Married couple divorce to prevent their girlfriend getting jealous

a reply to: Abysha

No, no that was spot on.

I can't offer you a coffee, but here

On further examination, this guy might actually be a genius.

In the audio world, an ongoing issue with some frequencies is having colliding waves cancel each other. If this happens in certain areas of a room, you could in effect not even hear the frequency at all.

I wonder if he's found a way to position the women at a perfect distance apart facing each other, while he stands in the middle. While the nagging ensues, he would hear both of them, one from each side. Though taking a step back, if their frequencies are close enough, it might actually cancel out and he would hear perfect silence.

Amazing!!!!!

Fun fact, the above rambling mess contains more science in it then the "hit" new netflix series "Bill Nye saves the world."

a reply to: HeathenJessie

How dare they expose their children to that filth... morally bankrupt idiots. Western society is built on the materialistic tenets of satanism.

originally posted by: Mousygretchen
a reply to: HeathenJessie

How dare they expose their children to that filth... morally bankrupt idiots. Western society is built on the materialistic tenets of satanism.

Because they like to get freaky?

a reply to: Mousygretchen

I'm really surprised you feel that way? Both women are bisexuell. How could a bisexuell be happy if not able to be l8ving both sexes?

originally posted by: Mousygretchen
a reply to: HeathenJessie

How dare they expose their children to that filth... morally bankrupt idiots. Western society is built on the materialistic tenets of satanism.

Clearly, children that are exposed to self-righteous assholes of parents turn out so much better.

originally posted by: Abysha

originally posted by: HeathenJessie

originally posted by: Abysha

originally posted by: HeathenJessie
a reply to: Abysha

In the video, how they are talking about their relationship would suggest that sex is indeed a very large part of it.

Did you watch it? They intentionally set out to find another partner to share, and had several failed attempts before finding this particular lass.

In the poly community, these people represent a bit of a conundrum. The married-couple-looking-for-the-bisexual-woman-unicorn is a tired trope and normally illicit an eye roll from most. It's because it's the most common for people who are trying to fix their marriage with something that won't work. However, there are some exceptions where they are genuinely poly, as in this case.

So honestly, I hate how this particular arrangement is always the one paraded around to represent polyamory but it doesn't make it any less valid.

But your critique on them is that they were setting out to look for a "partner to share". Isn't that what everybody does? Most people won't marry or commit to people they aren't sexually compatible with. Why should they be expected to?

Everybody is looking for a partner to share? No, on the contrary, most of the people I know of expect their partner to be faithful to them, only.

I've never known or seen an arrangement like this, personally.

That last sentence is awesome, though : Most people won't marry or commit to people they aren't sexually compatible with. Why should they be expected to?

They are sexually compatible, they had 3 kids and were married for 12 years... so I don't really get your point on that.

You've probably been the most informative and constructive person to take part in this thread, though. I appreciate that.

I was afraid I wouldn't come across very clear and I was right. I didn't mean that everybody is looking for somebody to share. I was responding your statement about them "trying out" different partners. I was just saying that's what we all do, whether you're poly or mono.

Also, I wasn't saying the married couple wasn't sexually compatible; I was saying they shouldn't be expected to be in a serious relationship with another partner who isn't.

Did that make more sense? Ugh... I didn't have nearly my normal dose of coffee today.

It's not too late to hook up that mainline coffee drip

The biggest gripe I have with this is issues of long-term stability. I don't see this as being a long-term stable thing between the adults. Now, if there were no kids involved, it wouldn't be a big deal, but there are, and kids like stability.

What message does it send when one day, they wake up and one of the adults is gone? How are they going to view the other two from then on?

That creates a subtle psychological strain.

Let's be honest... most men are thinking this is one lucky SOB. The women aren't 10s, but they aren't exactly ugly either. He did get the Holy Grail. [snipped]

I don't really have an issue with it. Men have always had multiple wives and consorts. I think it is natural. However, our societal values have tried to suppress it which is why cheating is so rampant.

As for the kids, who knows if it really affects them or not. My guess is it will to some degree (especially as they get older and other kids start to tease them since it isn't a societal norm). However, kids most surely have been raised by multiple women in the past, so it may not be all that negative. Really not enough data to know one way or the other. However, we do know how screwed kids are from single parent homes so I wouldn't be surprised by any negative effects.

originally posted by: Abysha
a reply to: HeathenJessie

This isn't as weird as you think. My ex-spouse and I were in a similar situation (In fact, they are still together, hah!). Once you start living a polyamorous life, you end up meeting a lot of families like this. I'm almost monogamous now but most of my friends are now like this. After a while, monogamy and nuclear families just look and feel so limited and dysfunctional.

It's only weird if you bought our society being, hook-line-sinker, the way we never were. We were never a nuclear family society that functioned in a non-oppressive way. I bet you money that family is more functional and happy than the average American "family values" home.

Were any of you ever jealous of the other?

a reply to: HeathenJessie

If its a loving relationship and not purely about sex or some sot of BDSM thing, then I doubt very much whether the kids would be harmed by it.

The only downside would be the mickey taking off other kids at school, but selling their story to the press probably means the kids are up to their ears in Xboxes and nice holidays so it's probably not too much of a bind.


I can just imagine what my Mrs would say if I broached the subject though...Well, she probably wouldn't say much, just go for the knife drawer.

originally posted by: EdumakatedLet's be honest... most men are thinking this is one lucky SOB...

Speak for yourself, ...some of us may be thinking: "Not one yammering wife driving me mental but TWO yammering gasbags, that poor bugger"

originally posted by: Leonidas

originally posted by: EdumakatedLet's be honest... most men are thinking this is one lucky SOB...

Speak for yourself, ...some of us may be thinking: "Not one yammering wife driving me mental but TWO yammering gasbags, that poor bugger"

And you never even mentioned the fact that he has TWO mothers in law

a reply to: SprocketUK

*Shudder*

"The Horror...The Horror"

originally posted by: IAMTAT

originally posted by: Abysha
a reply to: HeathenJessie

This isn't as weird as you think. My ex-spouse and I were in a similar situation (In fact, they are still together, hah!). Once you start living a polyamorous life, you end up meeting a lot of families like this. I'm almost monogamous now but most of my friends are now like this. After a while, monogamy and nuclear families just look and feel so limited and dysfunctional.

It's only weird if you bought our society being, hook-line-sinker, the way we never were. We were never a nuclear family society that functioned in a non-oppressive way. I bet you money that family is more functional and happy than the average American "family values" home.

Were any of you ever jealous of the other?

Only at first because we're all programmed to feel that by our culture. But eventually, you learn about compersion and how wonderful it feels to see your significant others happy and in love.

Having partners who are completely content makes your own relationship with then even better. And nobody has to be everything to anybody else, which isn't possible, anyway.

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originally posted by: Abysha
a reply to: HeathenJessie

This isn't as weird as you think. My ex-spouse and I were in a similar situation (In fact, they are still together, hah!). Once you start living a polyamorous life, you end up meeting a lot of families like this. I'm almost monogamous now but most of my friends are now like this. After a while, monogamy and nuclear families just look and feel so limited and dysfunctional.

It's only weird if you bought our society being, hook-line-sinker, the way we never were. We were never a nuclear family society that functioned in a non-oppressive way. I bet you money that family is more functional and happy than the average American "family values" home.

I'm poly and i'm Bi. Tonight I am going to fluid bond with Jessie.

originally posted by: sputniksteve

originally posted by: Abysha
a reply to: HeathenJessie

This isn't as weird as you think. My ex-spouse and I were in a similar situation (In fact, they are still together, hah!). Once you start living a polyamorous life, you end up meeting a lot of families like this. I'm almost monogamous now but most of my friends are now like this. After a while, monogamy and nuclear families just look and feel so limited and dysfunctional.

It's only weird if you bought our society being, hook-line-sinker, the way we never were. We were never a nuclear family society that functioned in a non-oppressive way. I bet you money that family is more functional and happy than the average American "family values" home.

I'm poly and i'm Bi. Tonight I am going to fluid bond with Jessie.

Consent, Steve, consent!

It looks like a homewreckers academy to me.

originally posted by: Peeple
a reply to: Mousygretchen

I'm really surprised you feel that way? Both women are bisexuell. How could a bisexuell be happy if not able to be l8ving both sexes?

I don't think the ladies are bi. Seems to me they are far more interested in each other than him. He's got a big supreme when the divorce is all settled I think.