Prude girls help!

So here is a question for you... My girlfriend is prude(she won't go past second base). She is saving herself for marriage, but im not. we do talk about this everyonce in a while and she has these "morals" about these things, and i respect that. but the thing is im not like that and i want to convince her to "do stuff". she says she feels dirty after wards but shes never done anything before. What do i say to her?

[edit on 2/11/2006 by urbanoyster01]

Originally posted by urbanoyster01
What do i say to her?

[edit on 2/11/2006 by urbanoyster01]

Nothing, just dump her arse and get yourself a bad girl.

You say you respect her opinions but you don't.Uncle Kuhl says dump her your not compatable.

To say it in a more thought out manner... decide what matters. Would you rather have sex or be with her? You can't force her and if she doesn't want to change, she won't change. When she's ready she's ready and you just have to decide if it's worth the wait for you. If it's not worth waiting for, maybe she's not the right girl.

But honestly, I have no experience with such things so you can also decide to throw out my opinion.

For you right now, sex seems to be like air. its only important when your not getting any.

If having sex is more important than this girl, than there you go. If the girl is worth it, then wait. How old are you? If you are a young teenager, I would not waste your time because you probably won't be with her than anyways.

Hopefully your in your 20's and this relationship has been serious for a period of time.

My guess is your young and looking to rush it. I would say wait anyways, and make sure you make it count. If you guys are really young and she is determined to wait and you see no possibility of it, then move on.

I think this is something you should discuss with her, sit down and have an honest conversation.

[edit on 11-2-2006 by chissler]

Chissler is right on the money, don't try to force anything on her. If you already decided that you're going to get some no matter what, you're gonna have to find a different girl. If you really love her though waiting will be worth it.
Just get a tub of Vaseline and some paper towels, you'll be OK.

Pretty obvious answer here. As everyone else has said, if you can't wait, she's not the right girl for you and you're not the right guy for her. Move on.

Now that I think about I dont think its the sex or whatever that i want, i think i just want to understand why she wold feel "dirty." I dont expect you guys to know what she is thinking but I can't get an answer out of her. I just want to understand this logic. Yea I know sex isin't important and it can even F*** your life up royally if your not ready for the consquences to come, but im not looking for sex itslef, seeing im only in high school. It almost seems like she is paraiod about it. And that just confuses me even more....hrmm.

Sex is alot bigger for the girl than it is for the guy for the first time I would say. How would you feel if you had something inserted into you. Would you feel dirty?



Give her time and patience. Your only in high school. Let her know your rearin to go, I am sure she knows anyways. When she is ready, your good to go. Until then, keep it locked up or pack it up.

Don't get frustrated or mad at her for wanting to wait.

I see. Thanks for the input.

Whats this whole "second base" bollocks about?

In England, we don't tell our mates we got to "second base"... We tell them we got a blow job.....

I smell a mod edit.

My thoughts were that was third base. Up the shirt was a double.

Éirinn is an áit ar rugadh ( I was born in Ireland), but I live in America, yea the third base thing was what I was talking about. Thats the american term for blow-job/eating out.

Home base is where you film it and put it on the net right?

I'm clueles when it comes to the baseball analogy.

Originally posted by chissler

I smell a mod edit.

My thoughts were that was third base. Up the shirt was a double.

It wasnt that rude, was it? And someone moans baout his girlfriend being a prude!

So second base is just copping a feel of a boob? lol...... Sounds great.....

Its surprising you Americans actually have sex at all if it takes you that long to squeeze her boobs.... More or less guaranteed that within a week with an English girl and if you do get to second base, you can pretty much guarantee that 3rd and 4th base will follow the same night

It wasnt that rude, was it? And someone moans baout his girlfriend being a prude!

Nah I didn't find it anything but funny.

Its surprising you Americans actually have sex at all if it takes you that long to squeeze her boobs....

Im Canadian Eh!

More or less guaranteed that within a week with an English girl and if you do get to second base, you can pretty much guarantee that 3rd and 4th base will follow the same night

I don't see that as a good thing. I like the feeling that half the country has not been their before me.

So here is a question for you... My girlfriend is prude(she won't go past second base). She is saving herself for marriage, but im not. we do talk about this everyonce in a while and she has these "morals" about these things, and i respect that. but the thing is im not like that and i want to convince her to "do stuff". she says she feels dirty after wards but shes never done anything before. What do i say to her?

I say leave the girl alone and respect her principals? Is that so silly?

Do you have any?

I'm only 24 myself, and no stranger to ******* about, but the respect for women in this thread is severly lacking.


Go find youself a slut if all you want to do is shag around.


Just don't blame everyone else for the STD's.








[edit on 11-2-2006 by kegs]

Originally posted by urbanoyster01
So here is a question for you... My girlfriend is prude(she won't go past second base). She is saving herself for marriage, but im not. we do talk about this everyonce in a while and she has these "morals" about these things, and i respect that. but the thing is im not like that and i want to convince her to "do stuff". she says she feels dirty after wards but shes never done anything before. What do i say to her?

Why would you bother saying "i respect that' yet title the thread 'prude girls' and ask advice on how to change her mind? She said she feels dirty afterwards yet you want to keep pushing her? Some self service would solve your immediate problem.. long term either consider marriage or castration [some would say it's the same thing].. or get a girlfriend without self respect who doesn't mind being degraded by you.

:shk:

[edit on 11-2-2006 by riley]

If you keep pushing her then she may dump you. I dumped lots of guys until I could find one that would respect and adhere to my morals and values. The guy who waited for me until our honeymoon night gets all he wants and sometimes more,now...

She feels dirty because she has set certain morals for herself and when she breaks those morals she feels dirty...and not in a good way either.

You obviously have different morals therefore of course you are having trouble seeing why things would be different for her.

Did you know that she wanted to save herself when you started dating her?
If you knew that is what she was doing and you knew that you did not want to save yourself, why did you even start dating her in the first place?