dating sites are bogus!

I've been to almost all dating site's, to find someone to be with. because its hard to date in my small town! there is nothing here to do. nothing but a bar and a casino! and i don't drink or gamble. lol! so i have been going online for years with no luck. i know i am not the only one but this forum is for ranting so that's what i do. the only site that i found is okcupid.com and its not that great but at least you can chat to people with out having to be block by a pay now to view ad!!! i never gave money to any dating site nor will i ever! i did almost get scammed back in 2009. this women calming to be from my area, looking just like this girl i met down town. she was emailing me to go out on a date, but she was typing in broken English! so i asked her things that only a person from my town would know. that you could not find online! and she was dead wrong lol! and so i played with her and gave her false info, and then she had the ball's to ask for money! calming she was stuck in another state! so i typed fu and moved on whats your crazy dating experience?

a reply to: eroutt

Are you 100% truthful on your status? Do you use an older flattering photograph?

Shave a few years of your age and weight? .....

Very tempting to do and done by 99% of people I would imagine.

Much better to meet naturally, at events and places you enjoy, so you see what

you get, and have interests in common?

I've Tried that dating site (Plenty Of Fish).

More like plenty of pish lol.

Ok I've talked to a few girls but every time i want to see who liked me i got to pay money, nope not doing that especially when it's £10 a month and no guarantee of any dates.

Edit..I'm going to do it the good old fashioned way and go to bars and clubs that aren't my locals,, hopefully that will work.

I hear ya on the crappo dating sites. Tried a few myself and found them all really bad and none of the dudes were really there to meet someone to share their life / free time with. Most seemed only to want sex talk or send / get naked pics. It is a shame, as there are a lot of genuine single people out there who would like to have company and someone to share good times with. We need more single club nights / events where you can at least meet real people face to face.

Wow.. sounds like a Nigerian. Heh beware of 409.

Anyway I don't think the kids of this generation are using the Internet to find people they want to live with. Unless of course they look absolutely beautiful.

Which is why cometics are so popular.

But I have tried dating both sexes to find out absolutely everyone is obsessed with perfection. Even if they aren't perfect themselves. Which begs the question... how does anyone know what is perfect if they are defective themselves?

Good looks only get you in the door. It is the character that counts.

But what I have begun to realize is the price of perfection.

(And holy #ing # my autocorrect is really starting to piss me off!)

Perfection is wasteful. Think of it like this. Take a simple idea in your head and rethink it as the opinions of others start swirling around your head.

What you originally thought was going to happen suddenly becomes very complex. Especially if you have powerful friends whose opinions matter.

Perfection is consuming.

It doesn't end at your wallet. It will consume everything that you are.

Perfection is daunting.

If you are a fake person you will bleed from your eyes without any physical contact.

So stop searching for perfection and instead pick out of the basket of cases and see which one you'd be able to deal with every day. Otherwise you end up all alone.

Which is fine if you don't mind the silence.

I'm not looking for perfection, cause everyone has faults but am looking for someone who likes me for who i am.... Ditto hopefully for them.

The idea of a relationship isn't to find the perfect match, it is to find someone who's demons dance with your own.

The idea of a relationship, is to find someone who's insanity and crazy compliments your own.

It's a mad, mad world, and everyone has quirks, kinks, and a tiny bit of insanity mixed in.

However, dating sites only give you a tiny little bit about a person, and a picture, is only a glimpse of a moment of a life-time. How do you define a person, by only having a glimpse?

a reply to: eroutt

If you look up "white label dating sites" you'll see that you can set up your own site in 30 mins and supposedly have 2 million + members immediately. I'm not saying all dating sites are like this but quite a few are.

The whole you can browse for free is nonsense isnt it? Its a bit like walking into a supermarket and viewing all the food but obviously if you want to eat any of it you have to pay!!

Hope that makes sense?!

a reply to: eletheia
no i am 100% and that must be why! lol! lots of fake people that is most of the problem!

a reply to: eroutt

For all that I am lonely, I would never resort to a dating website, and the reasons have little to do with the prevalence of scammers, nutcases and Facebook drones (if it's a problem for you too, you know what I mean). Simply put, I am an old fashioned, spiritual, and romantic sort of fellow.

There is nothing romantic, spontaneous, or fated about what happens on those sites. It's an algorithm, a mechanism. There's a woman I have known for a long while now, who was at a party I attended not so long back. It was a barbecue party, with a separate fire, burning in a large metal dish. I had set the fire, upon being instructed to do so by the man of the house. My people know me well, and of all the people there, I was one of but a few who could set a fire that would not be a safety hazard, but that would also burn well enough to delight the attendees, as well as burn the humidity out of the air surrounding the flames. Normally, I tend the fire I have built, to prevent lunatics from placing multitudes of impractically sized objects in it.

However, this woman, again, whom I have known for quite some time, doffed her summer dress, under which were shorts and a vest of some sort, and took up the poking stick, and proceeded to spend the evening walking around the fire, tending it like a pro, while looking all the while like a Valkyrie of legend. At times, the flames reached from the dish, to lap at her legs, the flame actually encompassing the entire width of them. She did not even register their touch, and they did her no harm.

I should have told her right then and there, that my heart was exploding, that her magnificence was impossible to encapsulate with the paltry tool that is the language I love. I would have too, but certain events made it difficult for me to register how the sight had impacted me. I know her to be a great lady, a wit, with charm and grace of precisely the right sort to send a sane man running to the asylum. However, as I said, certain events have made it impossible for me to react to things in the usual fashion. I am not as I once was, not as I ought to be. I have only just realised as much, and will be undertaking to improve upon this situation in due course.

One step upon that particular journey, will be explaining how I feel to the woman in question, even if it ends in an almighty calamity. Why do I prefer taking the risk of real upheaval and a personal life in flames? Because if one wishes to be rewarded, one must be prepared to risk something. And by God do I have a mighty need.

I have used cupid before, years and years ago, pretty sure it was dial up lol... I had a lot of success. Hell when I was going to Vegas for the weekend I posted on their site and got a date with a nice gal for drinks at my hotel pool. Maybe I was a little naive what her coming to the hotel and all, but we had a nice time at the pool. But I am one handsome MF'r with a charming personality lol... If I remember right my profile may have said something to the effect of wanting to date a pretty girl and I know that sounds shallow but really who wants an ugly girlfriend? lol

I may have paid some money not sure, but my advice is to go to one of their speed dating events. They are in the cities so get a hotel room if you have too. I went to one and it was fun. I got 3 matches out of it. I actually was a few years over the cutoff line for which age group to attend and went with the younger group.

Go to the bar and play whatever gambling game the may have there, Probably only KENO, if they have it. Don't look at it as gambling, look at it as a $20 investment in your love life. Do that on a few Thursday nights. You may meet somebody. You don't have to drink. The casino probably not so much.

I met my wife on Match.com.

Worked for me.

a reply to: AugustusMasonicus

yeah sure you did i am not in to inflatable kinda girl!

My advice: start drinking and go to that bar in town. You'll be wifed up with 3 kids before you know it, happened to most people I went to high school with

originally posted by: eroutt
yeah sure you did

i am not in to inflatable kinda girl!

I can see why you're single.

a reply to: underwerks
not able to drink alcohol, or be around cigarette smoke!
i could wear a mask and drink water lol! i would be a big hit with the ladys!

a reply to: AugustusMasonicus

it was a prank bro! just a prank

a reply to: eroutt

Maybe it's your fatty liver and type 2 diabetes? What kind of lifestyle are you leading?

originally posted by: Atsbhct
Maybe it's your fatty liver and type 2 diabetes? What kind of lifestyle are you leading?

Wait. He has a fatty liver?!?!? I see foie gras in our future.

Hey, OP, I just sent you a PM, there's this sexy chic that wants to meet you tonight.

i remember i did get a gf in my younger year, by inviting this girl to a beach bonfire. it worked out for a little over a month! but she was immature! so it was like talking to a kid and it just did not work out! she was a rich girl with no idea how money works lol! her friend was way better! but at the time she had a bf