I'm 28 years old, I've never had a girlfriend or kissed anyone ever

a reply to: Akragon

Well Im not fat.......unless I need to get really really thin. Honestly, I think it's communication issues. My ears are bad....

My advice to the OP...

Travel

I'm 24. Never had a real relationship myself. Had only kissed one girl in highschool. I thought I was going to be one of those 'forever alone' guys.

Then I started traveling.

My first time traveling, I met several great women. However, my idiocy stopped me from sleeping with any of them. I was scared, and just didnt do it.

However, when I went on a trip to Europe this past year, I was more confident and ready. Again I met so many amazing girls. There are 3 or 4 that I could have had if I wanted too, but again I didn't. Reason being: I met another girl in Europe who I fell in love with.

I have been living in Canada my whole life, and no girls here were interested in me. I am a reasonably attractive guy, but no Brad Pitt. But for some reason I could never score any dates.

However, when I went to Europe, the girls there have a totally different mindset than the ones here, and I clicked with several girls out there.

TLDR; If you want to find the girl of your dreams, you will find her when you travel.

a reply to: anobody

Doesn't matter if you're not fat...

Unless you have a decent physic anyone could use improvement...

one fact that no one can deny... Women like guys with muscle

Of course there are those that deny it... but they're just lying

It the same as a guy saying he doesn't like a girl in a bathing suit or a bikini... ALL of us do...

Unless said person is gay

Women love muscle.. its a primal instinct to be attracted to men with muscle... it shows they can defend the family subconsciously

Just like guys are naturally attracted to boobs...

It's a trap.

You convince yourself you'll be happy when you find someone but it's just a fantasy your mind creates.

Seen it happen all the time.

Unless of course never making your own decisions sounds appealing to you.

a reply to: razor787

I think you're spot-on on traveling.

There's one thing though. I keep seeing this girl everywhere I go....bus, train...apparently she goes to the same school I go to. Should I approach her? Apparently she lives near me or something. I'm afraid she might not like me though.

a reply to: corvuscorrax

Nice signature by the way, I like it. Well worded.

a reply to: anobody

Definitely talk to her. Maybe nothing will happen because of it, or maybe something will. You have many interactions on a daily basis with new people. Bank tellers, asking someone for a pen in class, cashiers. These people don't intimidate you, so don't let this girl. Just keep it casual, and see where things go

All she is, is another person, who is probably just as nervous as you when it comes to relationships.

Nothing ventured nothing gained.

a reply to: razor787

ok i will keep you updated! let you know how it goes

I also need to ask, when is the best time to ask a girl if she has a boyfriend or not? Asking me this makes me uncomfortable...don't know why, just does.

a reply to: anobody

you sound like you're about where most people your age are at in life. So don't worry, you've made the average.

Ya well as far as meeting girls. I wouldn't necessarily go do that if I were you. You're not ready. I'd work on yourself first for a while. Even a little while. Start to say: "I like myself" like 100 times a day, until you start to mean it. Finding some girl won't add confidence to you. YOu should build the confidence up first. That way you'll have an easier time talking to women. Plus you'll have more to offer them personality wise, rathr than thinking by getting a kiss you'll somehow be cured of this bitterness or inferiority complex. Just learn to love yourself for who you are. You're good enough as you are right now without any girlfriend. Then eventually when you want to find a girl, just be yourself, don't try to impress her at all. You have to be counter intuitive with women. Like for example, it's okay to stink, look like crap, and dress like crap when you go on your date. I know that sounds weird but again you have to be counter intuitive. Don't shower at all. Just show up with sweat pants and a t shirt looking like a bum. Then seem totally disinterested (even if you are). Tell her you just want to be friends nothing more (especially if she's hot). Don't ask for her number, don't invite her out again, don't act intersted, don't compliment, do do anything that would get her thining you're interested or you'll ruine "her interest". Anyway there's tons of PUA stuff out there. But again, I'd seriously avoid dating for a bit. Just work on yourslf. Learn to love yourself first. That way when you date you won't be trying to have this other person build you up or give you validation or confidence or significance. But again you're not alone I think I read that 1/3 of guys don't tend to get laid much. So don't worry, it's no big deal. Women are too much maintenance and too expensive anyway. They're a headache. You'll meet someeone eventually, just stop trying so hard and work on yourself first and formost.

a reply to: lavatrance

To be honest, I think I have stuttering problems. It's like I know what to say, I know what to ask, but have a hard time saying it verbally. I mean, I can talk but....I don't know how to explain.

You are on point though, yes, men like Napoleon Hill, Clement Stone, Brian Tracy, Eric Thomas, et cetera.....they all the say the same thing.

a reply to: anobody

Its quite normal to be nervous around someon you like. its just getting past those baby steps and you'll have a new bestfriend to share everything with each other and truly be yourself.

a reply to: anobody

Ya well if you're stuttering then I could see things being difficult. But that's really not a major thing. That's int he catagory of a "minor problem". It's not major at all. So you could easily get out there and meet a girlfriend, a lover or whatever. And it's so easy.

Here's what you do. Meet the girl first online via a dating site or something. As you get to know her online tell her that you have that problem. Explain it so that it's not such a shock later on if you meet her. Like if you wanna meet a girl to mess around with it's not hard. Just put an ad on craigslist. (or there's POF) You'll get some replies. Then you chit chat online, then on the phone, then you meet for coffee, then next meeting go to like a mall or book store or something where you can walk around and look at stuff together, then go for a drink, and try and see how into you she is. Ask her if she wants to go back to her place, or yours and drink some wine. (if she says "yes" that's a good sign you're probably gonna get laid) So your drinking wine, maybe watching a movie, or tv, or listening to music. Try and sit right beside her on the couch. Your sitting beside her chatting. Your laughing or something, just touch her somewhere to kinda break the ice. Like put you hand on her leg or something. Then later just leave it there. (kinda breaking the ice) Then put your arm around her shoulders. Then drink some more wine. Then just try and stair right at her so she knows you wanna kiss, then try and kiss her. Or if your too shy just stair at her and just say "I'd love to kiss you". She'll pobably say "ok". Then your kissing. So then start sorta rubbing her anywhere and everywhere you want. Then after your both excited, etc etc, (like you've been kissing for say 5 minutes to 30 minutes, just say "you wanna go to the bedroom". What your actually saying saying is "lets go have sex" (but bedroom means sex essentially). If she says "no" then chit chat for a bit more, but then just leave, or ask her to leave. But don't get mad or anything. Just be nice and polite. If she says "no", what that often means is "not now I'm on my period, but next time". She's maybe not ready yet. Not a big deal. try again another time. Like I remember this one hot girl, she would come back to my place, we'd kiss a lot but she wouldnt ever want to have sex. It took like 3 months before she finally was willing to fck, (normally I'd never wait that long, but she was smoking hot so...) but she told me later that she wanted to try and build a relationship which is why she took it so slow. So they might say no. No big deal just try again another night. Anyway........ back to what I was saying....... If she says "yes", then go to the bedroom, turn off the lights, or turn them down so it's not such a weird thing (like light a candle or something) then, just take her clothes off and screw her. But be sure to use protection. If you don't you'll get a kid, or a decease or both. LOL I know it's weird, me saying all this in here but the fact is I know a lot of guys in your shoes. Some of my single friends are like older than you and they still dont' know what to do. It's kinda sad. Trust me, I was there too once. It's tricky because you dont know what do to get laid. Well you could try and just follow those steps. And the more drinks the better. Drinks or bud is very good for the occation. ha ha. LOL okay that was weird. But it's real life right.

a reply to: anobody

So, still in this situation? Been a lot of pages, so just checking in.

a reply to: anobody

To be honest, I think I have stuttering problems. It's like I know what to say, I know what to ask, but have a hard time saying it verbally. I mean, I can talk but....I don't know how to explain.

So you think you have stuttering problem hmm? Well you don`t. To me it`s easy to recreate what is going on in your mind right now. Best I can describe is when learning a foreign language. All fine in your mind, understanding everything just fine and knowing what you are going to say but when it comes to saying it, you become paralysed?

If this is the case, then I recommend learning a foreign language and trying to talk with people. This is just one of many ways to overcome such mental blockade. It is all in your mind, you just need to stop worrying about it and do it...no matter consequences Know that you only have to lose peanuts in comparison if you don`t do it because it will follow you all your life until you don`t do it. It is one of the obstacles on your path in this life. Quite certain of it becuase it is tough thing for you...

Best thing to do is to go with the flow right now but when opportunity presents itself, it`s a sign. Not that you need to do it right away but universe is challenging you to make a decision. It is giving you a choice to take a next step in you personal growth.

Start dating. My advice is this. Forget about your communication problem. You do not have one. Ask the girl you like out, if she refuses ask another .... But you have to find a way to communicate, to relax in the girl's company.You will see once you pass that barrier everything will be easier. Everything is in your mind. Release some bad thoughts and just repeat : I am cool , everything is gonna be ok. It' s in your head believe me. I do not know you but I think you are a beautiful and smart young man. Just release this thing from your head and good luck !

a reply to: anobody
*nuzzlesandsnuggles*

Taste that cherry chap-stick yet?

a reply to: Lysergic

Or at least bought a copy of Fallout 4?