14 habits of exceptionally likable people

a reply to: InTheLight

ABSOLUTELY INDEED. Great points. Thanks.

Good book and good graphic.

Yeah, I forgave him. He tried to do good to a lot less fortunate.

And, the family stuff, he took a lot of guff for. His new family were not ones to take anything quietly. LOL.

His dad was an alcoholic. Which, dad could never admit, for some reason.

a reply to: lightedhype

Par for the course.

May as well focus on the positive and those who have 'hearing' above average. LOL.

Besides, we can all misconstrue things on occasion.

Thanks for your perceptiveness.

a reply to: BO XIAN

Maybe his new family believed in the 'tell others' what they are doing wrong'... as trusted friends and family members should because we don't always acknowledge to ourselves that we are acting out, or have behavioural disorders.

a reply to: InTheLight

I think they did. But in a largely dysfunctional way.

Their lives were full of attachment disorder before he came into them.

Step-mom was a great one for zinging poison-dart gotcha's and then when the venting was over--she was ready to be all cozy sweetness and light. Dad, sadly, held grudges.

And her kids were full of RAD from their deceased road construction dad . . . so they were gifted at spewing anger and poison right and left. Dad was not one to take any hint of disrespect quietly. It could be a zoo.

The article in the OP outlines a far better way to relate!

Thanks for your kind comments.

a reply to: BO XIAN

True, there are always alternative ways to relate, but when emotions are front and centre then it becomes difficult. Sometimes there is still communication within the dysfunction.

Thank you for this thought-provoking thread and reminder that being positive should be front and centre.

a reply to: InTheLight

THANK YOU for your meaningful contributions thereto.

Yeah, there's often times when a walk around the block . . . some minutes or an hour or 3 for reflection are highly in order.

I still try to avoid going to sleep on a glitch in a relationship--if at all avoidable, however. That tends to take both sides! LOL.

Blessings and a great weekend to you.