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originally posted by: JAGStorm
a reply to: DanDanDat
You can be gay and not have a boyfriend. But that being saud many gay people do announce they are gay by introducing their boyfriend. Some who might have boyfriend might choose not to use them as a means to announce they are gay because they don't want the two separate issues to be intermingled. Introducing your boy/girlfriend for the first time can be a separate issue for some people.
I guess that is the issue. If other's have problems with that, that is their issue.
I think in a way announcing it says "we're different, but we want to be the same"
Maybe I am a much more open minded person than most, I just don't care, I really don't.
originally posted by: TonyS
a reply to: JAGStorm
There's no winning with the Leftist gays. Not all are Leftists; I have had many right leaning gay friends and co-workers who have been generally accepted as just another member of the crew.
Me, I just keep myself to myself. Put on the big, flashy "I am Gay" act and I just walk away.
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: DanDanDat
On the flip side, it should also not be a big deal for someone to say, "So?" when someone comes out, too. Isn't that what the world is aiming for?
No one should get all bent out of shape when someone reacts that way. When you do, it reinforces the negatives people tend to feel about gays and their attitudes. If you want to be accepted as normal, then be happy when someone does it. Someone saying, "So?" is a sign of that.
Why do gay people have to announce coming out?
originally posted by: Sillyolme
Why do gay people have to announce coming out?
So relatives will stop asking when you're going to get married and have kids.
So people will stop asking questions about you not dating or finding a nice girl/boy.
Life is about a lot more than the orgasm and how you get there you know.
Who the # cares about this?
originally posted by: Sillyolme
Why do gay people have to announce coming out?
So relatives will stop asking when you're going to get married and have kids.
So people will stop asking questions about you not dating or finding a nice girl/boy.
Life is about a lot more than the orgasm and how you get there you know.
Who the # cares about this?
a reply to: JAGStorm
Lil Nas says that straight people do announce it by saying they have a girlfriend/wife etc. This is mental, truly mental.
originally posted by: DanDanDat
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: DanDanDat
On the flip side, it should also not be a big deal for someone to say, "So?" when someone comes out, too. Isn't that what the world is aiming for?
No one should get all bent out of shape when someone reacts that way. When you do, it reinforces the negatives people tend to feel about gays and their attitudes. If you want to be accepted as normal, then be happy when someone does it. Someone saying, "So?" is a sign of that.
Heart didn't just say "So?"; that's what his problem was. I heard the exchange on the radio. Heart was being a dick about it. That's part of his comedy routine; he purposely comes on strong and angry and loud. He tried to do that with Lil Nas and it didn't work out the way he would have liked it; but he still has to own that mistake. He knows he's in the public eye, he knows he's already on think ice for past homophobic statements he made and has apologized for. He should have known that it wasn't the best time to do his shtick.
Heart's case was not a simple matter of someone saying "so?" after finding out someone is gay.
originally posted by: JAGStorm
originally posted by: DanDanDat
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: DanDanDat
On the flip side, it should also not be a big deal for someone to say, "So?" when someone comes out, too. Isn't that what the world is aiming for?
No one should get all bent out of shape when someone reacts that way. When you do, it reinforces the negatives people tend to feel about gays and their attitudes. If you want to be accepted as normal, then be happy when someone does it. Someone saying, "So?" is a sign of that.
Heart didn't just say "So?"; that's what his problem was. I heard the exchange on the radio. Heart was being a dick about it. That's part of his comedy routine; he purposely comes on strong and angry and loud. He tried to do that with Lil Nas and it didn't work out the way he would have liked it; but he still has to own that mistake. He knows he's in the public eye, he knows he's already on think ice for past homophobic statements he made and has apologized for. He should have known that it wasn't the best time to do his shtick.
Heart's case was not a simple matter of someone saying "so?" after finding out someone is gay.
Recently Dave Chapelle did a joke on Asians, I laughed my butt off and I'm Asian! It was hilarious, his wife is also Asian.
We need to stop coming down on Comedians for their comedy and getting offended at everything. It's going to be a pretty un-funny world pretty soon.
I think that's a problem a lot of people have; when people truly don't care about someone else's skin color, sex, sexual orientation, disability, religion and ext they assume everyone else feels the same way and as a result think these issues are no big deal.
originally posted by: JAGStorm
a reply to: DanDanDat
I thank you for your thoughtful reply.
I think that's a problem a lot of people have; when people truly don't care about someone else's skin color, sex, sexual orientation, disability, religion and ext they assume everyone else feels the same way and as a result think these issues are no big deal.
Does coming out make those people that don't feel like the above people accept it anymore? I don't think that is the case, it might be the opposite. Or is it more that for the gay person it is something they need to do so there is no more doubt in anyone's mind.
I went to school with a guy. He was very stereotypical gay. Everyone knew, seriously everyone. When he came out in college, we were all shocked. Not because he was gay, but because we were confused who didn't know. Maybe it was just something he needed to do, but none of us understood it at the time. He later announced he had AIDs in the same manner, and had no clue how he got it. Yes, posted this to social media.