek a divorce...
it has happened many times in the u.k and DOES continue to happen
Originally posted by Merriman Weir
however in islaam as we believe divorce to be the most hated of lawful things by Allaah, we DO strive to keep marriages together as much as possible, BUT if things are bad within the marriage and continue that way, she does have the right to seek a divorce...
it has happened many times in the u.k and DOES continue to happen
There lies the rub, not for me, but also I think for some of the women in the programme. The male-dominated Sharia court seemed to want to keep marriages together, even when the women didn’t want to be part of that marriage. As you say yourself, the woman “does have the right to seek a divorce”, but seeking a divorce and actually being granted a divorce are completely different things.
"Among my followers the best of men are those who are best to their wives, and the best of women are those who are best to their husbands. To each of such women is set down a reward equivalent to the reward of a thousand martyrs. Among my followers, again, the best of women are those who assist their husbands in their work, and love them dearly for everything, save what is a transgression of Allah's laws."
It is a shame upon you that;
1. As a man, you hit a woman;
2. and that she is your wife;
3. and that she is pregnant.
You are to be blamed for all that (i.e nothing and no-one else for beating her)... You should endevour to reform yourself and until then behave. Offer your wife sincere apology and make up for the wrong you have done. You should also make istighfaar (prayers of seeking forgiveness) your entire life and regret the incident.
Beg Allah not to hold to and hold you back in His court on the day of judgment for abusing your wife.
Men who abuse their wives should never be unmindful of Allahs wrath and punishment.
Allah is All-Seeing and All-Hearing.
FEAR ALLAH.
and Allah Ta'ala (most High) Knows Best.
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Originally posted by eyescryforALLAAH07
well look who is nit-picking lol...
like i said if she is in the right it IS granted...
the reason why i said IF is because some women today are VERY materialistic, and it is NOT grounds for divorce if her husband doesn't give her tonnes of money each month, or doesn't buy her fancy cars etc...
neither is it grounds for divorce if he takes another wife as this is 100% ALLOWED in islaam, HOWEVER if he is unjust after taking another wife then YES it is grounds for a divorce...
i know of PLENTY sisters in the u.k who have been divorced immediately...
Originally posted by fozotronic
there will be poverty and despair wherever funamentalism predominates.
Originally posted by Merriman Weir
Originally posted by eyescryforALLAAH07
he male Muslim can be marriage to several women, but it seems strange to me, that a culture/religion that promotes the multiple marriages doesn't recognise polyandry.
oh... so YOU would marry a woman who is having regulard sex with another husband?
let's discuss polyandry shall we?
okay, if a woman has 2 husbands, HOW will she satisfy the sexual desire of BOTH when it is FACT that a woman has a lower sexdrive than a man?
HOW would you decifer who is the father of the child if she fell pregnant, especially if they are in a country where dna testing isn't present?
i find the idea of a woman having 2 men having their way with her DISGUSTING and against human nature!
men NATURALLY have an inclination towards more than one woman, they have a higher sexdrive etc, and even looking in the BIBLE it mentions that the prophets (aside from jesus) had multiple wives! peace and blessings be upon them all
the difference with islaam is that there is a LIMIT given i.e 4, AND the qur'aan CLEARLY states:
suraat an-nisaa (4)
1 O people! be careful of (your duty to) your Lord, Who created you from a single being and created its mate of the same (kind) and spread from these two, many men and women; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, by Whom you demand one of another (your rights), and (to) the ties of relationship; surely Allah ever watches over you.
2 And give to the orphans their property, and do not substitute worthless (things) for (their) good (ones), and do not devour their property (as an addition) to your own property; this is surely a great crime.
3 And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four; but if you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry) only one or what your right hands possess; this is more proper, that you may not deviate from the right course.
4 And give women their dowries as a free gift, but if they of themselves be pleased to give up to you a portion of it, then eat it with enjoyment and with wholesome result.
5 And do not give away your property which Allah has made for you a (means of) support to the weak of understanding, and maintain them out of (the profits of) it, and clothe them and speak to them words of honest advice.
i am sure that YOU wouldn't marry a woman who is married to another man!
the thought of such a thing makes ANY MODEST WOMAN'S skin crawl!
now, why is it okay for a woman to have a husband with more than one wife?
well, for starters women mainly crave EMOTIONAL support, and as long as the man is just between the 2/3/4, and the wives are close friends also, then this does not bother them if their rights are being fulfilled!
as Allaah Almighty has said "if you fear you cannot deal justly..." and this is exactly the case! as long as the man is JUST in dealing with his wives, yes there will be some form of jealousy as this is a natural reaction in this world, then there isn't much of a problem and the women merely observe patience and tolerance...
for the reasons i listed about polyandry, AND the faxct that it is prohibited by The Almighty, THIS is why we disagree with it...
and PLEASE, let us stay on topic and not keep deviating!
if nothing else is to be said with regards to the topic, then stop posting!
Originally posted by poet1b
reply to post by _Phoenix_
Good post Pheonix, I agree. Of those that defend Islam here, I respect you the most.
One thing though bud, you need to stop using female avatars. Guys are supposed to use guy avatars, or be prepared to be constantly thought of as a female.
Originally posted by Cythraul
Yes but it is not America that faces having it's land and culture turned into a giant mosque... and in fact, America has less history and less claim to its land than the white British do. We have SO MUCH to protect and preserve. I'm in support of smallscale, controlled immigration into Britain, but I outright oppose bogus asylum (where the seeker could find asylum in a more suitable country close to their homeland) and outright oppose mass-immigration and a multiculturalism where original British culture and peoples are no longer the dominant force in their own land. Every people and culture in the world deserves their own land where their own original culture dominates. As backed up by Phoenix's following statement:
I'm interested to know whether you would support the mass migration of say, British people to Morocco? I'm aware that a few have settled there or bought holiday homes. But what if the British made up a sizeable proportion of the population and began to expect equal ownership of the land, and started to call themselves 'Moroccans'? Is that a good way to ensure that 'each different culture' survives and maintains what is unique and wonderful about itself?
I'm sorry but global multiculturalism will lead to the rapid disappearance of all the world's beautiful unique cultures. Britain is first in line.
Originally posted by _Phoenix_
Wether you agree or disagee with this, it can't really change this fact sorry. We can only change the future. But for those non white people who are BORN here they have been here just as long as you white people have. It belongs to them just as much, because this country is all they know.