I need some Wisdom and Understanding .

a reply to: hydr0cannibal

Thank you for sharing that experience . It's interesting I can literally feel your heart in this story.

As much of an affect that people have on me it does not compare to the Emotional affect that Animals have on me . The Purity and Innocence of Animals just as you said ' stabs me right in the 'Heart' .

Especially Cats and Dogs . We have a Kindred relationship with Cat's and Dogs they choose to place themselves close to Humans instead of remaining in the wild.

It's an inherent Trust that only Truly Dark people betray .

originally posted by: Xtrozero

originally posted by: asabuvsobelow

How do I move past this , how do I accept that other people's lives are not my responsibility . I cannot help but imagine her suffering when I’m trying to imagine a bright future for my family and I.

Do you also feel the pain and suffering of the 6 billon others that have a worst life than you do? Do you feel they are your responsibility too?

I call this the Bady Jesscia syndrome. In 1986 Baby Jessica fell down a small well, and it took tremendous effort to rescue her. The whole country watched in real time crying out to save her and when they pulled her out everyone cheered.

But what about the other 80,000 children that go missing or worst each year? Nothing...

When we focus on one then it is a big deal to us, but we don't care about all the others because they are not directly in our reality. I would say provide care and help at whatever level you can and tell yourself you at least help a little.

The other day an old lady was stuck at the gas pump with an empty tank, and her debit card wasn't working. She came up to me and was frantic and said she had to get her granddaughter, her card wasn't working, she had no gas..... etc All I said was "do you need gas?" She looked at me and just said...yes. I said OK not a big deal and pumped 40 bucks into her car and said have a nice day. Sometimes little things are big.

I see what you're getting at but no this not that type of situation mate.

I'm not transfixed on this particular story, I've seen horrible things in my life and I've heard much worse stories than the one In shared in my OP.

It's the Feelings it stirred inside of me . They were Feelings I didn't recognize , I wouldn't call it Empathy it was something foreign to me something I had never experienced . I can almost always Rise above my emotions and simply contemplate them as lessons from within .

but in this case I couldn't , In this case I had to face it head on .

a reply to: asabuvsobelow

Pain and sadness is the necessity which brings colour to love and joy

All we can ever do is try to be worthy of your graces

Make the world a better place tomorrow for our children, by us being here today

Feel the pain. Explore its depths, to try understand it

But do not allow yourself to become those pains, within seeking to know their measure

Do not lose sight of what pain is yours to carry

Or the love and light you are entitled to experience, to give our feeling such pain meaning

The most important lesson you can learn within the feeding of the empty, is to recognise and feel the things that others may be oblivious to, or not care about

It hurts having your heart forced open in this way

But it needs be contextualised

See the weight of the world, but do not take it on your shoulders

You'll understand what it is for in time, within the insight it will bring to your experiences

It should come to bring moments of beauty, that make recognising the depth of these pains worth it

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34:1
It took me a while to realise that all that I have become, is all of that which I used to think lesser. That I lost something while I was looking for something else

34:2
Every time I opened myself to something, it opened me to that something. Like watering a plant I know is poisonous, to know why it seeks to kill

34:3
Not to know the pain it brings, but rather the explicitness of its expression. Like opening a wound which may not heal, to see where mind and body meet

34:4
We are slaves to our own limitations, whether they be met by expectation or regard. It is life meeting expectation through consideration. It is stasis but also stative

34:5
You open passages which should not be entered, if no reason was given not to. Rules are the definition of their own necessity, or they need not be met

34:6
Their application cannot be in “want” lest it be submission to such

34:7
“Do what I say, not what I do” cannot be said, if I, or you, are capable of doing as is done. All who would restrict in such a way, should be contended as a matter of duty, if not of course

34:8
Binding of the mind can cut just as deep as those of the wrists, though it is our choice if we bleed in such a way. We allow doors to remain closed, if none choose to try open them

34:9
Holding yourself to the wrath of pain, makes you both more and less than its measure

34:10
A boundary that isn’t sought and challenged is non-existent, and a boundary which forces itself unjustly can never be kept

34:11
A boundary which shows no respect, will never receive it, and a boundary for preventing harm, cannot then be allowed to cause it

34:12
What is one person’s wine is another’s poison, and the measure of a victim lies within perspective

Proverbs 14:6,7:

6 The scoffer seeks wisdom and finds none,

But knowledge comes easily to the person with understanding.

7 Stay away from the foolish man,

For you will not find knowledge on his lips.

Today we live in a world that is going from bad to worse. As we get closer to the end of this system of things, world conditions will deteriorate and life will become more challenging. Such widespread abuse as described in the OP is clear evidence that we are living in the last days, a time when many have “no natural affection” and when “wicked men and impostors will advance from bad to worse.” (2 Tim. 3:1-5, 13)

There is hope however for those who seek out “the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our trials so that we may be able to comfort others in any sort of trial with the comfort that we receive from God.” (2 Cor. 1:3, 4)

Of course, the person who scoffs at the mere mention of this God or suggestion to seek comfort from Him, or the evidence for His existence (which is plentiful), qualities and attributes such as the one described above, will neither be in a good position to receive such comfort nor to find the wisdom “to comfort others in any sort of trial”.

They are more likely to fall victim to this form of idolatry:

“Me First”—Today’s Idolatry (Awake!—1979)

Many in our generation have lost faith in human institutions—government, laws, science, religion, marriage, and in people. Where to turn to fill the vacuum? Many are turning inward, to themselves. It is not new. It is only a revival.

THE creed of today’s me-firsters is relatively new for the 20th century. It rejects the regard-for-others approach that was more common earlier in this century. That code of ethics taught persons to think of others, to do good to others, to encourage them, and to fit oneself in with others. All of that is taboo with the new cult of “King Me.” While this extreme may be new for this century, it is not really new—only a revival. It is very ancient history repeating itself.

Here is a sampling of the new code of ethics, as gleaned from the current crop of self-help and self-awareness books:

“Looking out for number one.”

“Winning through intimidation.”

“Few of us learn how to use the world, instead of being used by it.”

“While it is possible to act in the best interests of others, the important thing to understand is that that will never be your primary objective.”

“Morality has very little to do with success.”

“You have the right to judge your own behavior.”

“Resolve to live up to a code of ethics that is self-determined, not one that has been imposed by others.”

“Guilt is an addictive drug as strong and as destructive as heroin.”

“Are you letting people walk all over you?”

“Revolutionary new techniques for getting your own way.”

When such pronouncements are made in the pages of the books, they are cushioned in a context that relieves them of their harshness. Often sound principles are presented that are helpful, and the intention here is not to categorize the entire contents as rank selfishness. However, the tenor of these books is exemplified by the above-quoted admonitions and query. These are the ideas seized on for the ads and jackets of the books to entice readers. These are the sentiments used as titles. These are the impressions left on readers. The mood permeating the followers of the new movement is one of exalting the individual in contrast to society in general. The same self-centeredness is found in movies, television, athletics, newspapers and magazines.

The Self-Awareness Workshops

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Television’s New Religion: “Feelgoodism”

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Tom Shales of the Washington Post wrote a column about television ads. Here are some excerpts:

“Perhaps never in history have so many been urged to feel so good about so little. That’s because TV ad men, who have always been involved in the politics of self, have discovered a new tool for moving merchandise. It’s the feelgood ad—the ad that tells you to feel good about just being you and about anything that will bring you closer to that goal, whether it’s deodorant, pudding or a new set of steel-belted radials. . . .

“Unquestionably there is a religious fervor to these spiels. . . . But what’s really being deified in the new ads is the viewer-consumer himself. . . . the dominant point is that extremism in the worship of self is no vice—is in fact a virtue— . . .”

THE ME-FIRST CREED

Love yourself.

Love without possessing.

Let your emotions flow.

Let it all hang out.

Be assertive.

Don’t feel guilty.

You decide right and wrong.

Do your own thing.

I’m okay, you’re okay.

Don’t judge.

Don’t preach.

Walk tall.

Live in the here and now.

This is it!