dating sites are bogus!

a reply to: eroutt

How old are you?

a reply to: Atsbhct

i work out 20 mins a day or more. i only way 40 over and i can get rid of the weight in no time with the diet i am on. and its pre-diabetes i was wrong lol! so at least i can take care of it!

a reply to: AugustusMasonicus
oops sorry i deleted it what was in the picture? we all would like to know i am sure!

a reply to: Atsbhct

34 why?

It all comes down to what you're looking for. My brother was doing plentyoffish for a while, he got a lot of tail out of it (ended up sleeping with two different girls in the same day), though it was trashy tail...yuck. He has lower standards than I do. Are you looking just for some quick fun or a long term thing? I know a lot of people who have gone on e-harmony and have been matched incredibly well to their spouses, all of whom are still married and quite happy. I know it isn't romantic or spontaneous but honestly, are you willing to sit around hoping fate will drop that perfect someone into your life or are you going to take fate by the nut-sack and say this is where we're doing, I'm in control? It can be tough in a small town. Honestly, what is a small monetary investment compared to a lifetime of spousal bliss? Insignificant, I'd say.

a reply to: JustCallMeAwesome

yeah i have also been on pof and now you can't search for users to chat to unlese you pay i have looked in to e-harmony but it is hard to cancel if you don't like it and they charge you later or some bs

LOL my girlfriend of 4 years was met on POF.

Had a lot of dates from it and match.

It's a numbers game. Like it or not if your pics suck nothing in your profile or what you send will make a difference. With pics less is better. Have one pic of you, one pic of you in a group, one pic of you doing something active. Of course smile and give the appearance of being confident and happy.

Best opener for a first message is to make a basic compliment or dig about a picture or something in their profile. I used to send this alot and it was different so I got good response. "if you could have just ONE super power what would it be and why?" Always end your message with a question. Another one is "if you could teleport anywhere in world in an instant where would we go? Lastly this one is funny so after the above say something like "if you don't mind I'm a Calvin Klein underwear model on the side maybe we could meet for a drink?"

If they agree to meet be sure to make it clear you just want to meet for a drink. NEVER OFFER TO BUY DINNER OR GO TO THE MOVIES. You can even say let's meet for drinks, 2 drink max just in case either one of us isn't feling it. Of course if things are going well it's up to her to break the 2 drink rule and if she is willing then your in.

LOL bringing back memories. Have fun with it and be a little cocky and little funny and it's amazing how that attracts women.

Good luck

a reply to: eroutt

Go to red hot pie and find some kinky chick before you try and get serious ..... you have to lie on the dating sites just to reel one in, after you reel a few in you can slowly scare them away with the real you....

On a more serious note, it sounds like you live in a small town this being the case you may either have to travel to date and or move to somewhere with more single women...

originally posted by: eroutt
a reply to: Atsbhct

34 why?

34??? There's your problem. Your writing, spelling (and avatar) makes you look/sound 13.

Forget the dating - work on yourself first. And that "i only way 40 over and i can get rid of the weight in no time with the diet i am on."- big lie.

It's 'weigh', too. How can you be 34 and not know how to spell 'weigh'? Are you drugged? Are you employable? At a job that actually pays something? Not that all women are freeloaders or golddiggers, but they don't want to support your uneducated self, on top of their own.

Ask yourself what dating YOU gains THEM.

originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: eroutt

For all that I am lonely, I would never resort to a dating website, and the reasons have little to do with the prevalence of scammers, nutcases and Facebook drones (if it's a problem for you too, you know what I mean). Simply put, I am an old fashioned, spiritual, and romantic sort of fellow.

There is nothing romantic, spontaneous, or fated about what happens on those sites. It's an algorithm, a mechanism. There's a woman I have known for a long while now, who was at a party I attended not so long back. It was a barbecue party, with a separate fire, burning in a large metal dish. I had set the fire, upon being instructed to do so by the man of the house. My people know me well, and of all the people there, I was one of but a few who could set a fire that would not be a safety hazard, but that would also burn well enough to delight the attendees, as well as burn the humidity out of the air surrounding the flames. Normally, I tend the fire I have built, to prevent lunatics from placing multitudes of impractically sized objects in it.

However, this woman, again, whom I have known for quite some time, doffed her summer dress, under which were shorts and a vest of some sort, and took up the poking stick, and proceeded to spend the evening walking around the fire, tending it like a pro, while looking all the while like a Valkyrie of legend. At times, the flames reached from the dish, to lap at her legs, the flame actually encompassing the entire width of them. She did not even register their touch, and they did her no harm.

I should have told her right then and there, that my heart was exploding, that her magnificence was impossible to encapsulate with the paltry tool that is the language I love. I would have too, but certain events made it difficult for me to register how the sight had impacted me. I know her to be a great lady, a wit, with charm and grace of precisely the right sort to send a sane man running to the asylum. However, as I said, certain events have made it impossible for me to react to things in the usual fashion. I am not as I once was, not as I ought to be. I have only just realised as much, and will be undertaking to improve upon this situation in due course.

One step upon that particular journey, will be explaining how I feel to the woman in question, even if it ends in an almighty calamity. Why do I prefer taking the risk of real upheaval and a personal life in flames? Because if one wishes to be rewarded, one must be prepared to risk something. And by God do I have a mighty need.

This made my heart soar and ache at the same time.

Godspeed.

a reply to: eroutt

I've had a ton of luck on OKC so far. To me, it's like Facebook but for available adults. I think your problem is what you already stated when you mentioned your town being slim pickings.

A dating site is only as effective as the dating pool you are a part of. A dating site can't magically create more people in your town. Maybe just stick with one and be patient? There's gotta be a good match for you in your town, complaining the same way, thinking about creating an account at OKC or something.

You'll find somebody eventually

a reply to: SentientCentenarian

And this is exactly why I asked the question.

originally posted by: DarkvsLight29
I've Tried that dating site (Plenty Of Fish).

More like plenty of pish lol.

Ok I've talked to a few girls but every time i want to see who liked me i got to pay money, nope not doing that especially when it's £10 a month and no guarantee of any dates.

Edit..I'm going to do it the good old fashioned way and go to bars and clubs that aren't my locals,, hopefully that will work.

I continue to call it Plenty of Garbage....

Tinder has been good for chats and the occasional hookup...

Best bet..move out of your small town and take an adventure...riskay for sure but I am sure you will be more happy that in your current situation...live a little or die watching porn

originally posted by: eroutt
a reply to: underwerks
not able to drink alcohol, or be around cigarette smoke!
i could wear a mask and drink water lol! i would be a big hit with the ladys!

Try christian singles, the no smoking and drink may be a bonus there, just no sex till you are married

a reply to: SentientCentenarian

i have a learning disability that makes it hard to spell and wright words and it took me a long time to get to where i am now!
you don't know the whole story of my life and that make you look like an ass for judging the why i am! its partly my fault for not explaining that! but i am not going to put a sticker on my forehead to let people like you know that i am disabled! also do you know what optic nerve damage is?

a reply to: Abysha

i have been on OKC for some time now and i am finally going out with someone this week fingers crossed

a reply to: Skywatcher2011

that's so true. lol! thanks!

originally posted by: eroutt
a reply to: Abysha

i have been on OKC for some time now and i am finally going out with someone this week fingers crossed

So crossed!

I don't know.

I'm friends with couples who met online, and most have been married for years.

Likewise, I've known (and know) some single guys and gals who use these sites just for a hookup, and they too do quite well. I wish this was more prevalent when I was single.... I would have gotten into so much fun trouble....

a reply to: eroutt

I feel part of your problem is answered with the statement "it is hard to date in my small town". You have a limited dating pool no matter what.

When I was single I had good luck with a couple of dating sites, mind you I lived in a student town, was only slightly older than them (and a teaching fellow at the University). That was the early 2000s. Now there is proof that certain sites (looking at you Ashley Madison) have bots to make it seem populous, and that "someone is interested in you, yes YOU" .

So Dating sites may well work (I'v been married 12 years, I have no idea). But like anything else with dating, you have got to be careful, I've been scammed by people I met in real life, and those online.