A rant about FAT

I am so sick and tired of people assuming they know WHY I am "FAT"

"quit eatin' so much"
"excersize"
"Check your thyroid"

BAH!!!!!! I have done all that and I'm still a size 16 ok???

I wish to GOD people would realize that the images of these scrawny anorexic stars are just NOT normal!

I am BIG I am BEAUTIUL and beleive it or not I AM HEALTHY!


ok rant over....

i blame the new modern models
www.oum.ox.ac.uk...

thinking we all have to be bones i mean we are all allowed our own choices not limited to people like paris hilton or britney spears i think if i saw people overly anorexic i would well

At my absolute heaviest, I wore a size 16. Honestly, I didn't consider myself fat at that point. Maybe a little bigger than I would have liked, but I carried it well and maintained my proportions.

I'm smaller now, but at my absolute thinnest I can't go below a size 10 and still be healthy unless I want to work out for 3 hours a day (which I would consider obsessive). The only time I went below a size 10 was when I had depression - I lost my appetite and hardly ate anything, and threw up every morning before I went to work for about 6 months. Even after all that, I had a drunk guy at a party walk up and tell me that if I lost 10 pounds, I'd have a 'really hot' body.

I'll never be model skinny and I don't much care. Other people can go stuff themselves.

The cure all is in diet and attention to detail. Someone may think they're doing " a lot" in terms of eating properly, when if you analyze how and what they're eating, they're just perpetuating another unhealthy diet, but just not the way they were before. Very rarely are people just "naturally" big. I guarantee I could get anyone to an awesome natural carrying weight. Submitting to what one "thinks" is natural isn't the route either. And neither is the common misconception that you have to constantly work out to get the body of your dreams.

It's easier than people think, but people have a hard time booting complacency.

For my body, a size 10 is what I would consider a good weight. I enjoy having curves.

Medium frame, 5'4" 135 lbs is not overweight by any stretch of the imagination and yet there are people who think that is heavy. Looking at my diet the only thing I would consider cutting out based on calories is the milk, but being an aging female I have some concerns about osteoporosis in the future and I prefer to get my nutrients/vitamins/minerals in their natural form instead of supplements.

I'm on a mission. I want to get to the pearly gates, and have the guy with the key say: "Man you were lucky, one more day, and your liver would have exploded from all your party'ing."

I win, I win, I win. Then I want to ask him for just 23 hours and 59 more minutes. Please. :w:

reply to post by Duzey


This is exactly what I'm talking about. If you think milk or any dairy is going to save you, you have another thing coming. While you think you're doing a lot of good for your body in the long run, you're actually doing more harm then good. I've come to the conclusion that people are purposely misinformed and don't realize that they have to find their own truth, especially in regards to diet.

Originally posted by DeadFlagBlues
reply to post by Duzey

 

This is exactly what I'm talking about. If you think milk or any dairy is going to save you, you have another thing coming. While you think you're doing a lot of good for your body in the long run, you're actually doing more harm then good. I've come to the conclusion that people are purposely misinformed and don't realize that they have to find their own truth, especially in regards to diet.

so... milks not good for ya?? what are ya one of those crazy vegans??

I eat things that are low in fat and high in fiber and natural things like veggies and fruit. I do not drink alot of milk though I do on occasion have a glass...I do NOT eat fast food unless i can't avoid it, and then when I do I dont eat fries or onion rings or anything like that I usualy order a grilled chicken since it is grilled and not cooked in GREASEY OIL VATS I do NOT drink soda/pop/cola whatever you call it. I drink water, tea, coffee.. again NATURAL things so please I beg you to enlighten me on what exactly I
am doing so wrong that I would still be the size I am...

If it isn't genetics... which I am convinced it is... then please stranger tell me what I'm missing.... inform me so I can LEARN

[edit on 1/19/2008 by undiscoveredsoul]

reply to post by DeadFlagBlues


This is what I'm talking about.

I'm healthy and not overweight if someone has reasonable standards and still, I have someone thinking I need to be saved. My own truth is I'm perfectly heatlhy, get more than 45 minutes of exercise a day, don't eat crap and happy with my appearance.

What you or anyone else thinks is of little to no importance to my self image. I only wish that were true for all women.

you know what? I would be happy with myself too if people would just bug off about telling me how "youhave such a pretty face but if you lost a few pounds..."

GRRRRRR!! superficial ^*&%!

reply to post by undiscoveredsoul


I'm not sure why some people think making comments about a persons weight to them is anything but hurtful unless you're a close friend, family member or doctor.

I could understand someone making a smart remark if I were stuffing my face with cheeseburgers while complaining about my cholesterol but other than that, worry about your own health and keep your judgements to yourself.

reply to post by Duzey


I have no idea what you look like and could careless about superficial physical qualities. Even though you may think you're "healthy," by other standards you may not be. If you have excess fat or weight that can be shed, you might as well shed it. Being comfortable with yourself is a hard place to reach in life, but that doesn't mean you can't try and better yourself in all aspects after becoming content with yourself. I don't think it's wise to stop striving for excellence, physically, mentally, or emotionally.

Originally posted by undiscoveredsoul

I eat things that are low in fat and high in fiber and natural things like veggies and fruit. I do not drink alot of milk though I do on occasion have a glass...I do NOT eat fast food unless i can't avoid it, and then when I do I dont eat fries or onion rings or anything like that I usualy order a grilled chicken since it is grilled and not cooked in GREASEY OIL VATS I do NOT drink soda/pop/cola whatever you call it. I drink water, tea, coffee.. again NATURAL things so please I beg you to enlighten me on what exactly I
am doing so wrong that I would still be the size I am...

If it isn't genetics... which I am convinced it is... then please stranger tell me what I'm missing.... inform me so I can LEARN

[edit on 1/19/2008 by undiscoveredsoul]

Your diet is pretty healthy. Just omit the coffee and tea. Try not to eat too much carbs like bread, potatoes, rice, and anything sweet. Just wait patiently, you'll get there.

Originally posted by undiscoveredsoul

so... milks not good for ya?? what are ya one of those crazy vegans??

ding ding ding!!! we have a winner.
now my lovely assistant jane will show you what prize you have one.

/queue announcer: thats right bliv, and tonight our lucky guest has won a free set of steak knives. these ultra sharp knives can carve through the thickest, juciest steak you could ever imagine with ease. they are also great for spreading butter and condiments on your morning toast.

congrats!

reply to post by undiscoveredsoul


Yeah, I am Vegan, actually. I'm not saying "milk is bad" because I live the way I do. I'm saying "dairy is bad" because it is. The negative effects of dairy far outweigh it's positive effects. This is a whole other issue.

It could be a lot of things that is holding you back from a natural carrying weight.

How often you eat.
How active you are.
The quality and amount of food you eat.
The quality of water and how much you drink.
Caloric intake: Caloric output.

You may be eating what you think is "healthy," but true health is something that you'll never learn, especially following these damaging misconceptions about diet and what is healthy for your average person. A whole other set of principles is applied when you're talking about your average American.

If you're truly concerned about losing weight, I'm sure we could come to some resolve if you'd shoot me a U2U.

Originally posted by undiscoveredsoul
I wish to GOD people would realize that the images of these scrawny anorexic stars are just NOT normal!

you know why they look like that don't you? it's called coc aine.

Darlin, I wish I was a size 16!

Honestly, unless you are very short and have a small frame, I would not consider size 16 fat at all. I am 5' 7" and have a large frame and at my ideal weight, I am about a size 14.

Why they put sizes 12 through 14 in the plus sized stores is lost on me. I didn't consider myself fat until I hit size 18 when I was 19 years old, after I had my daughter. You are not fat honey, you are "volumptuous" and/or "thick". I am a size 26 and I still love myself and think I am beautiful. Trust me, I would rather be told I have a pretty face than to be skinny and look like someone ran over my face with a truck!

Deadflagblues, every one is different and everyone handles dieting differently. With that, I highly doubt your ideas work for everyone.

I have actually lost 10 pounds within the last few weeks because my fiance found out he had type 2 diabetes and we have changed our diets dramatically. Skim milk and other low-fat dairy foods are a big part of our diet, have been reccomended by the diabetes educater that he saw and has definatly made a difference on his health as well as mine (even though I still sneak a treat at work sometimes).

reply to post by snowflake_obsidian


Because you've talked to one "diabetes educator" and decided to run with it, that makes what you're doing more affective than all other diet plans? If your diabetes "educator" knew # about about it, he'd tell you that you don't have to live with it the rest of your lives and throw money down the drain seeing him/her and all the other ridiculous processes you have to go through being diabetic. Diabetes is curable. Weight will fall off of you if you eat properly. Carrying extra fat on your body increases the likelihood of problems down the road. But, all three of you can keep getting defensive and refuse to be more open minded to new ideas, especially those of which that may take more effort than you're seemingly used to.. Sounds like your perspective and openness has done a lot for you so far.

reply to post by DeadFlagBlues


Shed my excess fat! Are you kidding me?!?!?!?!??

Why on earth would I want to get rid of my excess fat? I love my breasts and hips! I'm terribly sorry if you have a problem with them, but it's exactly that - your problem, not mine.

As for my actual diet, in case you're curious as to why I carry that extra weight, here it is:

Breakfast - yogurt, banana, milk
Snack - carrots
Lunch - Almonds (15 - I count them out), broccoli, banana (I love bananas!)
Dinner - usually stir-fried veggies, sometimes soup and sandwich (always broth, never cream based), milk

I eat like this because it's extremely easy and being a single person, I don't have to worry about keeping food other people like in the kitchen. Once a week, I do have pepperoni pizza for dinner with my sister.

I'm sure I'm missing out a bunch of nutrients and minerals, but after eating all that broccoli at lunch and drinking lots of water throughout the day, I don't have room for much else. I'm not going to stress out about it though because no matter how healthy I get, I'm still going to die eventually.

Please stop trying to impose your view of excellence on me. I am not content, I am happy. They are two very different things.

reply to post by Duzey


Duzey, let's be real. I wasn't even talking to you. Notice that my posts were specified. If your aggressive tone and confrontational attitude don't cry insecurity, I don't know what does. If you were truly comfortable with yourself, I don't see why you'd be so irritated by these pretty modest questions and statements. Settle.