What does it mean to " just be you "

a reply to: woodwardjnr

My automatic response to that was

Yes because I care

Yet I can't say about anyone they truly care or I upfront know who needs it who doesn't ?!?

I leave this reply as is so I can reflect re-reading I am not thinking clearly right now

My reply to you : Yes makes complete sense .. thank you (all) so much btw

a reply to: Kampf

Be kind to yourself - first ...

a reply to: Kampf

I am bad with words but there is dude in youtube who explains the i am very well, hes name is Mooji, check him out maybe he has answers or even just proper questions that can lead you to the core of I..

originally posted by: Timely
a reply to: Kampf

Be kind to yourself - first ...

A saying I heard long time ago

There is no I in I am

Thank you for the kind reply Sir

originally posted by: romilo
a reply to: Kampf

I am bad with words but there is dude in youtube who explains the i am very well, hes name is Mooji, check him out maybe he has answers or even just proper questions that can lead you to the core of I..

I wished I looked here first I spend hours looking for a way to explain myself
I looked at his quotes .. That's it yea I will start with the shorter videos

Thank you much appreciated

Ok - I'll put my head above the parapet on this one.

"Be yourself" - worst advice ever for social situations.

Better advice:

Be pleasant and polite

NEVER discuss politics or religion - or anything currently controversial.

Don't be a busybody. If you think someone wants help, ask nicely first.

Never mind what others think of you - all you want to do is get out of the situation in one piece and with your ego and self-esteem intact. Fingers crossed, by following the above advice, you won't have hurt or insulted anyone else either.

That'll work the 99% of the time that your interactions with other people aren't too important. The trick is to learn when it's the 1% of the time that your dealings with others are actually important, and then you focus on what needs to be said or done for the good of all concerned.

Who or what you are actually doesn't always need to be shared with the World. There are many who don't have the capacity to understand you and it may well be a mistake to reveal too much.

Of course, never pretend to be what you are not but you don't need to know everything that you are right now, this minute. It takes a lifetime to explore one's Inner Self, to understand what motivates one, to see what is at the core of one's being. Don't be impatient. Take your time and reveal only to others that aspect of yourself that'll get you into the least trouble

a reply to: Kampf

"be yourself" means to act without being self conscious of every little thing you do, and to not do things simply for the sake of pleasing someone else.

Either you're steering the ship, or the people around you are.

a reply to: berenike

Thank you.. Ok this will sound arrogant as hell .. To give my honest answer

See ok .. I know who I am .. Is others that don't know who they are that come and destroy me each time .. I have no more lessons to learn .. I have not changed my opinion on others (zero judgment) since I was 14 neither have my morals changed

So my fundamental me has remained the same in last 15 years .. I just lean more stuff

Yet people come to do what I would describe as burn me alive

I am so numb on the inside is abnormal

Like I said only the last two months first time in my life my heart was jump started

The only time I felt like I am alive (that description does not cut it)

I felt with my heart instead of just in my head
So close to "just being me"

(Up until that two months ago point I burned every bridge and emotionally disattached from every single thing, feeling, being because they were all "soul" disappointing experiences )

Only to ... Well there are no words to describe it

Lesson to learn : none

I feel worse then concrete (or let's call it end of the line) with no point of return .. Loving and peaceful and happy and everything

I felt like it was my last chance to feel "human" because it took so much hope and trust in everyone and everything

I think I was building a glass house on a pile of sand in my silly head

The rest .. is indescribable

a reply to: bigfatfurrytexan

Thank you for the reply

It truly is dearly appreciated .. Thank you for always caring

It means a lot having positive role models around even if it is all cyber means just the same

a reply to: berenike

Sorry window edit meant to say

I still am everything I always was.. Loving peaceful blah blah

After that incident (sorry for talking about a vague incident) just smthing so drastic that even the last thing left in Pandora's box got destroyed .. and that destroyed her

Sorry for the depressing mode

But those are still LoLo., just popped in my head sorry crazy hour is 4am


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a reply to: Kampf

There's always hope and I will always wish you well in life.

a reply to: berenike

Always

U probably won't remember
I just want you to know
U were in a thread where I talked about incident with my folks
Meant the world to me
You stopped me from doing my biggest mistake of my life

Ok I better stop talking
Don't hang around trouble

And yea I hope the hope comes back to me it's all I care about

To ATs

Btw the 2016 content copyright font is too big it doesn't sit in line with the black at the bottom of the page

a reply to: Bluesma

I can relate to most of your post.

Now, I don't think I have had much of a problem with this in the past, I think it has been my mode of functioning for most of my life. Though some people around me tell me it is what is charming and lovable about me, it is simultaneously one of my worst flaws and source of problems!

I think some folks have difficulty with this, at least in my experiences...

I sometimes suspect this particular advice or goal is constructive for those who were raised with a very rigid construction of social expectations and behaviorisms, so that with time they loose touch with their internal whims and states.

Probably true as I was raised in a very rigid family and when I broke free...I literally "broke free"!
"Break my rusty chains and run!" comes to mind!

Thanks for the post!

a reply to: TNMockingbird

I am reading this thread

I was waiting for one person to throw in the word "freedom"

it is the key term I would use when describing when I feel I am just being me ( is when I feel free ) .. somehow it is not around "real people" only in chat rooms

I think your signature says it all in what group of people I am "just me"

a reply to: Sessionexpired

Holdup, Refined, Kampf, Don't mindme and Layaly. Running out of account names?

a reply to: TNMockingbird

"Break my rusty chaaaaaaiiiins, and run"

I absolutely love that track.

It's like an instruction manual for those moments of life that try to stand on your sternum and laugh in your face.

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