Why do I have to be alone :(

I'm a pretty nice guy, I have the ability to love just about anyone, but I've lost the ability to love a woman in a husband wife, boyfriend girlfriend, romantic sorta way. I still love women, but I love them the same way I love men, I just don't have it in me to be in a romantic relationship with them anymore, my heart is hardened I guess you could say. I have rather fragile emotions and I've had my heart stepped on by several women that I loved a heck of a whole lot. The girl that finally drove the last nail in my heart's coffin is Angela, she's the reason why I started to bleed internally ( imoved away and the bleeding stopped). I knew her for a long time and I fell in love with her over the years, we have so much in common and common goals in life that we could help each other reach. She rejected me, but told me she still loves me and wants to still be friends, this hurt me so much I don't even want to be friends with her anymore. We would be perfect for each other, but it takes two in that game. All women want is sex and money, they don't care about what's inside of the guy's heart. If your good looking enough you can be the biggest jerk in the world and women will flock to you, you can also buy any woman you want too. I've never seen any women that really care about who the guy is instead of what they can get (sex and/or money). All I want is a woman who love God with all her heart, doesn't care about haveing lots of stuff, wants to live poor, but give richly, wants to put a roof over someones head, a meal in there belly and hope in there heart, someone who is a freind to the friendless. I don't want some whore who wants everyones attention or wants to have things or money or popularity. There are people in need and all women think about is pleasuring themselves with having here men buy them junk all the time, none of the want to feed starving kids in Africa, or dig a well or put a roof over someones head or talk to that weirdo everyone avoids. No, women want to be popular, adored, orshipped. They could care less that there are children dying everyday because they have no shelter or food or someone to help them or clean water to drink. I love people, but I can't stand women, they make me sick . They are selfish and care nothing about others.
They care nothing about me, no women love me, I treat them with the same care I do for men, but they don't want to be anything more.
Why do I have to be so alone?

I do know at least one reason why, it's cause I'm fat, I'm not that good looking, I wiegh about 250, girls want those skinny little pale emo kids, I'm not that.
I wish I had a girlfriend, but if I did I'd be a horrible boyfriend seeign how I wouldn't really love her, do you see my predicament?

-Jimmy

All women want is sex and money, they don't care about what's inside of the guy's heart.

i dont want to sound like im disagreeing with you, but that kinda my experience with men

reply to post by miriam0566


Your not disagreeing with me, it's true, that is what a lot of men want too. I'm talking about "Christian" women more specificly though, none of them care about doing the things Yeshua said we should do.

reply to post by jimmyjackblack


what specifically do you mean?

reply to post by miriam0566


I'm refering to "The Least of These" passage and many of the other things He taught us, like lving poorly to help others and stuff like that, pretty much loving others like you love yourself. Do you feed yourself? then you should feed others. Do you clothe yourself? Then you should clothe others. Do you give yourself shelter from the elements? Then you should shelter others. You know that kinda thing, missionary work.

-Jimmy

One thing I would recommend is that you pray like I did.
"God if you want me to have someone, send me the right one ,someone who is spiritual, who I'm attracted to....
If you DON'T want me to have one, help me NOT want one and put my energies into something else."
I met my husband about 2 weeks later, at a prayer meeting.

My husband said, when we met that I was different from other girls like Sarah, Abraham's wife.
I was spiritually-minded, not out for a guy with a nice car or $$.

Psa 37:4 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

Check out some internet stuff. I personally don't think praying is going to get you anywhere.

Those Russian girls are pretty hot.

One of my friends is getting married next month, and he met her on eHarmony. She's really pretty too.

If your worried about your appearance change it and as for your attitude towards woman change that too.Its all up to you really!
I sometimes have the same views on woman as you, but weve all been burnt you just gotta hang in there.There are some gems out there but like finding diamonds you have to plow through tons of dirt to find one.If all else fails i read that cars make amazing lovers and companions.

reply to post by jimmyjackblack


sounds like you are looking for a very specific person, not everyone can be a missionary.

maybe just be patient?

Maybe it is because of the way you think of women, like calling them whores, for one. And thinking they are all bad, et cetera. This is reflected in your tone of voice and actions whether you know it or not and in body language whether you are aware or not.


Cheers!

Originally posted by princessjade
Maybe it is because of the way you think of women, like calling them whores, for one. And thinking they are all bad, et cetera. This is reflected in your tone of voice and actions whether you know it or not and in body language whether you are aware or not.


Cheers!

I tend to agree. I myself am experiencing a rough patch in a fairly new relationship and it is hurting me. That being said, i will make a choice that whether it ends or goes on, i will not give in to the part of me that wants to remember my partner in a negative light just so i can "turn down the volume" of the feelings i am experiencing. I will choose to remember the beautiful moments we shared which were real - and remind myself that not all poems rhyme, not all stories have a happy beginning, middle or ending - but that does not mean they are any less beautiful or don't offer us the opportunity to learn and grow.

Do not give in to the darkness - fill yourself with love and light towards someone who came into your life and maybe left - it is a lot harder to do but it means you will go into your future with less baggage.

Well, it's not as much of being single and having a hard time finding someone, it's the fact that I can't find it in me to love the way I used to be able to, I still love people, but it's not the same anymore. I feel like I'm always going to be betrayed and hurt by the poeple I love, so I can't completely trust anyone anymore, so there is a part of me that cannot connect the way couples do, it's a connection that goes beyond words, something I see others have, but I don't have and feel I never will.

I apreciate everyones encoragement though, it does mean a lot to me that there are people who care and care enough to offer advice.

Thanks,

-Jimmy

maybe u should change urself. u are probably doing something wrong. let me give u a good advise, dont be urself. find an alter ego and be that one. and stop being so needy, and stop complaining. and if u cant think of anything then do charity work, women like that one no matter what. see right now this is you >>> , but you need to be this >>>

My only advice is to find out who you really are. Until you figure that out you won't be truely happy. Stop pretending to be what you think you should be in the eyes of others.(unless your planning on going into politics) Once you accept yourself as the person you are right now and be content with it(positive self acceptance) , you can find the other person that compliments the happy you. Find a woman with the unhappy you, and once the new relationship excitement wears off, you'll probably find out you are just as happy as you were before the relationship. This is just my analogy on relationships and it works for me, I found my perfect match. You can't change a person they can only change themself, so why do you think they can make you happy if you weren't before. The right person just keeps you smiling.

If I have misread you, please take no offense to this. I only call it as I see it.

Originally posted by DuneKnight
maybe u should change urself. u are probably doing something wrong. let me give u a good advise, dont be urself. find an alter ego and be that one. and stop being so needy, and stop complaining. and if u cant think of anything then do charity work, women like that one no matter what. see right now this is you >>>

, but you need to be this >>>

Yeah, I guess I do need to learn to breakdance lol.
That would attract the ladies eh?



-Jimmy

reply to post by jimmyjackblack


I totally would like to share my life with someone like that as well. I don't think they exist or if they do they are an endangered species. If you did find a person like that you'd probably have to enter the octagon just to get to know them - the slime balls coulod possibly let something so pure go without corruption. Best of luck to ya...

So you still want to attract ladies and humor yourself at the same time by labeling them as selfish, greedy, evil, whores who want nothing more than sex and money.

You’ll need to do more with your attitude and find peace being alone rather than blame others for your misery, which hopefully will be temporary.

Anyway, the nice ones you seem to seek are those who devote themselves to the service of their ‘Lord’. But you can’t touch them.

Originally posted by pikypiky
So you still want to attract ladies and humor yourself at the same time by labeling them as selfish, greedy, evil, whores who want nothing more than sex and money.

why not it has worked for so many people

and for the op, are u employed or not makes awhole lot difference. seriously ur only chance is if u get rich, filthy rich. achieve that and money will get u everything, sometimes all at same time

if u cant do any of those things, u might as well become a catholic priest, at least u will get to have a better time in heaven presumably.

you know, I hate to post a one liner but...

Is it just me or are there increasingly more threads that are anti-women?

Do I need to make a thread ranting about how men can be total....well...you know whats? And how they are also money grubbers and hold double standards?

You want a woman? Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You want a woman? Stop holding double standards and stop labeling us as "whores" "sluts" "sex objects" "baby makers" etc etc etc.



[edit on 27-5-2008 by Chiiru]