I've. Had. It. With. Feminism. (Part One - The Tattoo)

Alight, this started with my cousin getting the word “FEMINIST” emblazoned on her forearm – well it actually began much earlier than that.

When I first attended college in the communist state of California I was excited and fresh, wanting to make a difference in the world. I wanted to stand for something. I wanted to help people. Causes. Animals. Trees. ANYTHING! I was an ADULT after-all! And they had a freshman orientation week where clubs and organizations met in the main courtyard of campus. There was a NOW table set up and I eagerly went over because, hey I’m a woman. And women getting to do things to help other women is cool. Right? So I went there and was talking to these women who treated me like their own. I was instantly accepted and folded into this special club… until they asked me what I wanted to do after college. I wanted to be a nurse. That wasn't good enough for them – I could be a DOCTOR. Except I didn't want to be a doctor.

I knew enough from experience that doctors make a lot, sure, but that was more education I wasn't willing to devote myself too at the time. Further doctors don’t spend time with their patients anymore. No care. No assistance. Just a diagnosis then a jaunt to the next room. This was still not good enough for them. Despite the ‘you can be whatever you want to be’ flier right on their table. Not being good enough they asked what else I’d like to do. I could have said “I want to become a man just so I could stalk feminists before brutally ripping their faces off” and gotten a better result than my awkward answer: A housewife.

Brimstone and hell-fire shot forth from all facial orifices and took aim at me like a sentient double barreled CME. I stood frozen, unprepared, much like a dog making friends with a skunk for the first time. The unmistakable stench of sarcasm and rancor wafted over me with their words “You are broken! What is wrong with you? People like you put women back 50 years. What sort of upbringing did you have?!” Then a disturbing placating pat, and a chemically induced diabetic saccharin smile “We can fix you.”

Needless to say I never joined their club.

So here I am sitting staring at my cousin’s tattoo and I've finally had it. She tells me that people ask about it and she can tell them all about how her professor enlightened her that all sex is like rape. I've had it. She says that if a man asks about it she can fix them. I've. Had. It. How when a woman asks her about it, she can teach them all about how women are superior. I'VE. HAD. IT. I don’t care if people have froth raged on this topic before. I. Despise. Feminists.

Fast-forward a few years and I became a housewife. I’m back in college working on a PsyD, (fancy smancy PhD for psychologists with a focus on clinical practice). It is very difficult, but I am raising three boys on my own now. Goodness that isn't what I expected. As with any college, I am assaulted all the time with gender studies. To the point I want to vomit. Why is it wrong to point out the obvious that women are indeed DIFFERENT from men? Not better or worse. Different. Hormonal. Mentally. Physically. Emotionally. It is downright taboo to state any studies like this, because. Sexism. Do these studies apply with an even stroke against all people? No, there’s obviously variances per individual and circumstance. Yes these are generalizations, but generalizations do not make my general assertion any less valid. I am still not allowed to take pride in raising my own children. I set women back, you see. How dare I?

Every mother loving time I am listening to a lecture on the merits of feminism I want to implode. I am so sick of the emphasis on women’s rights I could spit. Because that's not what it's about anymore, is it? Sure I love being able to do things like vote, drive, think, and speak my opinion. I love being able to get a job and not be expected to give a ‘job’. Being treated equally and for merit. These things are all fantastic! Yes it took some real powerful and forward thinking men and women to break past stigmas. What is happening in society around the current feminist camp does not remotely resemble these efforts. No it's about making someone 'pay' and 'revenge' and 'exploitation'. It's about discriminating and demasculinating an entire generation. Before I hear “well not all feminists are…” or “only radical feminists…” or "you don't get it!" don’t. Just don’t.

I've heard it before. I've studied it in depth. I’m not interested.

“So closed minded!” Yep. I am fully capable of making up my mind all by myself with the information given. To form an opinion based on it. I'm even allowed to be wrong if that's the case. I'm allowed to be offended by this. I am allowed to rant. That said...

I continually find myself trying to evaluate new information as it comes in. I feel like I'm looking for a golden corn kernel of hope in a huge stinking heap. Please believe me no one wants to love “woman power!” more than I do. I want to like feminists. I want to support equality. So much so I have toyed with making a new classification of sane people who strive to maintain equality that can completely divorce themselves from the women’s empowerment movement and what it’s become. I want the world to progress past so much… but I no longer think this is the way. I've had it with feminism. I am seriously to the point that were a female to run for POTUS in 2016 - I don't care if she was the most qualified person in the universe; riding on the back of an enchanted unicorn named "Peace"; and a puppy named "Freedom"; with 10 billion dollars for me; with the best social, economic, and policy solutions ever - I'd cringe because instead of hearing the racist mantra...we'd hear the sexist one. Yeah I'd vote for her but I'd still cringe.

I am debating a series of rants on this. Depends if I run out of steam or not.

Well at least I know how to piss one off if they ever annoy me.. Just through a Cooking dish at them hahaha.

I feel your pain and you've had it because the feminism being sold has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with equal rights and everything to do with women trying to talk themselves into not needing a man to do anything for them, not needing a man "help" them do anything. They don't need a damn thing from anybody.

Until they do.

They certainly scream equal rights often enough, but then decry it and throw themselves on the mercy of the courts, their bosses, their families (add whatever the hell you want here) etc. when it even REMOTELY looks like they may be treated the same as a man when it comes to the law, how justice is carried out, how they are to perform on the job, and how much money they make.

THEN.... They want the SPECIAL kind of equal rights that make them just a bit more equal than everyone who doesn't have a uterus.

It's hypocritical and that's why you can't buy it. It's a lemon and that's why you can't buy it. It's a false bill of goods and that is why nobody should buy it.

You want equal rights? Quit calling the cops when you come at your husband/boyfriend/fiancé for 10 minutes straight with claw marks and black eyes and he knocks you out after you have attacked him like a 100 lb. feral hamster. Quit thinking only men should ever pay child support, quit expecting doors to open for you. Quit asking for special treatment when it comes to doing A MAN'S WORK (because that's what most consider it)... Mow the grass, learn to fix the damn car, clean out the gutters, etc. Quit asking for jobs claiming you can do them just as good and then piss and moan when you have to do the heavy lifting and nobody wants to help. Quit calling those bosses that fire you for NOT being able to perform as you promised sexist. Start calling them realists.

I'm not saying that nobody ever gets the short end of the stick as a woman. But nobody can say any less about men either. It is what it is. Everyone wants and deserves equal rights, it's the hypocrisy of the whole movement that pisses most people off.

When they truly want to be equal, I might buy it myself... Until then... They can go sell crazy somewhere else because I'm all stocked up here.

For the record... I'm a woman. I thought I would save that for last.

Those people spend so much time being angry they forget to be happy.

Life is too short to waste time on negative people.

a reply to: KaDeCo

I don't mind feminists. I don't mind the classic nuclear family woman, either. What I do mind are the kind that Kangaroo just pointed out. Some women will be openly hostile towards men about many issues until it comes time to do something they don't want to do or be treated like a man.

A man's world sucks. Some women like it and some hate it and that's fine. But to hate it and then take advantage of it is a special kind of malice. We see this sort of double-standard all the time when it comes to child support, custody battles, divorce settlements, crime, etc.

And for the record, I'm a feminist. I support just about everything a typical feminist throws at me (especially if they aren't looking at me like garbage for owning a penis) but I draw the line at blatant hypocrisy.

My wife strikes a perfect balance for me (and I, for her). We are both very independent. She is extremely progressive yet never takes advantage of me for being a man. She'll ask me to do "manly" chores but it's always asked with a wink-wink-nudge-nudge knowing because we both understand it's just stupid to make ourselves uncomfortable doing things the other is better suited to do. But if I'm not around, she'll still figure out how to open that jar and, if she's not home, I'll figure out how to brush my daughter's hair.

It's all just allowing each other to be and doing that respectfully without ignoring who and what we are.

You certainly ranted well...

Do you feel better?

a reply to: Iamthatbish

I do.

It was cathartic. I think it was the "All sex is rape" thing that made me see red. Which I can get into the 'rationale' of later.

Thank you.

I like the way you write- and rant!

I've never understood the division, myself. Women fighting for the right to work, and then when they got the freedom they wanted so badly, they complained about not being able to be a stay at home mom.

I'd like to see women get the same pay as men do for the same work, but other than that I have no complaints.

a reply to: KaDeCo

Kudos to you! You certainly have your head on straight and don't need them or anyone else to tell you how to be you.

Good Rant ... well said .. then people wonder why I refuse to get married again .. between being cheated on by ex-wives and the feminist garbage it will be a very cold day in hell if get married again .. gave up finding someone to share life and grow old with .. cant stand the damn feminist attitudes...

Sad thing about it all is due their attitudes the feminists going to wake up one morning old and alone ..

a reply to: Expat888

They'll always have their cats...

a reply to: Kangaruex4Ewe

I feel sorry for the poor cats having to put up with them ...

originally posted by: KaDeCo
a reply to: Iamthatbish

I do.

It was cathartic. I think it was the "All sex is rape" thing that made me see red. Which I can get into the 'rationale' of later.

Thank you.

This is the one that really opened my eyes about new wave feminism. EVERYTHING is LITERALLY rape. Looking at a woman wrong is rape, holding a door is rape, asking for a phone number...

The SJW crowd is the most hypocritical bunch of narcissists I've run across. Unless your a transexual overweight midget in a polyamorous relationship and think you're a dragonkin you and your opinions don't matter. They look for so many problems I can't believe they haven't all succumb to exhaustion.

I'm all for what I consider real feminists. People that call out ACTUAL sexual harassment and discrimination, are able to have an open and POLITE dialogue with others and just want to see people treated equally and see that there are indeed differences between the sexes. So, normal people.

originally posted by: Expat888
a reply to: Kangaruex4Ewe

I feel sorry for the poor cats having to put up with them ...

As do I. You know what's going to happen to the tomcats right out of the gate...

As you rightly mentionned «Different but equal» is the key. Trying to be something else is foolish. Women are beatiful in their very own nature. Never to be inferior in any way. Why many of them try to fallow the path of manhood elude me.

Power of one sex is an illusion and a burden. Women are the inner world, the creation, the emotion: the ones who wants to bash these for career and high exposure are loosing far far more than they gain imho. Do women are enjoying life more than before? I'm 45 and I've known both my grand-mothers and hell if they were inferior in any way. You could see peace and accomplishment in their face. None of them officially worked or had any title, but never ever they were seen in any way inferior to their husbands, on the contrairy, they were the suns where all the family gravitated around.

originally posted by: Expat888Sad thing about it all is due their attitudes the feminists going to wake up one morning old and alone ..

So true,

And they'll end up on dating sites, being played by the very men they let down.

a reply to: Domo1

I am writing a follow up to this as we speak that addresses this exact thing that made me blow my top. Thank you!

I wonder if these hard core feminists would have a problem if an old school gentleman held the door and allowed them to enter first, or engaged in other acts of polite, gender specific behavior? How about standing when a woman enters the room and removing their hat, or offering them their seat, or defending a "damsel in distress" from a lecherous brute or criminal thug? I can see them either getting really pissed at such behavior from males, or applying a double standard where that is still somehow justified as proper.

Would they ever try to seduce a man or otherwise use their feminine wiles to get a man to do some task they wouldn't or couldn't do?

I wonder if they would get mad at a cross dressing male or a transsexual male for trying to steal women's gender identity?

I wonder how far back that would put them? Is there some image or role are they trying to create, or just trying to take over the role of the male?

a reply to: KaDeCo

I had to snip a line out of this but it still cracks me up.




I'm glad you decided to do this rant and hope you continue. I think perhaps there are better forums for this kind of thing that generally get more views (so more people will learn).

Stay away from tumblr (you are probably already aware how scary that place gets).

a reply to: MichiganSwampBuck

They give you hell for being chivalrous .. had it happen several times ..