I need some advice It's roommate problems

About a year ago I moved into a house in the city. As a smoker, I looked for a place where I could smoke. The place has 5 rooms. 2 months ago 2 girls moved in a they don't smoke. I stopped smoking in the house and only smoke in my room. I have something at the bottom of the door, the window wide open at all times, and I use spray and incenses.

There is another smoker in the house and they go out side every once in a while so it looks as if everytime they smell something its my fault.

So they want me to go outside to smoke and winter is coming up and if I couldn't smoke in the house I would not have moved here.

Please let me know what I should do here because I can be real hot headed sometimes

If smoking is allowed on the lease they can suck a cig butt.

If not and it's a house vote thing.. we'll now your in a spot and just like me it's time to start pinching pennies and getting out of the roommate game.


a reply to: Kazber

a reply to: Kazber

Put a jumper on and smoke outside.
From a smoker.

You don't have a room mate problem; your room mates do. Find your own place with no one else. Preferably you can buy it so there are no landlord issues. Yeah, I know. You can't "afford" it, right? So basically you NEED the help of others to get a place. You require their assistance. In fact, not to put too fine a point on it, you're still dependent on others. And THAT means you have to be mindful of their needs as well. You don't have a "right" to smoke, so if it is an issue, whether or not is used to be, you need to stop, go outside, or move.

Presumably the two girls knew they were moving into an apartment with smokers? They have to take some responsibility for the situation.

Having said that, maybe you could see this as an opportunity to cut down or quit? Before I gave up altogether I found my various smoking times restricted and soon only really wanted to smoke with a meal.

Try and see the positives and how you can work this to the advantage of your health and bank balance

a reply to: Kazber

You know I've never smoked, when I was doing the room mate thing they smoked. I didn't give a hoot. Lease says smoking allowed, puff away.

Go outside if you don't want to see your 2 delicate snowflake room mates melt.

a reply to: Kazber

When living with roommates,everyone should be respectful.
If your smoking bothers people then YES...go outside as YOU are being a problem for others who don't want to deal with cigarettes.
If you don't like it,you can just move and find a place where you don't have to worry about it.

So in my opinion...either move or smoke outside.

You want some advice? QUIT

You'll save money. You'll stop being a pariah. You might live a healthier life. You won't stink. You won't bother others when you and they are outside and in the same proximity.

Cigarettes stink. I don't know why the manufacturer makes them like that.

I smoked everyday for 25 years. I was up to three packs a day when I quit.

The only thing you need to say to yourself is, "This craving will soon pass." It will pass and the stretches in-between will grow farther and farther apart.

I quit back in 2004. Had a small relapse a few years ago. Made the mistake of vaping (that's far tougher to get away from). Simply tobacco free now.

a reply to: Kazber

From a smoker, who finds that other people treading into issues that they don't have a right to tread into:

Get a little pot that you can burn essential oils in, with a candle that provides the heat for simmering.

Buy the most obnoxious substance known to man, I am think african fish oil here. simmer the oil and left the obnoxious fumes envelope the house.

When complaints are received, enquire as to whether the complainer would prefer to smell cigarette smoke OR the obnoxious substance (a food substance but one that is particularly offensive.

To all the other posters who insisted that the poster give up his rights in the room he pays for. SHAME ON YOU.

Have we all not lost enough rights and customs to whiners. The same people who complain of cigarette smoke smell will smoke skunk marijuana without hesitation. The idea that cigarette smoke is offensive is a madison avenue idea foisted on us.

Back in the day, cigarettes were sold on the notion of a "rich virginia smoke smell" . People did not mind the smell of cigarette smoke at all (there are always people with tastes that lie outside the norm).

Cigarette smoke has not changed its smell. What changed was peoples perception of the smell. And then only after an intense advertising campaign.

Why should a smoker give up the right to smoke in the only indoor place where he can smoke? If the room mates don't like the smell, they should go to a bar or restaurant for relief.

Tired of Control Freaks

Seriously -- You are too inconvenienced to stand outside for 5 minutes to smoke?

a reply to: Snarl

I smoked everyday for 25 years. I was up to three packs a day when I quit.

I quit after thirty five years. Hardest thing I ever did. It is doable.

Hey OP try the patch. It lets you down easy. Nocoderm CQ. Worked for me.

a reply to: drewlander

Seriously - you go outside in -50 degree, where flesh can freeze in under minute and just stand around for 5 minutes! or try keeping a cigarette lit in a rainstorm.

Of course, smokers, like every other person on the planet require protection from the weather.

Where do you propose smokers of medical marijuana are going to smoke. They may have significant medical ailments that prevent them from going outside?

Seriously, smokers have given non-smokers every possible consideration and still you are not happy. Now you are invading our homes and smoking outside is frowned upon.

Bullying is bullying, even when a smoker is the victim!

Tired of Control Freaks

a reply to: Kazber

Who controls the lease or rental agreement of the house??

a reply to: intrptr

Why are you giving advice for this person to quit smoking. Is that the problem he wants to address?

Tired of Control Freaks

a reply to: mOjOm

Who controls the lease or rental agreement of the house??

The owner of the house. You sign you live there for the allotted time.

originally posted by: TheKnightofDoom
a reply to: Kazber

Put a jumper on and smoke outside.
From a smoker.

^ This ^ Even as a smoker, I hate the second hand smoke smell et al. And make sure you stand downwind just for that extra level of courtesy :-)

Have never smoked inside (have you ever seen a nicotine-stained ceiling when it's wet?). Even in other people's homes where it's ok. It's just wrong, IMHO.

Tell em to piss off an stop being damn busybodies . They dont like it they can move .

a reply to: VaticNZ

Have you ever seen a ceiling blackened with soot from burning candles. Candles create odours and release cancer causing chemicals.

How are people ok with burning candles but not smoking? Do candle lovers have more rights than smokers.

How is it ok to burn a candle but demand to be able to intrude in a smokers home and impose their tastes on others?

Tired of Control Freaks

originally posted by: TiredofControlFreaks
a reply to: intrptr

Why are you giving advice for this person to quit smoking. Is that the problem he wants to address?

It is the problem he is most in denial about.

As an (ex) smoker I get it. When I smoked I didn't care who I bothered. It was all about my right to smoke so lump it. I was used to the smell, if you don't smoke it sucks to be near someone who does. But who cares about them, right?

originally posted by: seasonal

The owner of the house. You sign you live there for the allotted time.

Then that is who has the final say about what goes on there.

If they said you could smoke in the house then you can smoke in the house. If not, then you can't.

Other than that the issue becomes one of politeness. If you would like to be nice to the female roommates and comply with their request that you don't smoke in the house, then comply. If you don't want to comply then don't and let them b*tch about it.

I'm sure they were told before moving in that other roommates smoked in the house. So if they moved in knowing that then it's on them. They shouldn't expect to change everyone else to suit them.

But you could be cool about it and just smoke outside and make them happy if you want to also.

But in the end, it's the owner who sets the rules of conduct.