How do you strike up a conversation online?

originally posted by: TNMockingbird
Scary when that doesn't frighten some away, isn't it?

Not. At. All.


Fellow deviants are always welcome.

a reply to: TNMockingbird

If it doesnt scare them away that means theyre a keeper!!!

originally posted by: BASSPLYR
If it doesnt scare them away that means theyre a keeper!!!

I like to call them 'keepers' too, it seems so much less serious than 'hostage'.

originally posted by: BASSPLYR
a reply to: TNMockingbird
If it doesnt scare them away that means theyre a keeper!!!

Haha! Well, I was gonna keep them anyway.

Easier if they are compliant.

a reply to: Profusion

I really dont feel like humiliating you with the long list of things youve done wrong with your recent threads.

Do your self a favor and move on. Get over it. Reconcile your feelings and try to better control your emotional center.

However, if your 15 than carry on this sort of angst is natural at your age. If youre a grown ass man....shakes head

a reply to: TNMockingbird

***Eyes tnmockingbird mischeviously**

I knew i liked you for a reason!😈

originally posted by: BASSPLYR
One bit of advice. If a woman rejects your advances or disregards your feeling....dont talk about them in a public forum where they probably post too. Its just immature. ..and petty...and reeks of insecurity. ..not very appealing. Plus it decimates any shred of respect or trust that person may have had for you.

If you read the original post correctly, you'll see that out of eight times I tried to get a conversation going out of the blue, I failed twice. I have no idea where you got the impression of me that you did.

Telling my story in the way I did is not immature. It may be immature if I still had any desire to keep trying to strike up a conversation out of the blue, but I don't.

This thread is like a memoir on this topic. There is absolutely nothing wrong with what's written in the original post of this thread.

a reply to: Profusion

It's like you want/expect all this respect from people... and you're just never getting it. I wonder why.

But on a more serious note, maybe your unread messages just fell through the cracks. They might not have seen them. It might be unintentional. Some people lose track and forget things and also the private messaging system seems wonky on ATS.

Otherwise, your experience sounds pretty normal tbh. It sounds like you achieved a conversation a couple times now, which is what you should focus on. Focusing your attention on what you haven't got or don't have or can't have will get your panties all in a bunch... and why would you willingly subject yourself to that discomfort? Refocus your sight on what you already have. Want what you already have and can realistically achieve, and become a willing participant in your own life. By being present and mindful.

I hope this helps.

I love you even though you're bratty and annoying sometimes. I know you're still growing.

a reply to: Profusion

Its not a memoir on the topic and you know it. Its a butt hurt tantrum.

You know what youre doing and ill let you go on and keep doing it to yourself.

But ill give you a bit of reprieve and move along now.

a reply to: TNMockingbird

I always do what AugustusMasonicus tells me to do.

But am I a real hostage if I'm fully willing?
Hmm, that's a mind twister!

originally posted by: geezlouise
I always do what AugustusMasonicus tells me to do.

But am I a real hostage if I'm fully willing?
Hmm, that's a mind twister!

I like these thought experiments almost as much as real life experiments. If there was just more screaming and pleading I might like them even more.

originally posted by: BASSPLYR
a reply to: TNMockingbird
***Eyes tnmockingbird mischeviously**
I knew i liked you for a reason!😈

It's that whole 'birds of a feather' thing!

originally posted by: geezlouise
a reply to: TNMockingbird
I always do what AugustusMasonicus tells me to do.
But am I a real hostage if I'm fully willing?
Hmm, that's a mind twister!

A 'willing' hostage is still a hostage.
It is just a little more fun! For the hostager.


So, I'm gathering from the thread that some conversations are much easier to 'strike up' than others.

a reply to: AugustusMasonicus

I know you like it when I squirm and wince.

What if I give you exactly what you want? Is it still... the same? Or is it really just stockholme syndrome and you're my illuminati mind control handler?

originally posted by: TNMockingbird
So, I'm gathering from the thread that some conversations are much easier to 'strike up' than others.

It all depends on how proficient the conversationalist happens to be. Are they a true linguist imbued with cunning?

originally posted by: AugustusMasonicus

originally posted by: TNMockingbird
So, I'm gathering from the thread that some conversations are much easier to 'strike up' than others.

It all depends on how proficient the conversationalist happens to be. Are they a true linguist imbued with cunning?

I certainly would hope so!

Proficiency is not a requirement.

originally posted by: geezlouise
What if I give you exactly what you want? Is it still... the same?

But what if once I get what I want I want more?

originally posted by: TNMockingbird
Proficiency is not a requirement.

I see, so someone just mumbling away who does not know how to truly use lingual brushstrokes of brilliance is just fine with you?

a reply to: Profusion

go outside into the real world...offer your name and see if you recieve a reply....get out of living in the computer is the only advice i can tell you.
example, " hi may sit beside you?" of course the seat is free or there is husband of hers nearby so she wil la nswer " whatever, man.."
then see if she glances your direction or looks at part of you r being like your hands or shoulders...good luck have fun in real life i can give you many tips if you are interested

a reply to: AugustusMasonicus

You know the triggers, puppet master.

I want to be a regular abductee!

originally posted by: geezlouise
You know the triggers, puppet master.

I want to be a regular abductee!

All in good time my young apprentice.