Doesn't this bother anyone else??

Things have been eating at me, folks.

I am REALLY curious to know if I'm alone in this.

# 1 -

When one of two monogamous people talks about "who they'd like to bang" or whatever, when they're supposed to be dedicated to their partner. I could understand it if they were in an open relationship (which I don't particularly advocate, but I don't discriminate all the same)... but come on. I just can't wrap my head around that. Its probably just me, I'unno.

# 2 -

Listening to an unnamed couple who are around me sometimes, who are having a conversation about weight loss, and hearing this;

Female; "Yeah... I have to stay little. I have to keep the weight off me, or you won't be with me anymore."

Male; "Damn right. I don't date fatties."

Like... wow. Sounds like a healthy relationship.

That kind of mentality disgusts me.

# 3 - Telling me that "certain tones piss me off."

I have a friend who I've had numerous conversations with, and I will be TRYING my BEST to express a particular thought or feeling, and she'd get angry with me, because my "tone pissed her off."

Well, I'm sorry you can't handle certain voice tones.

Maybe if you listened to what I'm SAYING, rather than the TONE in which I'm saying it, you'd be a little closer to adopting some sense of cognitive understanding of someone's thoughts and opinions--the very thoughts and opinions you ASKED to hear.

# 4 - I have some folks in my friend circle who are a little more "open" than I am. They swing a lot of ways, and a couple of them greet one another by groping each other... which I find weird. Despite asking people not to greet me this way, they do it any way. I don't enjoy being felt up against my will (lol). I also don't enjoy being called names by friends, who seem to think that's normal... but, again, none of them seem to care.

# 5 -

Taking someone back days after discovering irrefutable evidence that they cheated on you.

And following this action with this statement;

"I only seem to love people who hurt me. I can't help it that he's cute."

......

JESUS.

You can only feel bad for folks after a certain point, ya know?

Until they're LITERALLY asking for it.

# 6 -

Me being a bad person for conspiracy theorizing.

This one is a complex issue, I'll just sum it up by saying that I usually feel like garbage just for giving any deep thought to big world problems, and every single person close to me (no exaggeration) have told me its just going to drag down my life to care about those things, and a few of these people have even gotten very angry with me for caring about this "dumb bullsh!t."

I'm not angry at them. Not completely.

But its frustrating, trying to determine exactly how I can become a part of something bigger in the world when no one around me is interested--and the simple mention of it infuriates all of them.

I don't enjoy being bumbarded with discouragement.

Its extremely frustrating and saddening.

Not one person has supported me and my ideas. Not one.

And I can understand why, because it scares and frustrates them to think about--but its starting to get really old.



Well... that's my explosion for the month.

Rant over.

Well, Im sure your not alone in it, but that doesn't mean its correct.

Ill take a stab at some.

1#, kinda bugs me, I wouldn't do that to my wife, or she me, BUT thats in our own relationship. Who are you to judge the boundries others set on their own interpersonal relationships. Each couple forms a dynamic that makes it "work" for them, who are you or I to say what that is?

2# See above, but again, that doesn't in general sound like a mature way of handling things, BUT as an example, I have often joked with my wife(because shes short) and ask if she would of dated me if I was a Midget, Her response usally is no, to which I reply "Why not I dated you" Again, who are you to judge another relationships by play?

3# Starting to assume somethings now about age, and maturity of your friends, that just sounds like a very "young" complaint.

4. Im 100% with you, I hate touching, don't do it, and if people try, I back away. Respect PERSONAL boundaries (which kind of fits above)

5. People cheat for all kinds of reasons, not always for "love" or "Sex", sometimes people are messed up, but again thats a deep personal thing for both parties, and you honestly don't know enough to judge. I have friends who have been married and divorced to THE SAME PERSON, I don't get it, but who am I to judge.

There could be far deeper issues, on both sides, one Why does one seem to find people to Hurt them, a mature outlook would be to advise them to seek consoling or advice to understand the deeper issue.

Honest opinion, most of the above seem like minor annoyances that deal more with how you deal with people not the other way around, YOU can't change any of the people or things you mentioned above, you can only change how they affect you and how you react to them.

XxNightAngelusxX
Things have been eating at me, folks.

I am REALLY curious to know if I'm alone in this.

# 1 -

When one of two monogamous people talks about "who they'd like to bang" or whatever, when they're supposed to be dedicated to their partner. I could understand it if they were in an open relationship (which I don't particularly advocate, but I don't discriminate all the same)... but come on. I just can't wrap my head around that. Its probably just me, I'unno.

# 2 -

Listening to an unnamed couple who are around me sometimes, who are having a conversation about weight loss, and hearing this;

Female; "Yeah... I have to stay little. I have to keep the weight off me, or you won't be with me anymore."

Male; "Damn right. I don't date fatties."

Like... wow. Sounds like a healthy relationship.

That kind of mentality disgusts me.

# 3 - Telling me that "certain tones piss me off."

I have a friend who I've had numerous conversations with, and I will be TRYING my BEST to express a particular thought or feeling, and she'd get angry with me, because my "tone pissed her off."

Well, I'm sorry you can't handle certain voice tones.

Maybe if you listened to what I'm SAYING, rather than the TONE in which I'm saying it, you'd be a little closer to adopting some sense of cognitive understanding of someone's thoughts and opinions--the very thoughts and opinions you ASKED to hear.

# 4 - I have some folks in my friend circle who are a little more "open" than I am. They swing a lot of ways, and a couple of them greet one another by groping each other... which I find weird. Despite asking people not to greet me this way, they do it any way. I don't enjoy being felt up against my will (lol). I also don't enjoy being called names by friends, who seem to think that's normal... but, again, none of them seem to care.

# 5 -

Taking someone back days after discovering irrefutable evidence that they cheated on you.

And following this action with this statement;

"I only seem to love people who hurt me. I can't help it that he's cute."

......

JESUS.

You can only feel bad for folks after a certain point, ya know?

Until they're LITERALLY asking for it.

# 6 -

Me being a bad person for conspiracy theorizing.

This one is a complex issue, I'll just sum it up by saying that I usually feel like garbage just for giving any deep thought to big world problems, and every single person close to me (no exaggeration) have told me its just going to drag down my life to care about those things, and a few of these people have even gotten very angry with me for caring about this "dumb bullsh!t."

I'm not angry at them. Not completely.

But its frustrating, trying to determine exactly how I can become a part of something bigger in the world when no one around me is interested--and the simple mention of it infuriates all of them.

I don't enjoy being bumbarded with discouragement.

Its extremely frustrating and saddening.

Not one person has supported me and my ideas. Not one.

And I can understand why, because it scares and frustrates them to think about--but its starting to get really old.



Well... that's my explosion for the month.

Rant over.

I have to chime in on the "tone" issue.

I am with you but the tone of our voices is a big part of how we communicate. It can express many, many things that weren't actually spoken and can even change the things that were said.

"You look great today".....I can make that mean about ten different things with the "tone" I choose.

on another note....the fattie issue....I think a couple has the obligation to stay healthy for one another. Not "un-fat" but healthy (I am speaking of married couples here).

As for the couples talking about other people sexually.....not sure...seems strange to me but I can tell my wife if I think a woman is beautiful .... she will probably tell me that she agrees.....not sure that is a big deal.

reply to post by XxNightAngelusxX


It seems you have just moved on from that group of friends. This happens all the time as we progress through life.

p.s. I don't like the Tone in which you typed your Post

Everyone;

Honest opinion, most of the above seem like minor annoyances that deal more with how you deal with people not the other way around, YOU can't change any of the people or things you mentioned above, you can only change how they affect you and how you react to them.

True, but some of these folks often suggest that I'm too "strict" or "anti-social" due to my beliefs (mostly not approving of verbal bashing as common speech, or not wanting people to touch me in gross ways). Its extremely annoying. And at that point, I reserve the right to be a little po'ed.

I am with you but the tone of our voices is a big part of how we communicate. It can express many, many things that weren't actually spoken and can even change the things that were said.

I agree, but its usually a pretty obvious red flag when someone is being sarcastic with you. Those snarky tones piss me off just as well. BUT! If I'm being completely genuine and serious, and I'm STILL being told I'm "using a bad tone" and "pissing people off" it gets me. She knows I'm not trying to insult her, but she still takes offense somehow.

on another note....the fattie issue....I think a couple has the obligation to stay healthy for one another. Not "un-fat" but healthy (I am speaking of married couples here).

Trying to stay healthy for one another is a great thing. My fiance and I have a deal--he can't have soda, and I can't have energy drinks. Those two things are our fix, man... its been hell trying to quit completely.

But we don't call each other fat, and we don't threaten to leave each other if one of us "gets too fat." I just think that's in bad taste. I could never say that to someone.

As for the couples talking about other people sexually.....not sure...seems strange to me but I can tell my wife if I think a woman is beautiful .... she will probably tell me that she agrees.....not sure that is a big deal.

Nah, I agree completely with complimenting other people's looks.

But comments like "I'd hit that" are different from "Wow, she's beautiful."

p.s. I don't like the Tone in which you typed your Post

Oh, I know... I am just the lowest of dirt-bag evil, aren't I?

XxNightAngelusxX
# 1 -

When one of two monogamous people talks about "who they'd like to bang" or whatever, when they're supposed to be dedicated to their partner. I could understand it if they were in an open relationship (which I don't particularly advocate, but I don't discriminate all the same)... but come on. I just can't wrap my head around that. Its probably just me, I'unno.

My partner and I run on a 'Window shop but no transactions' policy, we can look and comment but no touchy touchy! If you find someone attractive bottling it up is probably not healthy, I flirt in bars sometimes but I always state that I have a girlfriend and that I love her and that I would never disgrace her.

XxNightAngelusxX
# 2 -

Listening to an unnamed couple who are around me sometimes, who are having a conversation about weight loss, and hearing this;

Female; "Yeah... I have to stay little. I have to keep the weight off me, or you won't be with me anymore."

Male; "Damn right. I don't date fatties."

Like... wow. Sounds like a healthy relationship.

That kind of mentality disgusts me.

This is messed up, if someone is with someone for their looks then they need to get out of that relationship, like now. Everyone's looks will fade and this will not produce a lasting relationship.

XxNightAngelusxX
# 3 - Telling me that "certain tones piss me off."

I have a friend who I've had numerous conversations with, and I will be TRYING my BEST to express a particular thought or feeling, and she'd get angry with me, because my "tone pissed her off."

Well, I'm sorry you can't handle certain voice tones.

Maybe if you listened to what I'm SAYING, rather than the TONE in which I'm saying it, you'd be a little closer to adopting some sense of cognitive understanding of someone's thoughts and opinions--the very thoughts and opinions you ASKED to hear.

This is not a problem I have really encountered, but I tend to have a sunny disposition even when I'm criticising! Sounds frustrating though.

Perhaps try serving all criticism with a side of compliments and understand of their view, works for me.

XxNightAngelusxX

# 4 - I have some folks in my friend circle who are a little more "open" than I am. They swing a lot of ways, and a couple of them greet one another by groping each other... which I find weird. Despite asking people not to greet me this way, they do it any way. I don't enjoy being felt up against my will (lol). I also don't enjoy being called names by friends, who seem to think that's normal... but, again, none of them seem to care.

This is something that I can relate to, but only when I was like 13 - 15 years old.. Now day's its a handshake or fist bump for a dude and a hug or a kiss on the cheek for a lady.

XxNightAngelusxX
# 5 -

Taking someone back days after discovering irrefutable evidence that they cheated on you.

And following this action with this statement;

"I only seem to love people who hurt me. I can't help it that he's cute."

......

JESUS.

You can only feel bad for folks after a certain point, ya know?

Until they're LITERALLY asking for it.

Sounds like my housemate... They're suffering from infatuation, end of.

XxNightAngelusxX
# 6 -

Me being a bad person for conspiracy theorizing.

This one is a complex issue, I'll just sum it up by saying that I usually feel like garbage just for giving any deep thought to big world problems, and every single person close to me (no exaggeration) have told me its just going to drag down my life to care about those things, and a few of these people have even gotten very angry with me for caring about this "dumb bullsh!t."

I'm not angry at them. Not completely.

But its frustrating, trying to determine exactly how I can become a part of something bigger in the world when no one around me is interested--and the simple mention of it infuriates all of them.

I don't enjoy being bumbarded with discouragement.

Its extremely frustrating and saddening.

Not one person has supported me and my ideas. Not one.

And I can understand why, because it scares and frustrates them to think about--but its starting to get really old.

All I can say is... You need new friends, or try adapting your talk about it so they can relate? Either way it sounds like there are probably people who are better matched for you to rely on.

I'm gonna say my girlfriend and I have a somewhat open relationship. Not to say we can run around town having sex with anybody we want, but kinda...

But we have to be open about it. No lying. It doesnt happen often, not out on the prowl. But how many shows have we watched where husbands, wives or lovers were killed because of infidelity? Maybe if they were honest they would all be alive today having fun.

Around the "tone" portion... one of the people I work with, being in a Senior Developer role, tends to train new team members quite often. I have no trouble conversing with him, as I've known him for a while and recognize that it's his regular way of talking/instructing... but to a new person, I have no trouble imagining that he frequently comes off as overbearing and utterly condescending. Like... utterly.

That could be a tough one to overcome if it's that sort of situation. He's actually a great guy, and really knows his stuff... but the tone when imparting it is VERY easy to take the wrong way.

How do you talk to people, when imparting knowledge?

XxNightAngelusxX

# 3 - Telling me that "certain tones piss me off."

I have a friend who I've had numerous conversations with, and I will be TRYING my BEST to express a particular thought or feeling, and she'd get angry with me, because my "tone pissed her off."

Well, I'm sorry you can't handle certain voice tones.

Maybe if you listened to what I'm SAYING, rather than the TONE in which I'm saying it, you'd be a little closer to adopting some sense of cognitive understanding of someone's thoughts and opinions--the very thoughts and opinions you ASKED to hear.

Hi there, it's funny you mention this. In fact WHAT you say is the lowest means of communicating an idea and HOW you say it is way more important. I'm not having a go at you, I just find it interesting that you say this after I just finished a two day course at work on communication and while in the course we were shown a graph on what constitutes communication.



I hope that helps. With the rest of your points however, I totally agree. One thing I've tried to do is learn to not let it get to me as the only person that hurts is you and not the person who is getting to you. I'm not suggesting that it is easy either, it's a daily struggle for me but I find that it is the only path for internal happiness.

You need new friends.

It's that simple.

Find people who value the same things, and people you can share your thoughts, opinions with without feeling like you have to hide who you are truly.

I have friends who know about my ATS "addiction", and gladly listen to and discuss with me the latest news I read here.
They even think I look great in my tinfoil hat!

Don't get me wrong we discuss things, and sometimes have varying opinions but that's how it should be. None of them have an open marriage, or have ever tried groping me though...
My friends have my back (without groping) and I know I can count on them if I need help with something.
We have similar opinions,and value similar things, that's why we get along so well.

Just my humble 2 cents.

reply to post by comfortablynumb


I'm wondering if your class covered electronic communication and what that pyramid might look like in those areas?

XxNightAngelusxX
Things have been eating at me, folks.

I am REALLY curious to know if I'm alone in this.

# 1 -

When one of two monogamous people talks about "who they'd like to bang" or whatever, when they're supposed to be dedicated to their partner. I could understand it if they were in an open relationship (which I don't particularly advocate, but I don't discriminate all the same)... but come on. I just can't wrap my head around that. Its probably just me, I'unno.

They're open about their fantasies, doesn't mean they'll get the opportunity.

XxNightAngelusxX
# 2 -

Listening to an unnamed couple who are around me sometimes, who are having a conversation about weight loss, and hearing this;

Female; "Yeah... I have to stay little. I have to keep the weight off me, or you won't be with me anymore."

Male; "Damn right. I don't date fatties."

Like... wow. Sounds like a healthy relationship.

That kind of mentality disgusts me.

What's worse than a fattie? Someone who's got nothing but unending complaints about them. There are fat people that accomplish more than those that find the time to complain about their townsfolk or obese wife/husband. If you've got the time to complain, do somethin bout'it.

Since its a couple, they're under obligation to help eachother. Walk together or accompany eachother at a gym. Your example of a man is a real gentleman, perhaps a subspecies of man.

XxNightAngelusxX

# 3 - Telling me that "certain tones piss me off."

I have a friend who I've had numerous conversations with, and I will be TRYING my BEST to express a particular thought or feeling, and she'd get angry with me, because my "tone pissed her off."

Well, I'm sorry you can't handle certain voice tones.

Maybe if you listened to what I'm SAYING, rather than the TONE in which I'm saying it, you'd be a little closer to adopting some sense of cognitive understanding of someone's thoughts and opinions--the very thoughts and opinions you ASKED to hear.

Some tones provoke laughter, something I can't help, to be frank. Losing my s*** is common in serious meetings, or upset figures, it's just funny.

XxNightAngelusxX

# 4 - I have some folks in my friend circle who are a little more "open" than I am. They swing a lot of ways, and a couple of them greet one another by groping each other... which I find weird. Despite asking people not to greet me this way, they do it any way. I don't enjoy being felt up against my will (lol). I also don't enjoy being called names by friends, who seem to think that's normal... but, again, none of them seem to care.

My best friends greet me and other circle members with vulgar names, just means we're close. As teenagers back in the day, it wasn't groping, it was nutchecking.

XxNightAngelusxX
# 5 -

Taking someone back days after discovering irrefutable evidence that they cheated on you.

And following this action with this statement;

"I only seem to love people who hurt me. I can't help it that he's cute."

......

JESUS.

You can only feel bad for folks after a certain point, ya know?

Until they're LITERALLY asking for it.

Who cares.

XxNightAngelusxX
# 6 -

Me being a bad person for conspiracy theorizing.

This one is a complex issue, I'll just sum it up by saying that I usually feel like garbage just for giving any deep thought to big world problems, and every single person close to me (no exaggeration) have told me its just going to drag down my life to care about those things, and a few of these people have even gotten very angry with me for caring about this "dumb bullsh!t."

I'm not angry at them. Not completely.

But its frustrating, trying to determine exactly how I can become a part of something bigger in the world when no one around me is interested--and the simple mention of it infuriates all of them.

I don't enjoy being bumbarded with discouragement.

Its extremely frustrating and saddening.

Not one person has supported me and my ideas. Not one.

And I can understand why, because it scares and frustrates them to think about--but its starting to get really old.



Well... that's my explosion for the month.

Rant over.

Play to an audience who cares. Works wonders.

XxNightAngelusxX
When one of two monogamous people talks about "who they'd like to bang" or whatever, when they're supposed to be dedicated to their partner. I could understand it if they were in an open relationship (which I don't particularly advocate, but I don't discriminate all the same)... but come on. I just can't wrap my head around that. Its probably just me, I'unno.

Not your business.

Listening to an unnamed couple who are around me sometimes, who are having a conversation about weight loss, and hearing this;
Female; "Yeah... I have to stay little. I have to keep the weight off me, or you won't be with me anymore."
Male; "Damn right. I don't date fatties."
Like... wow. Sounds like a healthy relationship.
That kind of mentality disgusts me.

So date a fatty, otherwise none of your business.

Telling me that "certain tones piss me off."

Tone is an essential part of communication, Get over it.

I have some folks in my friend circle who are a little more "open" than I am. They swing a lot of ways, and a couple of them greet one another by groping each other... which I find weird. Despite asking people not to greet me this way, they do it any way. I don't enjoy being felt up against my will (lol). I also don't enjoy being called names by friends, who seem to think that's normal... but, again, none of them seem to care.

If they grope each other, it's none of your business. If they grope YOU, OK. Tell 'em to stop.

Taking someone back days after discovering irrefutable evidence that they cheated on you.
And following this action with this statement;
"I only seem to love people who hurt me. I can't help it that he's cute."

Unless it's you, none of your business.

Me being a bad person for conspiracy theorizing.

I can understand this one. But the bottom line is that of all your gripes, most all of them save the last one are about other people behaving in ways you don't want them to behave. By and large it's none of your business how they behave. The only person's behavior you can control is your own. And it appears to be causing you a lot of stress.

The bottom line is to back off and get out of everyone else's business and instead pay attention to your own self. You'll be a lot happier.

XxNightAngelusxX
Things have been eating at me, folks.

I am REALLY curious to know if I'm alone in this.

Please allow me to provide a translation you can accept or reject.

# 1 -

When one of two monogamous people talks about "who they'd like to bang" or whatever, when they're supposed to be dedicated to their partner. I could understand it if they were in an open relationship (which I don't particularly advocate, but I don't discriminate all the same)... but come on. I just can't wrap my head around that. Its probably just me, I'unno.

What you are saying to me here is that you have thoughts of another while in a "monogamous" relationship. Other people cannot justify your thoughts for you. Try not to worry about what other people are doing if you can.

# 2 -

Listening to an unnamed couple who are around me sometimes, who are having a conversation about weight loss, and hearing this;

Female; "Yeah... I have to stay little. I have to keep the weight off me, or you won't be with me anymore."

Male; "Damn right. I don't date fatties."

Like... wow. Sounds like a healthy relationship.

That kind of mentality disgusts me.

Either you are not satisfied with yourself or you feel your partner is not satisfied with you. Either way its all in your head.

# 3 - Telling me that "certain tones piss me off."

I have a friend who I've had numerous conversations with, and I will be TRYING my BEST to express a particular thought or feeling, and she'd get angry with me, because my "tone pissed her off."

Well, I'm sorry you can't handle certain voice tones.

Maybe if you listened to what I'm SAYING, rather than the TONE in which I'm saying it, you'd be a little closer to adopting some sense of cognitive understanding of someone's thoughts and opinions--the very thoughts and opinions you ASKED to hear.

Basically when people are together or in groups they need to bounce of each other. When the rythym is out people push their ideas hard and the heart beat increases. Once the heart beat increases so does the tone. The body is telling us when we or others are "pushing hard". It is called body language.

# 4 - I have some folks in my friend circle who are a little more "open" than I am. They swing a lot of ways, and a couple of them greet one another by groping each other... which I find weird. Despite asking people not to greet me this way, they do it any way. I don't enjoy being felt up against my will (lol). I also don't enjoy being called names by friends, who seem to think that's normal... but, again, none of them seem to care.

You are not obligated to spend your time with people that make you uncomfortable. You could accept what they do and see it from another perspective or you can associate with people more in tune with your resonance. Or you could project your displeasure at them in a calm and collected manner (my choice)

# 5 -

Taking someone back days after discovering irrefutable evidence that they cheated on you.

And following this action with this statement;

"I only seem to love people who hurt me. I can't help it that he's cute."

......

JESUS.

You can only feel bad for folks after a certain point, ya know?

Until they're LITERALLY asking for it.

A cheating mind is a cheating mind. It takes two to tango.

# 6 -

Me being a bad person for conspiracy theorizing.

This one is a complex issue, I'll just sum it up by saying that I usually feel like garbage just for giving any deep thought to big world problems, and every single person close to me (no exaggeration) have told me its just going to drag down my life to care about those things, and a few of these people have even gotten very angry with me for caring about this "dumb bullsh!t."

I'm not angry at them. Not completely.

But its frustrating, trying to determine exactly how I can become a part of something bigger in the world when no one around me is interested--and the simple mention of it infuriates all of them.

I don't enjoy being bumbarded with discouragement.

Its extremely frustrating and saddening.

Not one person has supported me and my ideas. Not one.

And I can understand why, because it scares and frustrates them to think about--but its starting to get really old.



Well... that's my explosion for the month.

Rant over.

People are going to attack egos at every opportunity it is how they satisfy their lack of emotional energy or something like that. To some it is called feeding to others it just fun and games. So some it is an opportunity to assist.

Everything you have expressed in your post is what your mind is telling you to deal with. I hope I have provided some assistance.

SilverStarGazer
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I'm wondering if your class covered electronic communication and what that pyramid might look like in those areas?

We sure did! Electronic communication has so many misinterpretations due to the lack of the other forms of communication and why emoticons can help convey the tone or "body language" in a message and perhaps ease the issues with electronic communication.

That's more than one rant. I couldn't keep up.


On the one, if you don't like being felt up, slap their groping hand and say # off. They won't do it again. Other people doing it isn't your business really.

reply to post by schuyler


I'm pretty sure if they go out of their way to challenge and offend me, it IS my business. They go far out of their way to make sure some of these things affect me. A lot of people do this.

Please stop being a troll and refrain from the hateful comments on my threads.

Oh yes, and get over yourself.

reply to post by TheDualityExperience

Either you are not satisfied with yourself or you feel your partner is not satisfied with you. Either way its all in your head.

I know what I heard, and if someone were to say that to me, they'd be living the rest of their lives without me around.

I don't understand how people can deal with that type of thing, how does that make me insecure?

reply to post by XxNightAngelusxX


I would be worrying more about getting an entirely new set of friends, you know, the kind who are healthier mentally.

# 6 -

Me being a bad person for conspiracy theorizing.

This one is a complex issue, I'll just sum it up by saying that I usually feel like garbage just for giving any deep thought to big world problems, and every single person close to me (no exaggeration) have told me its just going to drag down my life to care about those things, and a few of these people have even gotten very angry with me for caring about this "dumb bullsh!t."


That is my friends to a "T". They just dont want to hear it, and the taking back a person after the cheated on you...HA. That screams low self esteem.