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originally posted by: StallionDuck
To me, a soul mate is very specific. Imagine a person where you look into their eyes and have this overwhelming feeling of love and adoration. Where you feel you want to spend all eternity in their arms. Every second around each other is pleasing. Laughter, romantic, always willing to have them at your side without ever wanting to push them away.
At least in the beginning. Though, the rest of the days together is soothing, enjoyable, loving, adoring.
Does it exist? Maybe for some but not for all.
It's an awesome thing when two people feel so passionately about one another. In my experience and by looking at those around me all of my life, it doesn't happen. It's either one is so into the other but not always the other way around. Don't get me wrong, all of my relationships have been where the both of us have complete affection for the other but it's always been for one of us, 'not as much as the other'. There have been times where I knew this gal was totally in to me and would do anything for me. I liked her a lot but I wasn't as in to her as she was me. There were other times, albeit very... extremely... ok I can count them on less than one hand... Where I was so much in love with a gal and the feelings were not as deep for me as I had for her. I mean... Sure, there was a lot of love and affection but all of the swooning always seems to be on one side more so than the other.
Not all that long ago.. I met this one girl. We listed to the same music, had the same fave band, and all of the hobbies and interests were the same. We were both passionate lovers, intense huggers/cuddlers and so many other similarities. It was perfect! Finally... A soul mate! There was not one thing wrong with this.....
Yeah... that only lasted a month Oh man, but was she beautiful and perfect to me and I to her. At least it seemed so in the beginning. One thing we didn't know about... Our differences. We had so much in common that we didn't realize that we had differences and often times, people just don't like to compromise. You'd be amazed at how the littlest of things can be the biggest of things for anyone at all.
Your cardboard box... My castle...
Anyways... I guess what I'm saying is, I really don't believe in a such thing anymore. I used to but the romantic side of me has lost it's hope and is just laying down and die'ing. I do believe in love and long relationships and life long partners, but through out the many years, the idea of a soul mate has just been lost in all the confusing, self centered haze of noncompromise and assumptions.
Good topic though. I've often contemplated this very thing.
originally posted by: Bigburgh
a reply to: TNMockingbird
Hehe..
I stopped counting after the first 5 years.
You are correct, Life is indeed short. But its been so long, the only thing I remember from childhood is....
: Open the door for someone.
: Help them be seated.
: Ask if anything is needed before being seated.
Chivalry 😊 Repeat.....
The above is naturally easy as i very much enjoy serving and or helping others. I might be very quiet, but l enjoy it.
Im un-datable as to.... (shhhhhhh) Im not sure how these things go anymore. So unless i come across another Out Going Teacher type lady again, a happy smile and zipped lips is best SOP.
As long as someone has the patience for me, I could always use another friend
originally posted by: Bigburgh
a reply to: nonspecific
( wipes tears, sips coffee ).. thanks for those words. I have my dogs and a small knit of friends. Everything else is being here on ATS. Im aware of your situation, and i dare not desire to hurt your feelings by bringing it up. But do know myself and others are here for you.
Its been very hard to look at another lady and beging to wonder "What If"..... could she be? The thing is, aside from being behind this screen. Im painfully shy. To the point that i Clam up and just smile in a corner with friends when other single ladies are around. And if im ask by a lady a question...... i beging to Squeak and Stutter, even though i dont have a stutter.😊
No one should have to walk this journey called life alone. You are right about that. I value the old saying...... "When You least expect it, Suddenly there it Is" 😊
originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: awareness10
I would say that I hope so, but I lack the energy to hope. I would say that it would be great if I could spend my life with my soulmate, but I honestly do not know.
It has been a very long time indeed since I was able to give these matters any thought what so ever, and at present, I am so very tired, and so very lonely, that I find myself lacking the energy to believe I even HAVE a soulmate, leave alone hope to actually meet them some day.
This world can be a cold place.
originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: awareness10
I would say that I hope so, but I lack the energy to hope. I would say that it would be great if I could spend my life with my soulmate, but I honestly do not know.
It has been a very long time indeed since I was able to give these matters any thought what so ever, and at present, I am so very tired, and so very lonely, that I find myself lacking the energy to believe I even HAVE a soulmate, leave alone hope to actually meet them some day.
This world can be a cold place.
A boy was walking home one night and was startled to see an old man leaning up against a fence beneath the moonlight. The old man was standing next to a giant bag and flipping through a book. ‘What are you reading?’ said the boy. ‘This is the book of marriages,’ said the old man, ‘I need only use one of the red strings in this bag to tie two people together and they will become destined to be married.’ The boy didn’t believe it so the old man took him into the village and pointed out the young girl that was destined to be his wife. The boy became angry as he was really young and did not plan on ever getting married. He picked up a rock and threw it at the girl and ran away from the whole scene as fast as he could. more
Anam Cara refers to the Celtic spiritual belief of souls connecting and bonding. In Celtic Spiritual tradition, it is believed that the soul radiates all about the physical body, what some refer to as an aura. When you connect with another person and become completely open and trusting with that individual, your two souls begin to flow together. Should such a deep bond be formed, it is said you have found your Anam Cara or soul friend. more
originally posted by: blend57
awareness10
Last time I will intrude on your thread.. just wanted to add these two stories..
Red String of Fate story:
A boy was walking home one night and was startled to see an old man leaning up against a fence beneath the moonlight. The old man was standing next to a giant bag and flipping through a book. ‘What are you reading?’ said the boy. ‘This is the book of marriages,’ said the old man, ‘I need only use one of the red strings in this bag to tie two people together and they will become destined to be married.’ The boy didn’t believe it so the old man took him into the village and pointed out the young girl that was destined to be his wife. The boy became angry as he was really young and did not plan on ever getting married. He picked up a rock and threw it at the girl and ran away from the whole scene as fast as he could. more
...and...
Anam Cara
Anam Cara refers to the Celtic spiritual belief of souls connecting and bonding. In Celtic Spiritual tradition, it is believed that the soul radiates all about the physical body, what some refer to as an aura. When you connect with another person and become completely open and trusting with that individual, your two souls begin to flow together. Should such a deep bond be formed, it is said you have found your Anam Cara or soul friend. more
Sorry.. just started to search and wanted to share what I found.. thanks for the thread!
*quietly exits through the side door...*
Thanks,
blend57
originally posted by: Bigburgh
a reply to: nonspecific
😉🍻Cheeers mate! I always hope the best for you. You never know what might just happen. 😊
Nice of you to keep being kind to MNS. Feelings dont just go away.
I think of ATS as Therapy😆👍