How dangerous is modern porn?

a reply to: ketsuko

Or you could just join in

I get your point. Seriously, if people are that into porn that they would choose it over the real thing, I think it's okay to call it "addiction".. and I'm sure this does happen, but how often is this really going on?

If I don't have someone IRL, porn sure does the trick, but as soon as someone whom I care for deeply enters my life, porn isn't on my mind in the slightest. I'd MUCH rather the real thing, but at the same time am not willing to bang around just for the self-gratification. I'll choose porn over funking, but love-making over porn.

It's all about finding your "niche". Yes, there is extreme porn out there but there is also some really creative and erotic stuff that doesn't rely on shock tactics.

Perhaps those who are addicted to internet porn and have a problem with it would also have problems regardless of the porn and could react in similar ways to other stimulants....drugs, alcohol, money, power etc.

Gimme "JAV" any day, man those Japanese girls are beautiful. And they don't need to be extreme or have tatoos or piercings 'n all that stuff to get any attention.

Anyway, it's mine and I'll wash it as fast as I like!

The 70s bush is way more dangerous! Well maybe not more dangerous but way more scary.

porn adictive probly idk for me i was once asked the first time a saw porn hard to say probly first time i went to las vegas blv they use to hand out porn cards

so its just the norm to me

i went 5 years without it or a computer or smartphone didnt bother me

maby caz im just jadded to it all

but i can imagin someone who hasent seen porn tell there well past puberty yea i can see it being a problem

when exposes from befor prepuesent age ehh

also explains why sex wasent so fasinating i knew all about it befor i should of

amd i waited longer than most of my peers even turned it down when i was in 7th grade

Is sex evil? No. No more so than money, and we all know how many threads there are daily on this forum that bash money and I wonder how many of you who are defending sex so adamantly will hop all over those threads starring and flagging.

I say they are both equally dangerous and for the same reason - they can consume you and become your focus before anything or anyone else in life in the same way.

Does that mean I think they should be outlawed? No, just that I think they need to be treated with respect and seen for what they are.

I thought this was amusing....

Why do porn sites have a 'Share to Facebook' button? Who watches porn and thinks, 'You know who'd really enjoy this? My family and friends.'

a reply to: anonentity

The main psychological problem being, that internet sex was more pleasurable to the addicted than real sex.

I don't hear that sentiment from all the people I know who are 'addicted' to porn lol

Thus for the same reward the act had to become more creative, thus bizarre.

Why is creative or even bizarre sex an issue though?

a reply to: anonentity


i don't see most people going from non violent sex to full on sexual assault videos. to me porn is like music. you can't force yourself to enjoy music you don't like. the music chooses you. in the case of porn, the porn chooses you. whatever you are naturally inclined to enjoy, you will watch.

What's more dangerous, the addiction to porn, or societies fear of addiction to porn? It's probably the one addiction people would fear talking about the most, it's certainly not something someone would associate going to the doctors about, yet therapies are often essential for treating addictions. Reminds me of the child who was banned from a school fancy dress for going as Christian Grey by school-teachers who were dressed as serial killers (reportedly), perhaps if people stopped acting like sex was an ultimate evil then problems like porn addiction could be dealt with rather than being swept under the carpet.

Erectile dysfunction due to watching too much porn is a real phenomenon. The more that is watched, the more hard core it needs to become in order to get turned on. I think that this is being utilised in order to reduce population numbers, and that is one of the reasons that our government is doing very little to address the ease of which it can be watched online. Another reason is that if it also is destroying men's ability to form meaningful long lasting and loving relationships, as they grow up with the images of women looking like prostitutes and acting like prostitutes (and sadly women are complying with this conformity in order to get a dudes attention as they too are being brainwashed via music videos, magazine articles, fashion and movie industry, that this is how you should look and act) it then breaks down the strong unity of the family unit, a strong bond that would make people rise up against tyranny in order to protect that unit.

Everywhere I look, I see porn images. More and more celebrities and famous singers are shooting and distributing porn style pics of themselves. How many web sites just carrying news articles also have semi naked women in ads or other articles down the side of the page? It is desensitising us all, and regular porn watchers even more so. Just have to look at how sex ed is being pushed on younger and younger kids at school, TV programmes called the joy of teenage sex, where they discuss and show images of more extreme sex and fetish sex. It is the same with all the hype and advertising for the film fifty shades of grey ( which was seriously pushed by our very own BBC radio stations for days on end before it's release), a film I see as being designed to normalise fetish, to sew the seed into relationships and individuals who had not thought of fetish before or perhaps thought of it as weird kinky stuff. If this can be normalised and accepted by society in general, then no longer will we need secret private fetish clubs, clubs that our very kinky elite/MPs/judiciary/Lords attend and can be blackmailed because of it. But on this slippery slope, there is another possible reason for over saturation of porn and fetish, and that is to decriminalise and have accepted paedophilia, another thing our kinky elites seem to have a passion for on an industrial scale. A rather scary scenario when you have kids that you are trying desperately to shield and protect.

Now before you brand me as some holier than thou anti sex prude, I am not, I have checked out the fetish scene and been to dungeons, but I do see an agenda at work here, especially as the government could just stipulate that all porn should have an '.xxx' domain where parents could easily filter out that domain and protect their kids, instead of the ridiculous proposal where porn watchers have to go pleading to their ISP to let them watch porn online. Sorry if I got a bit off topic, but I do see it all connected this way in the bigger picture.

a reply to: Lucid Lunacy

Nothing until the only way you can enjoy sex is through creative and bizarre sex. It's one thing to add spice with experimenting; it's another when the only way to get off is because you have to experiment with a three way with a farm animal or other so-called transgressive acts in order to feel titillated and sexually aroused.

That would be a product of extreme desensitization.

This would be another aspect. If people think that we get extremely desensitized to violence in the media and this can cause school shootings which prompts a need to ban guns ... well, can't sex and porn work the same way?

Again, I'm not calling for a ban, but I am wondering how many of you would jump all over the former threads and their rationale.

This entire argument is predicated on a slippery slope fallacy......

Most of the people that I know who have had relationship issues or divorce...porn was in the mix of conflicts the couple dealt with.

I agree with the poster who said porn is anti-love.

I really do think that society is quickly coming to terms with the dangers of porn - forums and boards are full of people with sad stories.

a reply to: ketsuko

Sex is very attached to money. Capitalism loves porn because it creates an insatiable need....the ultimate consumer product. Thus companies have zero incentive to curb it, especially if the internet becomes a utility.

a reply to: kosmicjack

But does looking at porn alone cause problems or is it the self-releasing that goes along with it that causes the issues ?

originally posted by: kosmicjack
a reply to: ketsuko

Sex is very attached to money. Capitalism loves porn because it creates an insatiable need....the ultimate consumer product. Thus companies have zero incentive to curb it, especially if the internity becomes a utility.

Logically, from that we can assume that if there is an insatiable need then that is what people want?

In fact people want it so much they are prepared to pay for it.

So, if people want it and pay for it because they want it.... who has the right to stop them?

Sex is enjoyable... Society, after 10's of thousands of years still doesn't accept that.... crazy.

a reply to: Mister_Bit

Agreed, to an extent. But porn drawn on a parchment or a cave wall or even printed in a magazine doesn't compare to live action, modern media. Television has always been a cultural force multiplier...computers exponentially more so. As it pertains to porn, media adds anonymity and frequency/availability, all of which detach social accountability from the act. Social accountability is what makes modern civilization run and flourish.

a reply to: kosmicjack


I am a little sad that you are right.

For the record though. Vintage porn is crazy. I actually worry that some of it is illegal by today's standards. There is a ton of incest old man/school girl stuff. Violence and fantasy rape is too common in that genre to even bother. I see blood and lil willy hits the deck. No good.

Modern porn is more intense than it was but the women are far more empowered it seems.

My problem is this...

If I am overweight and about to suffer a heart attack because I eat chocolate constantly... is it the chocolate's fault? Is it the fault of the manufacturer for making the chocolate? Is it the advertisers fault for advertising it on tv? Is it tv's fault for allowing the advert?

Or.. is it my fault for having NO SELF CONTROL?

a reply to: Mister_Bit

But, as detailed in the OP, studies have shown that porn is more addictive than just about anything else. I think I read a stat that it takes as little as 12 times to be addicted.

I tend to think that porn fulfills, in the most superficial and sad way, a need for human connection. But, ironically and tragically, the unreality of porn actually works to separate a person from authentic human intimacy as the average person doesn't look or act like a porn star and it's that fake porn imagery that is connected to arousal.

Chocolate doesn't do that. Not always even alcohol or drugs.