A Question For Couples: Would you use the ‘Porn Stick’?

reply to post by silo13


hahah seriously?? I can handle the porn thing, heck i watch it myself, and we are in an open relationship, so yeah we read both of emails and facebooks, and we hide nothing. Very odd people would get upset over that.

reply to post by jjkenobi


This sort of instance is where I like the use of this product.

A business has the right to look through the computers they own. Especially if they have reason to believe that their employee has been using the work computer for non work things and the employee ends up with a damaged computer.

Originally posted by iamsupermanv2
reply to post by jjkenobi

 

This sort of instance is where I like the use of this product.

A business has the right to look through the computers they own. Especially if they have reason to believe that their employee has been using the work computer for non work things and the employee ends up with a damaged computer.

Exactly! Only there would be cases where I don't want to find stuff, for example if anyone had child porn, etc.

FYI if anyone was wondering the first vendor site lists it at $99.95 US dollars.

reply to post by revmoofoo


Not to be mean but you should ALWAYS lock your system, you never know if and when there could be a break in. Someone coming in see's your computer unlocked and takes all you're information. I have a locked system and so does my husband, we know each others passwords though. He works with computers and has seen it all. Just giving you some advice.

reply to post by mysticalzoe

Not to be mean but you should ALWAYS lock your system, you never know if and when there could be a break in.

Good point. I mean, I'm an adult and I know (not being a teen under the influence of 'first love' and turbulent jealousy) that even though I may 'love' my 'mate' - that person can never be EVERYTHING to me. Sure, I was brought up on Disney and Happily Ever After' but - in my opinion - that's a recipe for disaster.
No one can be EVERYTHING to someone else.

People need diverse 'input'. If that be porn, or contacts with persons of the opposite sex, or a 'confidant' that might be told things a direct 'mate' might not? Well, that's the way life flows.

But knowing this? Would I 'peek' given the opportunity? (Like and open diary or viewing an unattended email to an ‘Ex’)... You bet. Because I'm human and I'm not afraid to admit it.

But honestly - I wouldn’t go out and buy a $99 USD ‘Stick’ - Nope, if I felt I had to go that far I’d either end the relationship first, or...Hire a Private Detective. ( *JK* )

peace

reply to post by mysticalzoe


Locking it at bedtime, when we're going out and when we have a house full of guests is just common sense and I assume that everyone knows that, which is why I didn't mention it...that and I'm lazy and was getting bored with all the typing. As a former I.T. contractor and a reasonable Windows hacker, I'm quite paranoid about security in general, I just don't have secrets when it comes to me old trouble and strife.

Rev

I lock my door in fear of burglars/rapists. I don't lock my computer because I don't have a lot in there to steal.

If someone is able to get into my bank account for what little I'm worth, they must need it pretty bad. Something that small, I'm sure the bank would cover in dispute of charges.

reply to post by Merigold



I totally agree with this,goes for phones and mail too: if you think you need to "look" be prepared for what you might find and I'd only be upset if he had some "fun stuff" and didn't offer to share...

HOWEVER most people (I won't say women...) are MUCH more suspicious and choose to use their time for negativity rather than on skills to insure a relationship is on solid ground.

They will sell a LOT of these!

The only two uses I can see for these things is companies/businesses using them to ensure their computers are being used for the correct purpose and parents making sure their kids are safe. Other then that this is a huge violation of privacy; if I felt the need to use one of them to "check up" on my partner he darn sure wouldn't be my partner for long. That is a huge breach of trust, I would doubt the integrity of anyone using it to check up on their partner.

Originally posted by irishchic
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(I won't say women...)

edit on 18-11-2010 by irishchic because: spelling

I wouldn't say that either with some of the guys I've known.

reply to post by silo13


Silo, I'd advise you to learn to TRUST someone before getting into a relationship with them....Relations are ALL ABOUT TRUST, if you dont trust them, then you have no reason being in a relationship with them
Its not about 'well if he has nothing to hide then he should have no problems' its about TRUSTING him to do the right thing, if you dont trust your partner, you have no reason to be in a relationship with them AT ALL

I figured that it was some kind of sex toy upon opening this thread...

I wonder if this type of device could be used backwards? Putting this kind of junk on a comp? I never take at face value the alleged people who they find porn on their computers especially politicians, I mean who would be that stupid if they had political high dreams and ambitions?

As for this device as is, I suppose the ones who will buy it will be parents of teens.

Would I waste my money on it? No, if it came in the computer would I use it, no.

Would I use a porn stick? No, we watch porn together. Whatever sexual activities we do, we always do together. We keep it fresh because we have fun together and are open and honest about it.

I must confess I am a -very- information-driven person. If I don't know, I want to know. Curiosity has killed this cat more than nine times, that is for certain.

I have my own methods of recovering information on computers, and am generally too cheap to pay for a device that does what I can do, myself...

Honestly, though, that's not what I want in my relationship. I don't want to be sticking my nose in where it doesn't belong or behaving in such a mistrusting manner (even though it's not that I don't trust, but that I simply crave to know things). The longer and more I have to endeavor to acquire such personal information on my partner, the more likely it is I will come to realize this before I get myself too deep into trouble.

I'm generally keen enough to pick up on my partner when something isn't right (infidelity), and I always knew more than she ever realized. I didn't need to scour hard drives or hack facebook - just see how she acted around me. I waited until she knew she was caught. Took her a few months.

Still have no idea what she was thinking - or why it is I still care so much about her. But I figure she has her own demons to face, and much as I'd like to be the knight in shining armor that guides her through the darkness (or whatever sappy line applies) - my presence would not be hailed as such.

2 words.

Gutmann method

Personally I would be really turned on if I found out my Girlfriend had been looking at porn. I doubt she ever would though.

As for the 'porn-stick', if it would upset you to know your partner had looked at porn then don't buy one. It can only cause pain.

Also, imagine spending your money on one only to find nothing of interest. What a waste of money that would be!

A wife/husband tracking down such intimacies in a wife/husband's computer should reconsider his-her views... Commitment means trust, and trust means friendly providing spaces for free development of the other. If you need to spy on your wife/husband your marriage is wrecked, so do not spy, split up. Easier and better for both halves.

What a bs...

I would not buy one.
If my gf would use it on me, I would have to face some embarrassing questions I am sure we would get over very soon, because cheating online is surely less important than doing it in real life, which, of course, both of us have done before.

Originally posted by Merigold
My partner's computer his HIS. It's private. Using a device like that would be totally inappropriate.


We have very clear rules about what is acceptable in our relationship.

Porn for personal use is no problem. However, any kind of sexual contact ( on-line or otherwise) with another party is not acceptable. We trust each other and I know without a shadow of a doubt that he sticks by the rules, but even if I doubted him, I wouldn't dream of using something like the Porn stick. It's an unacceptable invasion of privacy.

Precicely how things are in our household, as well.

The whole porn issue goes into people feeling OWNERSHIP over their partner.

Jealousy over your partner doing something stems from the fact that, at least on a subconscious level, you feel you own him/her.

I don't own my wife. She does not own me. We talk things over in honest ways about our desires, needs and fantasies, and our relationship is absolutely solid. She trusts me to not do anything that would hurt her, and I trust her with the same.

She is welcome to watch as much porn as she wants. I am welcome to watch as much as I want. That does NOT mean that we do.

So yeah... trust is involved with it all, implicitly. I would never use anything like these "Sticks" on her.

Frankly, I am more concerned about he fact that things like this are so easily done, in an age when privacy is of such concern.