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originally posted by: AlphaHawk
I wouldn't normally turn to posting such a question here on ATS, but figured I'd throw it out there because I'm genuinely stumped..
Firstly, the story.
I work in the construction industry where I work on a fifo (fly in fly out) roster which consists of 28 days of work, then fly home for 7 days off.
Because of this I find it hard to meet new people, so I turned to online dating, anyway got to talking to a girl and we have quite a bit in common, she's even ok with the kind of work roster I have, that's usually a deal breaker for most.
Anyway, we've been talking for just over a week now, but due to her work commitments we couldn't meet, so I've now flown back to work and we were exchanging a couple of text messages a day...but now she wasn't responded for 3 days.
Keeping someone interested for a month without meeting them is a tough ask, or she's met someone else. Both are real possibilities and if so fine, but it would be nice if she just said it to me.
I'm not too sure what to say/do next?
So many thoughts are going through my mind...what if my last text to her didnt go through and she thinks I've stopped talking to her?? Do I just let it be and cut my losses? Do I bite the bullet and ask what's going on? How do I do it without sounding needy/pushy?
Bah! Women!
I work in the construction industry where I work on a fifo (fly in fly out) roster which consists of 28 days of work, then fly home for 7 days off.
originally posted by: fossilera
a reply to: AlphaHawk
What to say? It really is simple - Leave one more text or voicemail (whichever you determine is the less worrisome of the two), saying that you haven't heard from her in a long time, and that you were wondering if everything is alright.
My policy is that I give them 3-7 days to respond; if they respond within my timeframe (a week is stretching it; I think you'll find 3 days is a good estimate), then at least they are responding. If not, ditch them and look elsewhere (I do accept excuses though...provided they sound legitimate).
Remember though, you might not like the answer that they come back with.
-fossilera