Married couple divorce to prevent their girlfriend getting jealous

originally posted by: loveguy
It looks like a homewreckers academy to me.

I think you and a few others got it. While I do agree that a poly relationship can work and under the right circumstances, this story is doubtful to be one of them. Also, Dragonridr pointed out, he's just the third wheel at this point.

IMO the trust that bonds any/all relationships has been broken. However one might try to mend it, the break will still be there. From what I saw, he would much enjoy keeping this together but they are not.

Doublemint Gum

a reply to: enlightenedservant

Amen. (pun intended)

The only big difference of mankind now is with the Internet we can see varying examples of all "sins".

Oh and that people bitch about what others do while the elite laugh and cash checks because all eyes are on petty issues instead of I don't know..... Voting, and beyond that, informed voting.

originally posted by: HeathenJessie
a reply to: thesaneone

That's funny - what does an abused kid look like, exactly?

Withdrawn, distant. Avoiding eye contact. Not smiling readily. Apathetic emotional affect. Robotic behavior. If the abuse is physical, there will be evidence of it, so inappropriate attire for the weather such as long sleeves in summer are a common way to hide bruises or lacerations. Abusers seem to like the upper arms for some odd reason.

In other words, they look absolutely nothing like these smiling, present, engaged and happy children. I'd have a hard time believing these kids are being mistreated in any way.

a reply to: TinySickTears

They probably think lesbians are sick.

a reply to: MisterSpock

It seems like a good idea now. But in 10 or 20 years this relationship will be like having 2 wives asking you to do stuff. NOT GOOD!!!

< Looks up,notices happy polyamorous family >

M'kay then. Whatever floats the boat.

< Shrugs & goes back to taking care of my own s# >

originally posted by: Peeple
a reply to: HeathenJessie

What's important for the kids is stability. Their grown-ups have to be reliable and there for them if they need hugs and talks and patches.
In this family constellation talking about feelings is probably a lot more dominant and healthy in the every day life than it's in a white fence father alcoholic mother pain drug adict kind of "ideal" situation.

It won't stop with this divorce so how can we say it's stable.

a reply to: Abysha

You refer to monogamy and polyamory as both sides of the same coin. Where I think you mean polygamy, polyamory. the 'amore' doesn't seem to be there, if you can just pick and choose.

Seems almost as if the love aspect of it is beside the point. And that's part of why I have an issue with some things like this, you can love many people, but being IN love is not something so meaningless that you can think "Oh I'll go with bob, betty, ralph and julie tonight. my fam." and expect people to see it as true love.

But I'm just a boring old fart.

a reply to: enlightenedservant

Oh well if we're going back in time to when people spoke to burning bushes and nailed people to crosses and stuff, why not take the Mayans for good measure. We can sacrifice people as long as they're consenting. All is good, and we can look at some brainwashing manual in order to justify everything.

originally posted by: Edumakated
Let's be honest... most men are thinking this is one lucky SOB. The women aren't 10s, but they aren't exactly ugly either. He did get the Holy Grail. [snipped]

* note to anyone saying this is anything about love. ^ that's the reality of it. It has nothing to do with polyamory. It's just an excuse to indulge in a sexual fantasy and call it normal family behaviour.

Boring.

Who gives a crap about complete strangers relationships.

What is next up the pike..? As long as the kids are willingly participating in sex and everyone is enjoying themselves AND no one is getting hurt .. why the hell should anyone care.. right ?

Our sexual morals are slowly declining where this could be an actual scenerio in the future...if it isn't already, in some families ...but who cares 🤷🏻‍♀️

God does 😕 .. and its sad to see the sacred love of one man and one woman who build a family based on those sacred family values going down the drain.

a reply to: Sheye

You know that married people have routinely had side partners for all of recorded history, right? The only difference in this specific scenario is that both partners are open about it. Besides, I think it's far more ethical to be open about it than to sneak around on the side with a mistress, sugar daddy, "handyman", prostitute, etc. This arrangement should also reduce or eliminate the chances of catching and spreading STDs since all partners involved are upfront about the situation.

Though it's a bit odd that you're making this religious when even some prophets openly had multiple wives. Solomon even supposedly had a full harem with 1,000 wives & concubines!

a reply to: CriticalStinker

That bit about ol' Abe made me chuckle
Imo,it's a case of live and let live.Yes it's not the traditional family set up but in recent years children have been raised by gay/lesbian couples and in unconventional households and they don't seem to be worse off for it.As long as children grow up raised by loving parents or other caregivers they usually end up fine.

a reply to: Sheye

Maybe "god", if he gave a eff for the human race,would've had Much bigger concerns than this type of thing.I could list quite a few but i don't have an hour to spare right now.

originally posted by: enlightenedservant
a reply to: Sheye

You know that married people have routinely had side partners for all of recorded history, right? The only difference in this specific scenario is that both partners are open about it. Besides, I think it's far more ethical to be open about it than to sneak around on the side with a mistress, sugar daddy, "handyman", prostitute, etc. This arrangement should also reduce or eliminate the chances of catching and spreading STDs since all partners involved are upfront about the situation.

Though it's a bit odd that you're making this religious when even some prophets openly had multiple wives. Solomon even supposedly had a full harem with 1,000 wives & concubines!

Solomon was punished for having multiple wives. Jesus made it clear that marraige should be between one man and one woman.

originally posted by: thesaneone
Who cares.

Best post of the thread.

I sure hope the OP never looks up swinger culture... It may shock him.

originally posted by: Raxoxane
a reply to: Sheye

Maybe "god", if he gave a eff for the human race,would've had Much bigger concerns than this type of thing.I could list quite a few but i don't have an hour to spare right now.

God has many concerns for the human race but he allows free will. Multiple sexual partners is a free choice with its own problems.

Time will reveal this within that family just as it has in others. Talk to children who grew up in these types of relationships with parents and the majority would rather have had a traditional set of parents. There are children disgusted by their parents sexual behaviour and hate that they had to grow up and witness such disfunction and perversity 😕

a reply to: Sheye

I can find children who disprove of ANY parental situation they may have lived through growing up. Pointing out examples of kids disapproving of having more than two parents (actually you didn't even do that, you just hinted that they existed) doesn't magically prove your point that a family of 1 dad and 2 moms is unhealthy in any way.