Coming to terms with the way people treat me

Peace through love.

a reply to: AlienVessel

Awesome bruh.

Do what thou wilt.

lemme know how it turns out.

a reply to: AlienVessel

Thing is, you want to be heard but you didnt make an effort to ensure people may take the time to listen.

Eg making it presentable by using paragraphs as no one reads walls of text.

Lysergic was like super gentle with you.

Adapt a bit, innit.

a reply to: AlienVessel

AlienVessel,

One of the most difficult things in all human interaction, is communication. With so much of our day to day, face to face communication being non-verbal, things can become twisted very easily. Also, when the balance of ones mind is not even, one can easily misread the intent of a persons utterances, even in person. Think then, how much more difficult it is to make oneself clear in plain text, such as this page is full of!

The poster who spoke of the importance of paragraphs MAY have been snarky, or may have been concerned that your manner of communication was unlikely to attract the sort of attention that you desired. Even in the event that this is not the case, that they were indeed being uncivil, are they wrong? Would communicating clearly aid, or harm your effort to gain some placidity?

It makes no sense to retreat away from us, just on the basis you suggested.

originally posted by: AlienVessel

originally posted by: Lysergic
a reply to: AlienVessel

Maybe if you learn to use paragraphs they might treat you mo betta?

You are CERTAINLY 1 of those people. I want to leave this planet because of you.

If a statement like that can bother you so much, you need to grow a pair.

I'm sorry, but you are a snowflake. The world is what we maker of it. Get off the dope, get a job and stop worrying about what others think about you.

a reply to: AlienVessel


Ummm...thank you for posting...One of the things I took from your post...was that you were allowing others to control your peace of mind...

You need to get back on track and realize that what you are surrendering is choice...You have fallen under the illusion that external influence controls the internal...
It's just the opposite my friend...YOUR the one at the helm of your personal ship...YOU make the decisions...YOU...decide to either give others space within your construct...or not

Step back and take a look at what you wrote...it's classic surrender...impersonating as a defense mechanism...
These words that others utter...these actions that they portray...are not a part of you...unless you bring it within...unless you internalize what they portray...and exemplify that internalization by using methods to mask that pain and loneliness that you...choose...to gain foothold within your psyche...

It sounds like you already have the tools to grow beyond this turmoil...you just have to put down and put away those corrupting influences...
You should be able to walk amongst the crowd and not let it detrimentally affect you or your inner state...Like a rock in the midst of a raging river...that the river parts around and flows on as the rock remains...steadfast...

Choose what and who you wish to be...
Decide to be that peace filled individual...
Take up Joy...peace...and compassion...

You forget compassion...remember it again...

Be a "light within the light"...






YouSir

Words to remember....

Don't keep your anger bottled up...I don't. Beer, wine, spirits belong in bottles and I don't keep them bottled up because I drink them to escape the inanity of people who incessantly recite metaphors in every conversation.

No one can get inside your head and hurt you. It's only you in there. We supply our own internal thoughts and pain.

By the way.... have you ever played dodge ball?

I think they invented dodge ball in the opium dens. Someone would mess with somebody, and somebody would hack off their head and kick it around the den.
It relieved alot of tension. Kinda messy though.

a reply to: AlienVessel

It sounds to me like, and just go with me here, you don't really have much peace. You cannot have peace with God through the works of the law. The law is a schoolmaster pointing us toward Jesus Christ.

And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7

These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. John 16:33

And having food and raiment let us be therewith content. 1 Timothy 6:8

a reply to: AlienVessel
Timothy 3:1-5
But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people. ---perhaps we are entering these times.

Don't let it get you down.

And yeah, make some paragraphs out of the wall of text, it is hard to read. You need to learn how to divide the content so we can read it without getting tired eyes, I used to do that and people steered me into fixing the problem.

It sounds very much as if you are suffering from severe depression OP.

There is help available. I urge you to seek it out. Medication, meditation, talking therapies, good food, regular exercise. All of these things can and will significantly improve your life and how you feel about it.

Good luck to you.

originally posted by: AlienVessel

originally posted by: Lysergic
a reply to: AlienVessel

Maybe if you learn to use paragraphs they might treat you mo betta?

LOOK PEOPLE! I CAME ON HERE TO SEE IN THERE WAS ANY GOOD FEEDBACK FOR MY PAIN.

AND I FOUND THIS!

NOW I AM GOING BACK TO THE WORLD AND I AM GOING TO ENCOUNTER MORE PEOPLE LIKE THIS - WHO JUST WANT ME TO FEEL WORSE.

But that's the point. You're using this as a tool to ask others to have pity on you. Isn't that really just a form of selfishness? I'm not trying to put you down, i'm simply calling it as I see it.

Sure you may be a good person, that I will not argue. You say you "have peace through rightous deeds", but it looks like you don't have any peace at all. Peace is found in oneself and not the actions of others. Peace means peace.. You're suffering = no peace. Your own choices and mind set make you feel how you want to feel against the things that you can not control in the world around you.

If you want advise, the way you posted about yourself really gives the impression that it's all about you... you maybe could have worded things a lot differently instead of a 'woe is me' sounding post.

Hey look, I really sympathize with you. Getting treated like dirt sucks, especially when it's because of your own personal beliefs. However... It's the world we live in. Everyone deals with it in the same abundance, even though it might not be in the same way. I'm not going to tell you to get more self-esteem, have thick skin or anything of the sort. That would be selfish of me because no one can control all of their feelings. It's that simple. We are all different and it would be wonderful for the world to accept each and every one of us how we want to be accepted.

I will only say... Perhaps word things in a different way and read them from a different pair of eyes to see how it comes across before you send it, when writing about personal feelings and something that holds such depth and importance to you.


Good luck! I mean that. We all deal with this pain in many ways, some of us more than others.

Aww don't be so hard on Lysergic. He was offering you advice in a humourus way.

He's our resident smart ass. Always good for a laugh

I will say one more thing and this is VERY important.

Understand that things get easier as time goes by and as your knowledge and wisdom expands by the years. Patience is a hard thing to obtain. I know... I delt with this ugly lack of patience all of my life. It comes with being human. Life is going to suck but you can find joys in it no matter what gets thrown at you. Sometimes when you ask the universe (God or whatever you believe) for wisdom, you get that wisdom through life's experiences. Many bad, many good. Just remember, you're built to take it no matter how it comes and you're built to learn. It's only the actions of others that can harm us.

Never forget... When things get too tough and you feel like you can't take it anymore... I don't condone medication, but sometimes we just have to submit and admit we simply can't handle it.

It took me 40+ years to finally say "I give up... I can't do it anymore... I just don't have the strength". I had to go to a doctor and get prescribed anti-anxiety and anti-depression medication to help. I woke up one day and said "Oh $#!^!!! Why didn't I do this 40 years ago! So THIS is what normal feels like!!!".

It's ok to be stubborn and hard headed... Just not to the point of forsaking your own health and outlook on life. We're not perfect, no matter how much we try to obtain perfection and a good way of living. We're just not. Sometimes we need something to help. Me? I HATE HATE HATE taking any medication because I don't like potential side effects and it's not natural. But.... Neither is anxiety. I mean... If I had an open world where I could run around all day, perhaps that's what I need, like a dog running all that excess energy off, but I can't nor do I have that kind of stamina. It affected more than just the energy I had built up. It affected me physically and mentally. I had the same mindset JUST LIKE YOU where I worried what everyone else thought about me and I couldn't understand how others could go without worrying about every single thing around them.

Man... It was madness. I thought I was broken, no matter how much good I wanted to do, no matter how deeply I felt for others around me and the sadness they endured. I couldn't understand why no one else saw the world like me.

Some of us are special. Some of us, like me, just can't handle that kind of awareness. If sympathy hurts, do something about it. Don't let pride stand in a way.

Like another responder says... You may be in depression. It sounds a lot like what I used to think about every day but it always stayed buried in me and I never had a release. Choose your release even if it requires medication so you don't release it all in a bad way by harming others.


ETA: I'm not telling you that you need help... I'm only offering my experience in case it makes sense to your own situation. The only other advise I can offer is... Don't let it get to you. Find a way to stop it from getting to you. Understand they are not you and you are not them and that's OK. The world revolves around the sun. The world evolves every day (or devolves it seems). Friends will come and go as will your choices in life. What is around you today may not be in 5 years. One day you're surrounded by friends. The next, you'll live in a world where you might have a couple that you see rarely or allowed yourself not to both with them at all.

If you medicate to take the edge off... at least do it the right way. "Drugs" is not the way and never was. Been there and learned the hard way. You don't always come out the same and often times you come out with far less... Memory... Speach... Ability... Personality... All long term affects of bad choices.

a reply to: AlienVessel

I am sorry that you are having such a hard time. I am a sensitive person too. It seems like we have to work harder to take care of ourselves. If we can learn to redirect the energy of our attackers, instead of internalizing it, I think our chances are better in the long run. It's a process. Don't give up. Don't give in.

I'm not here to pat your hand and say " There,there..." People who truly attain peace from God or otherwise, do not judge others based on their words or actions, even if they disagree. Even if they are met with hatred in the world..they emanate peace. I fail to see that in your posts. I see hatred. I see a tantrum throwing child. I see someone who needs to look in the inside for the validation you claim the world owes you. Other people are not responsible for your happiness, you are. Seek help, please...and not on the internet.

a reply to: AlienVessel
Online is the last place to find nice people.

People target those who they perceive as weaker than them and an easy target for them to boost their self esteem. Even a very shy passive introverted person would likely succumb to demeaning another who is even less confrontational than themselves. Like a pecking order. You likely have a handful of friends, one or two of them who will receive more ridicule from yourself than others. It could be as simple as making them the brunt of a seemingly innocent joke or jab more often than the others.

It could be a sibling, it could be your child. A truly powerful person feels no need to belittle, ridicule, tease, harass, or otherwise bother anybody who is less threatening than themselves. On the contrary, they seek those who are a bigger challenge, who bother others. I always enjoyed bullying the bully, and keeping the underdog close as a good friend.

I refuse to tolerate assholes in public who for whatever chain of events begins to harass an innocent bystander that does not bite back. It can happen on a city bus, or a local corner store/gas station, at the mall or a basketball court. I do not see it frequently at all, but on the rare occasion I have seen it, I choose to interject myself into the equation and see if we can escalate to my knuckles on flesh. Once confronted though, it pretty much never does.

Last month I walked into a gas station with a ski mask on because it was cold outside, like in the forties. And I thought it would be funny to see peoples reactions. The attendant was a gentle speaking eastern fella, perhaps India, Bangladesh or Nepalese? Who knows. Some lady is righteously upset to him about her scratch off ticket because it won't scan and she swears she won. He is being patient with the verbal abuse until he drops an F-bomb towards him. I believe his words were something like "NO! Don't #ing me! You need to have respect, don't believe because I work in gas station you can can use these words to me! You should have respect!" She just shutup and left. I just laughed and then told him I need ten on six. No comment on the mask, what a shame.

Speak from the heart, and respond to every slight, no matter how meager it may sound as an offense. The more you ignore it, the more others feel empowered to make you their own emotional punching bag. Before there were so many damn cameras I would just shove somebody once, hoping they return the favor and then throw a punch. Now people are all like "hey man, I won't go down to your level" and then walk away or people start busting out their cell phones. People are uptight because they arent allowed to fight randomly like they used to damnit!! We are human, we are supposed to fight aggression when it is targeted at us. Sure sparring at the gym is good stress relief, but it does not solve the problem of setting a proper example to strangers in a random encounter on the consequences of lacking respect.

We need to be allowed to fight in public again without the cops scouring social media to arrest our asses in three hours or less! OP, just be more confrontational. Do not bottle in the anger with prayers and wishes that karma will find them. You are the Karma, smack them with it!

a reply to: AlienVessel

My experience was different. I dont know you but I hope this helps.

3 prayers of an atheist: Help. Thanks. Wow.

3 universal meditations across all faiths.

Remember to : Be humble. Be grateful. Be amazed.

If you ever realize you arent doing these things then stop and try to.

a reply to: tadaman

Remember to : Be humble. Be grateful. Be amazed. If you ever realize you arent doing these things then stop and try to.

Best advice I’ve read all year . Thanks for posting it.