I've lost my daughter.

a reply to: bally001

I would love to hear the story to it when you have the time..

a reply to: hutch622

Your company would be appreciated.

Thanks

bally

Sooo glad I don't have children.

With luck she'll learn to appreciate you and your wife as parents after she learns that the type of people she chose to collude with are looking to use her up until she's no longer entertaining to them.

originally posted by: corvuscorrax
Sooo glad I don't have children.

With luck she'll learn to appreciate you and your wife as parents after she learns that the type of people she chose to collude with are looking to use her up until she's no longer entertaining to them.

Soul suckers.

They do exist and they are strong.

Hopefully the love of the OP and family will prove to be stronger.

a reply to: corvuscorrax

Love all my children.

Thanks for your thoughts.

bally

a reply to: TNMockingbird

We'll be on our way soon. Some negotiations are being undertaken with "friends of friends" (through her elder brother) so to say and I hope to have her back in a couple of hours.

bally

a reply to: bally001

I've got everything crossed for you! Just remember you aren't fighting her, you're helping her fight her demons....even if she doesn't realize it.

a reply to: bally001

Hi Bally, good to see you on the boards, but I'm sorry to hear about your current situation.

As a new parent, your story articulates my own fears. Your daughter is young, hopefully this is just an aberration and she we return to her family. When I was younger my parents had a friend in a similar situation who had left home and taken up with some less than savoury people. This girl sorted herself out and is now in a fairly prominent position at a university in Adelaide I believe.

All the best for you and your family Bally, I hope you have contact with your daughter soon.

Have her (and the rest of her druggie friends) arrested immediately. It will be the hardest thing you ever do but it may just save her life. Or would you rather attend her funeral within 5 years...

You never ever give up on your child....not even if she's 80 & your 180. Obviously you are not in the states, most places here the age of emancipation is 18. I feel for you & I've been where you are. My daughter is now 31 and lives a relatively normal life, wasn't always that way. Why you ask? Cause I never gave up on my child. Take care & good luck.

a reply to: bally001

I wouldn't call this advice, but perhaps some thoughts that in some permutation will help you in the days to come.

Consider remaining close and maintaining a judgement-free pose. Just do what you can to keep your finger on the pulse, if that's even possible. So that you know if things are rapidly careening in a bad direction, or merely generally veering that way. If you are a safe and sympathetic person and her world becomes frightening and dangerous to her, you will be in a position to lift her out of a bad (defined as even worse than the present) situation. If this turns out to be a period of experimentation, you will have helped to minimize any alienation that might result. It has been my experience that the wisest thing you can do is keep a cool head and stay close. If your fears are appropriate, your loved one will run towards you instead of away from you. If they are not, you'll have avoided a rift.

a reply to: bally001

16?! G'day? Are you Australian? Are the laws different there? You have the right to PHYSICALLY remove her as much as it might anger her to protect her being that she is underage.


Here's an idea. Call the police on the drug operation. No house, then she won't be living there.

originally posted by: bally001
a reply to: Char-Lee

A this may happen today. We (family) have discussed this.

cheers,

bally

Good luck just remember it is the right thing no question about it. Keep them safe even if they don't get it yet, they do later.

a reply to: bally001

Do not lost hope. I have a very similar upbringing. I went through hell and back when I was a youngster.

A lot of people can make it out of situations like that, so try not to give up.

Here you see that the US army is guarding the poppy fields that zhgёt Taliban! Poor Afghan farmers collect opium. In the next step the other American soldiers guarding some stores do not know where the poor Afghans working on conveyors processing opium into heroin. In the next stage, other US soldiers escorted some crates on planes "Hercules" in the United States. In the next step the other American soldiers loaded some boxes in cars and transport them to a military base, say Fayetsville. There are other American soldiers guarding some warehouses. In the next stage boxes are transported to a secret lab ... etc Then the American soldiers demobilized and tells everyone at home that he allegedly "protecting the homeland". In fact, everything that each of them knows that he is some kind of guarded boxes. And then the American demobilization goes to pub and offers to read a newspaper and reads: "26 heroin overdoz 4 hours in West Virginia City." and "174 heroin overdozy for 6 days in Cincinnati." And outraged aloud: "What the f%&k I shed blood in Afghanistan, and then out of that country have turned!

a reply to: bally001

I feel your pain.
I have a half brother who has become a meth head, and is either in prison or living on the streets at any given time. My step dad has done everything he could, for years, to try and help him out. He has been through rehab programs and runs away each time, he steals money, he cannot be trusted, his health is failing... it has been such a heartache for my stepdad. (mom is passed away)

At some point he had to come to terms with the fact that he will most likely outlive his son, and that has been the worst thing in the world. The pain goes beyond description. I am so sorry for parents who have to go through this.

The USSR and the United States were at war with the Taliban. and the Taliban fought with heroin. Taliban wanted to stop the traffic of drugs from Afghanistan, but foreign elite has other plans, they are waging a war with the natives of the planet with your hands. and your daughter is one of the many millions of victims of this war, which has an amazing variety of methods of destruction while reaping profits. but their purpose is not profit, the true purpose of destruction

a reply to: bally001

Younglings do that. I think you should not give up. Do whatever you can without being overly strict because as abusers tend to stay away from strict claims, rules and other kind of things. Approach with love and try to contact her. Tell her that nothing is going to go bad except her body and brain and your heart. Because you love her. Its her choices and when they find a chance to get ahold of free drugs, they tend to stay there and thats when they fall to the pit of bad friendships. Its a turning point for her life and you should really get back her somehow. Best of luck.

Very sorry to hear of the OP's problem. This crack business is no joke. I'm embedding an outstanding documentary that makes it very clear how difficult it is to handle the problems presented by addiction to crack.

It is really heartbreaking to see what some parents are going through with their addicted children. I really believe that people who deal this drug (and possibly some others) should be executed.

a reply to: bally001

O man, addiction is an ugly, ugly disease. I wish I could sit here and tell you everything will work out but I can't. Not in good faith. I am recovering addict myself, bottom of the barrel smack shooting addict. Now, I have been clean for over 4 years and totally turned my life around, but not everyone has the chance to do this. It took my years of fighting this horrible disease, relapse, countless inpatient treatment programs, but I did it. If I can anyone can, but sadly half my friends who used are now dad. Those aren't great odds. I will pray for you and her and wish her the best in this horrible time of all your lifes.