Well. My life is pretty much over...

it's just a tough period, everythig will be fine

Have you ever thought about coming to the states?

It's spring , there are jobs for intelligent / skilled people, and our woman love the accent of your speech.

Seriously though, give it a thought. What's better than a complete new start? When it all goes to pot, true adventure is a great way to clear your head and reignite the fire inside.

And I wasn't kidding about our woman.
You'll probably have pry em off you!

Best of luck, and keep your chin up.

a reply to: JimmyPilkington

Sorry. ..but to me? It looks like you're being given a clean slate to start over

No consolation..but look at it that way.. .you can go anywhere and do anything. ....

Good luck.. .MS

a reply to: GinFab

Indeed it will.

With the provisor ... that a positive attitude is conciously enforced.

Baby steps ...

a reply to: CulturalResilience
This^^ and if the company you were working for has not been wiped off the books and if it was making money, why not try to take it over and become the owner (if you want to). A good lawyer should help in this aspect.

Who's to say that the owners that "disappeared" aren't deceased?

a reply to: BuzzyWigs

Thanks buzzy, nice we can agree on something
Nice we can agree that life is worth working hard on if we want to achieve something rather than giving up.
It's important to know that what we go through today makes us better in future, providing we learn our lessons

Anyway, that's meant for everyone, not just you and I

Been there , done that , got the scars and T-Shirt to prove it . Do as I did, chant " when you are standing on the bottom , there is no way to go but up"
Peace to you and yours.

Pick yourself up and go out and get another job. Don't be feeling sorry for yourself. When you find the new job, you will find a new girlfriend there. Stewing around the house is not acceptable. Do you qualify for unemployment insurance?

Even if you do it is better to go look for work. We only have a few needs in this world. Warmth, food, someone to talk to and something to do. Might as well get paid for what you are doing.

Your life isn't over unless you let it be over. You will find something shortly. It sucks that your employer left. Hopefully they paid in your taxes if they took them out.

Sorry to hear dude, I'm sure you'll pick yourself up and be in a better place than you are now.

a reply to: JimmyPilkington

It's more like this phase in your life is over. This, too, shall pass. Stay strong. Something will come along.

a reply to: JimmyPilkington

when life kicks your ass, you kick back.

Sounds like the hand dealt you sucks. And it sounds callous, but what doesn't kill you literally does make you stronger (and more introspective, and more compassionate towards others....it does make you better to face adversity).

Hang in there, and keep grinding. Whatever skills you have, polish them, put them on display, and find a job to make ends meet in the meantime. In between executive level jobs i worked as a clerk in a payday loan store, as an employee of a former employee of mine. Do whatcha gotta do to feed the kids, you know?

I cant really offer you anything other than my sympathies, and of course a few memes!

a reply to: Butterfinger

but those are great memes.

good, find a new job you love, even if its for less money. crash with a friend or parents till you land the new gig, save up about 5k before moving so you have 2 months rent ahead.

find a job that is more fun and relaxing, again, even if its for less money.

as for a girlfriend, i indulge in escorts inbetween girlfriends. its the perfect way to never have to talk to your ex ever again, AND it keeps you smooth while on dates with new girls, because you know you have that in your backpocket.

No,things will change and you will find your niche in the changed life. You will be fine,i very much got that impression while reading your post. You are strong,you will see it through. Here,i send you something uplifting,empowering and hauntingly sublime from my country:

a reply to: JimmyPilkington

Hey OP, sounds like a really rough patch. Sorry to hear it.

Tough patches in life can make or break people. So the best advice I could try and give to you. Is let it make you. Take it from the millions upon millions of people who've gone through what you're currently going through that this is not the end, just a huge hiccup along the road.

It's going to feel tempting at times to give in to depression, and give up hope that things can change for the better but you have to fight that with everything you got.. You literally have to battle any self destructive though patterns, behaviors or attitudes that will threaten to surface as you go through this otherwise it can overwhelm even the strongest of individuals.

My hope is that you take inspiration from reading the stories of people who experienced horrific circumstances and came out of it happier in the end. And that you focus on all the good things that you do have in life.

Just never forget this, If things can get so bad so quickly as they have for you recently. The opposite also than must hold true and that being it can get better just as quick. But your choices play a huge role in that healing journey..

Maybe your family needs to truly understand how much their actions are affecting you, and be as honest as you can about your need for their loving support even if it feels vulnerable.

We all need support from loved ones and there's no shame or weakness in that.

Your girlfriend that left you? Take it from the millions of other men who've gone through similar experiences that a better one can and often does come along. The key is can you work on yourself and instead of blaming, even if it takes time do your best to let it go and forgive and move on and you'll find the right one in due time. ( easier said than done I know).

and finally, for work.. Yea being unemployed sucks. But that can change too. What are you really good at? What do you enjoy? It's no fun being broke and losing your place, but my encouragement for you would be to take this time to focus on crafting and cultivating a skill ( something you enjoy), You should have a lot of spare time , so don't use it to sit there and reflect on everything that went wrong, use it to reflect on what you can do to build an even better future than the one before.

Remember people like Steve Jobs, Tony Robbins, Oprah among countless others all went through poverty and the irony is their passion to succeed probably grew in those down times and materialized down the road for them.


I wish all the best for you !

Time to hit survival mode. Take care of yourself. Man up and get things done.

Let me tell you a little story about me that happen a few years ago.

I left my wife. Being together for along time, but I was dying inside.
A few weeks later, she had me arrested for a false domestic violence false claim. Never touched her. Spent two weeks in jail because she had my family convinced I was a drug abuser and alcoholic.
Got out, I didn't have a job because she convinced my employer the same.
I was homeless, without a car and a job.
6 weeks, I bounced around from campsite to camp site. Finally, my sister loaned me enough money to get a car. Then I got a job. Then an apartment.
Met this wonderful girl ,the perfect one.
She moved in and when got married after 3 years.

And I was in my 50's.

You got this. Keep your chin up and push through it.

Good luck, brother !

Seems like Ive told more personal things on here lately than I have in all the years Ive been here, LOL!


My parents were born on a rez, but intended for me not to be. They left Montana and moved to Louisiana. My dad was a good worker.. and back then you could day labor or join construction crews easily. I understand you can now as well. Southern states offer a longer construction season. Well on and off we lived in apartments, rooms in others homes, travel trailers. My dad saved everything.. and over the years of lean and crappy living he had enough to buy his first few trucks with CBs. My mom manned the phones and with a base CB would call them with jobs and etc.. they did emergency stuff as well.. 24 hrs a day. By the time I was an older teen my dad had 3 construction companies that supported approx 113 men and families. He bought them groceries when they were low, payed them their wages even if they were not working and ill, bailed them out of trouble more than I care to know.... AND he cared for his workers like family. When you succeed.. and you will given your answers and how you have worded things... pay it forward. Take care of your fellow countrymen.


And when you have kids.. dont hand them things. My dad had oodles of money.. but I was handed very little and not allowed even tribal grants or scholarships for college. I got 2 degrees, so I was paying on those damned things till I was in my mid 30's LOL! But I love my dad for teaching me what matters most.. family, sacrifice, hard work, loyalty, and my fellow Americans. From there it naturally goes out among all.

Get your van while you are unencumbered by woman or child and go to ND to the oil fields, the South for construction... the world and its opportunities are truly open to you

They say Rappers commit crimes for "Street Cred" so they're more "legit" You have "Cred" now for a great Country and Western career.

But seriously, I think you'll just about hit bottom and then something will shine on you. Crap like this used to happen to me a lot. I'd sink, then rise, sink then rise etc. Then I met a great gal, the type I never thought I would fall for and it's like all my bad luck changed. I'm thinking, and hoping, that the same will happen for you!

a reply to: JimmyPilkington

Just take what ever you can do and advertise on Craig's list and offer to do it.

For a while there I did that and had lots of jobs from it. I fixed software problems for people on their computers and well as replaced hardware too. I painted houses, I fixed and sold furniture I found in the trash. I bought nerf guns for 50 cents and steam punked them and sold them for $45 - $100 dollars. I sold old toys I had since I was a kid. I did auto repairs, odd jobs for people. All that until I was able to find full time regular employment.

Don't loose heart or hope. Just put that active mind to work for yourself and all will be fine.

Praying for you.