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how do I accept that other people's lives are not my responsibility
It seems to me that you have encountered a conundrum in your belief system. Are you looking for wisdom that will confirm your own belief system or wisdom that might cause you to question it more.
originally posted by: covent
a reply to: asabuvsobelow
Ask your fiance to please stop dumping these highly confidential facts about her clients lives on you.
If her employers have not provided suitable space for their workers to appropriately release professional angst (usually a 1-2-1 with a line-manager or specialist counsellor either within the company or via occupational health), suggest to her she find another job.
For dealing with how you feel right now, sorry, I have no answers. I am still haunted by things I have seen, experienced and even just read about. Deep empathy cannot be undone but is often accompanied by the capacity for deep joy.
Deep empathy cannot be undone but is often accompanied by the capacity for deep joy.
One option is to become a cold blooded psychopath and don't care about anyone except for yourself if you want to quickly move past it. From the tone of your OP this is not an option you want.