A Question For Couples: Would you use the ‘Porn Stick’?

Oh no!...
...I think it's time to clean my hard drive!

reply to post by silo13


Given that about half of all US marriages end in divorce, that gadget has a good potential market.

If it also keeps little snippets of its finds, how great! The "injured party simply hands the thumbdrive and its"evidence" as "just cause" to the divorce lawyer.

My partner and I share the same pornography. We have the same tastes in adult entertainment...I doubt she would care about the XXX material on my computer...hell, she knows about it already and we joke about it every now and then.

Also, the Porn Stick? Maybe I missed something but how would it detect pornographic imagery or video on the computer? What if it's renamed to something like "good times with my dog." ....Ok, for some people, that would actually be a porno clip.

Just wait til your employer comes by your work station with the Porn stick.
"Thou hast peeked at the sacred booty!"
Leave ye this workplace forthwith!

just like drug tests this will become commonplace
creating a whole new market to elude the "snitch stick"
Ain't consumer technology wunnerfull?

Want to make some money?
Buy several of these and put an ad in the paper about how to catch your husband cheating
Then rent these things out for $20 a day with $100 deposit.

I use bcwipe, thats a cheap plug but they are great.

www.jetico.com...

And anyone who does try and read my stuff is a schmuck anyway.

I really don't see why someone would have a problem with their partner looking at porn. Porn is just that - it's a stimulant and then it's gone. It's like the SciFi channel - it isn't real. Although I don't think my other half looks at porn on the 'net (I've never asked), I do once in a while, and there's no issue with it. There's is just one absolute rule: looking is fine. Contacting or chatting with someone else IS NOT! Just like snooping on a partner signals the end - so does chatrooming in my book.

Having said that, I think a little porn (all things in moderation, just like candy and deserts) is very healthy, and acts as a pressure valve in a relationship. As a guy, I know very well that we all get urges, and nagging little thoughts sometimes about what it would be like with someone new. That's normal. Actually, if someone DIDN'T look, that's when I'd start to worry. Sometimes, I even show my partner stuff that I've found on the net that's really hot. I only do it as a compliment though....'cause they all kinda look like him anyway

Case in point: my brothers wife had a total paranoid issue about him "looking" at anyone but her. She would freak out if she found out he had a PlayBoy magazine. One time he left his computer on, and she came home, and after digging through it, left a note scotch taped to his screen "If I find this on your computer again, don't bother coming home". (Turned out it wasn't even a picture he had downloaded, it was some kind of adult pop up that had appeared in the browser while he was out - Sheesh!). They are filing for divorce now.

I think the trust issues themselves are somehow rooted in our modern ability to get information we typically could not; including looking at porn and spying on spouses to see if they're looking at porn. It's a misuse of technology. I would never spy on my fiance, nor would she on me. We trust each other. It's as easy as that. Once you start digging, you feel a need to justify the digging, so if you don't find anything at first, it will force you internally to continue the search. One day you'll probably get caught by your spouse and thats a #storm. Ive been there before, but not with this one and I wont.

reply to post by silo13


No, I wouldn't. But, I bet my wife would.

Not that there's anything to be found. I don't have any pornographic material on my computer. I don't IM, unless I'm at work and it's work related. And there's no calls, messages or texts on my phone that I don't mind if she reads.

I think it's a foul concept. It's crazy what this world is coming to with the rise of information technology and the emergence of "Homeland Security".

Never met a human being that had sex and didn't like it though there's always the mistake here and there.
Oddly enough, I've met a few virgins of the 30-60 range. I suppose they have their reasons.

Much porn is free for a reason though not a good one.
It is the best and easiest way to compromise one with that intelligence.
The industry should be audited and if they are to be shown in the US, they should at least be registered here, practiced here or at least be in a jurisdiction of which has lawful, not 'legal' jurisprudence unto it's audience. The Law knows no bounds. If it hurts another, it's wrong, if not, leave it be. Child porn, wrong.....as in too young to know better than to trust an 'adult'. What better way to divide and conquer the folks for the slaughter than to promote the worst of humanity while profiting off it at the same time. Sex slaves wrong, Junkies playing trick fer treats don't work out as planned unless the plan was for more 'junk' to feed the bling of a pimps ego wrapped in a fools gold.

Independent studies has shown that many porn sites are deliberately designed to steer one toward child porn as a means to compromise that individual if/when desired for 'whatever' end one may have. One could search the term MILF, mature asian, what have 'you' and end up on a child porn site.....though no one made one click the samples or force their 'hand'.....lol.....to make it a habit. If some can't 'help' themselves, likely the children didn't even have a say in the matter so 'control' is for the better interest of the individual as that is where the piper gets paid though not in debits or credits. A soul is as a membrane unto a cell as it only has so many layers before the host consumes itself. Nature appears analagous to Reason for the latter Is the reason for the former by design, an intelligent one with delicate and precise scale to h/earth.
If it makes sense, it's likely Of it.

If someone was to use the device on their partner, they should hope that their assumptions should not lead to the End of the relationship the 'information' was designed to protect. Privacy is just that, private for a reason. Many find the truth more than one can bear for how could one prepare for what they may not understand or even be prepared to understand. All in it's own time, naturally. I mastered the Big Wheel before I steered 4tothefloor.

The internet has the worst of the worst of porn for reasons of censure as the tyrants that be would rather create that problem, so you may react, then ask or rather demand a solution they've carefully crafted long prior. Well, human nature has it that folks are horny creatures by design and some may appreciate the 'creativity' of it all though the 'limits' should be found in the conscience Of truth. Sadistic pornography likely encourages, promotes, plants the seed of the garden of Heden.

If something, anything doesn't make sense, it wasn't designed to.
Most are as boiled frogs, overdone with reality before they got started.
I'm all for love and relations, as long as it is from the heart with mutual gratification as to intent.

From the Hippocrates to AsclePious the Oath remains the same though what is known need not 'be' written but rather seAn for as itIs.

"Dude, where's my car."
That was hilarious!
Know what I mean.....?

to counter this, buy a thumb drive and install a browser on it.

watch your pr0n from there.


when your finished, you simply remove the drive from the usb port, and hide it in secure location.

If you dont want to be covered in flys dont walk through feces.
If you dont want to be stung by bees dont kick the hive.
If youre looking for trust by being untruthful youre already clothed in a lie.

Hi,

I'm surprised I haven't read anything about why this works.

First off, anytime you delete any file the magnetic clusters still exist on the hard drive, or flash drives, or floppy discs, etc...

The only way to completely "delete" or "hide" the file is to write over it.

Let me explain. Your operating system removes the reference to that file on the file system. This reference had details such as where on the disk the file was. Whilst marked and available as free space the old data didn't move, its just not seen on the file system but physically exisits on the disk. The entire file remains on the disk until another data is created over the physical area, and even then it may be possible to recover data by studying the magnetic fields on the platter surface.

Recovery tools do not read the actual file system. They read the contents of the actual disk, thus it can list the "deleted" files and offer an undelete option.


How do secure deletion tools work? The tool inspects the clusters on which the data exists and overwrites them with random data which is determined by complex mathematic algorithms. One "pass" means overwriting the clusters once and will render most commercial recovery tools useless. However even one pass is considered weak as agencies such as the FBI or CIA (who have the money) can probably recover most of the data. 7 passes is what's considered as "military" grade. As the number of passes increase the chance of actually recovering the file with today's technology decreases close to an exponential rate. Most tools allow you to delete files and can also "wipe" free space - that is overwriting clusters that were marked as free space.


Here are a few programs that will write over files effectively -

www.snapfiles.com...

Pornstick isn't going to get passed a single over write - but it will find your deleted files if not over-written.

Originally posted by silo13
I gotta ask though, playing the 'Devil' here...

You're go to bed late and find your partners diary left open by their side where they fell asleep writing. Not meaning to look, but impossible not to, you see information that explodes off the page at you as you reach for the book and place it on the bed stand...

Or -

You walk by your partner's computer - here you were being nice and kind to bring him/her some milk and cookies and there on the screen (you're partner's gone off to the bathroom) is an email to their 'Ex'...

There's a fine line - in these instances - and a much broader line when you go out and buy a 'contraption' to 'monitor' your mates 'privacy' sure...

I guess therein is the question...

peace

edit on 18-11-2010 by silo13 because: eeek!

I can honestly 100% say that i have never even attempted to look up or look in anything of my current partners private materials ever, I don't even have an urge to, im not saying im perfect ... in the past i have done those very things and i have always found out that disaster follows every time, it is always 100% of the time bad for the relationship and after learning those lessons i don't even have the slightest urge to look into anything of hers.

I think if you feel the need to ... the underlying problem is that you are looking for a way out of the relationship, If you dont trust someone enough to even let them talk without you monitoring them ... then im sorry your not in the right relationship.

Everyone on this site is always throwing their hands up in the air about governments invading privacy, so if you are going through your partners private possessions your no different to them at all.

Porn is good stuff

my wife and I watch it together sometimes but she has stuff she likes and I have stuff I like

we are both realists.... Watching porn helps much in the same way lubricants and gadgets can help

Sure some real people may have been involved in making it, but it isn't real

If you have relationship problems because of porn then you and or your partner should re evaluate their being together as one o you is stuck in the 1800s

reply to post by 11118


The only way to permanently remove data from a disc drive is to "write zeros" to the drive.
'Things' they don't tell you could rockafeller.
Paranoia is well deserved.

My computer is not the best option for one to use as evidence for 'whatever' one is looking for anyhow.
It's a virtual crime scene on disc with too much truth for a court to handle.
Information pays dividends while dividends partake in profit from the truth.

Who needs a porn stick? I can already watch my husband and son browse via he router logs in real time.

I'd mainly worry about my husband if he took an interest in porn. Not that he is above it, lol, it's just we've been together a long, long time and as long as he is 'happy' at home it's never been a problem- something he gives undue attention to INSTEAD of me- in our relationship.

I figure law enforcement will have these during searches.

The thing that worries me about online porn is that you never know how old these people really are.
If it doesn't pick up on cartoon porn, it would miss all my teen's lookie looks. That must be a new thing...I have two teenage boys and that's what they are most likely to get 'caught' with.

Anime porn seems to be all the rage? lol I could care less as long as no one seems obsessed or involved in any unhealthy way, IE undue attention to it.

I would wonder about anyone that could look at porn for hours anyway. lol I'd want to ask if they needed to go to a doctor or something. Don't think anyone around here has ever looked at more than 3 minutes straight.

reply to post by silo13


Simple thing here...i have had an ex read my mail...take over my hotmail account and sent out messages and pretended to be me on my msn....and it was over an innocent conversation with a person who was terminally ill with cancer....now i am not an angel i am human and have made many mistakes in my life and will make a great dealmore i am sure....but the strange thing is i was over at a friends place and they recieve an MSN while i was sitting there from me and that is how i found out....It was a devestating assault as she led people into conversations i would never have taken and it hurt some people and my have hurt others through her actions.
As for me i never ever look at my partners things ...and if by accident i were to come across an open diary i would just ignore it....NONE of my business.....trust is something that works in a relationship...and if people hunt through peoples stuff I guarauntee if you want to find something you will.

reply to post by plube


Each partnership is a unique relationship that requires a unique solution.
There is no one right answer neither should there be for what works for one may be a different shade Of the grey for another.
As long as one's in line with the grey of truth and commits no harm, I see no issues with the peculiarities of 'every' folk out there.

PT:
In the future I plan to phase out the word 'folk' from my conscious though in the mean time, still searching for a better 'word'. Pesky words, pesky? Why? Who cares, point taken.

Originally posted by Merigold
My partner's computer his HIS. It's private. Using a device like that would be totally inappropriate.


We have very clear rules about what is acceptable in our relationship.

Porn for personal use is no problem. However, any kind of sexual contact ( on-line or otherwise) with another party is not acceptable. We trust each other and I know without a shadow of a doubt that he sticks by the rules, but even if I doubted him, I wouldn't dream of using something like the Porn stick. It's an unacceptable invasion of privacy.

I find it interesting that you do not class porn as a form of on-line sexual contact. May I ask, what is it then?