No Love This Valentine's Day

I used to love Valentines Day, the candlelit dinner, flowers on the table, heart shaped chocklates and a card expressing how deeply I would be loved forever. Now all I have are the memories of a sweeter time, years and years of precious memories that now bring sorrow and pain.

I know I'm not alone. I know a lot of you are hurting like I am, wondering when the tears will end, when the hurt won't be as bad. How do you burry emotions of a lifetime spent with someone who no longer loves you back?

To each and every one of you I wish you courage and some semblance of peace. And to you I give my love and a big warm hug!

reply to post by Night Star


they should start heartbreak day, for all those heartbroken people.

Sometimes the only way to dull the hurt is to give the love you have to somebody who needs it....badly. Which is exactly what you did with your post. Thank you.

Do something nice for yourself today. A little chocolate, a nice meal, and a funny movie perhaps.

reply to post by Night Star


I hate being single also on valentines day and seeing Iam skint at the moment I will be like this.



Iam just hiding away till it has past

reply to post by taoistguy


Good idea. A day for those who share sorrow for lost loves. We can all celebrate together.

reply to post by Night Star


Right there with you.

Thanks. A Happy Valentines day to you Night Star. *HUGS*

Just realised it's today...grrrr got work soon and they will be like " how many valentines did you get?" I better tell a white lie and say 25 lol.

reply to post by FissionSurplus


One of your threads as well as someone elses inspired this one. Thanks Sweetie

Pathetic, if you sit around moping on valentines day then you seriously need to get a life, the world is much more interesting than to be wasted on love sh*t so pull yourselves together ffs.

And stop feeding the economy by buying over-priced shiney red chocolates with stupid plastic love hearts attached

Night Star
I used to love Valentines Day, the candlelit dinner, flowers on the table, heart shaped chocklates and a card expressing how deeply I would be loved forever. Now all I have are the memories of a sweeter time, years and years of precious memories that now bring sorrow and pain.

I know I'm not alone. I know a lot of you are hurting like I am, wondering when the tears will end, when the hurt won't be as bad. How do you burry emotions of a lifetime spent with someone who no longer loves you back?

The answer has got to be, you do not bury those emotions. Burial of ANY emotion is usually bad practice anyway, because it delays the point at which you start dealing with the emotion in question.

The crucial thing is to remember to love yourself. You have to be conscious of the fact that one can deserve an awful lot of love, be a fantastic human being, and an all round good egg, and receive absolutely no appreciation from the rest of mankind, in this modern age. What you do not get from anyone else, you must learn to provide for yourself I think. It is not ideal, but it does work!

To each and every one of you I wish you courage and some semblance of peace. And to you I give my love and a big warm hug!

I am sure I am not alone when I say that as much as a member on a website can love another member on a website, whose members are often separated by vast tonnages of liquid H20, I love you to bits. You are loved Night Star, and as you know there are many kinds of love out there. I am just so sorry that the sort you need is outside of your reach right now. I may not know how your precise circumstance feels, but as much as anyone knows how hard an absence of love is to bear... well, you know. I am sorry you are going through that.

*MASSIVE, GIANT HUGGLES!*

Happy Valentine's Day to all you lonely hearts. I love you all and that's no BS.

I'd attach some kisses, but the snarly thing gets in the way.

reply to post by Night Star


I throw an anti-valentines party every year.

So anyone who doesn't have plans can come to a party, and not have to partake in the depressing side of being single on valentines day.

Oh hon, I'm sorry your alone, and here's a **HUG**

But I'm married, and still don't buy into this "Hallmark" holiday. I won't be doing anything different, and my hubby knows he better not either.

Because when it comes right down to it, just telling your friends and family, EVERY day, how much you love them is the only thing that matters.

I hope for all you singles out there, the day flies by, and that you find a special someone very soon! (only if you want one!)

reply to post by Night Star

Hi Night Star, I don't really follow the Valentine's protocol per se. Around here we feel that every day should be the expression of love that Valentine's Day is, and random flowers/treats make me FAR happier than my loved one feeling dutiful on a prescribed day. And THIS coming from a true romantic at heart!! lol
Not into the commercialism aspect at all though.

I am sorry that your beautiful memories have transpired into pain; I cannot imagine how deeply that must hurt, and also for those whose loves have passed on as well. Knowing that one day we will all be a lover passed on, or the one left behind, is hard to bear; but it is a truth we must reconcile. Even those with partners today, they too have had their share of Valentine's Days spent alone.

As for

How do you burry emotions of a lifetime spent with someone who no longer loves you back?

My only answer to that is I'm not sure you can altogether, but know that pain fades in time. Try to love yourself like never before, and love those around you who reflect that love back, be it friends, family, or beloved pets. Treat yourself today and any day you see fit, and with kindness.

Sending peace and courage to you, and love and HUGS too (and for all who visit here)!



"Take heart, my friends! You are worth more than you can conceive, and you are worthy of love. You are worthy of love simply because you exist – you are a creation of Love Itself!"

Well I don't know about you, but all my pain and stress just gave me something to set my sight's on.

Those I loved and held close were brilliant and I trusted them, but they lied to me, twisted, tortured and manipulated me till I was left as nothing more than a shadow of who I was.
I don't have a problem with valentines day it's only when I look around on days like this and have it shoved in my face all day long. That's what annoys me.

reply to post by boymonkey74


Thanks for always making me smile or laugh!

spleenika
reply to post by Night Star

 

Right there with you.

Thanks. A Happy Valentines day to you Night Star. *HUGS*

Thank you!!!! Hugs back!!!

reply to post by TrueBrit


Awwwwwww, thank you so very much my friend!!! It's always such a pleasure to meet people as cool, kind, caring, fun and full of love such as yourself. There are no miles too great to keep a good friend apart.

reply to post by Snarl


Happy Valentine's to you too!!! Hugs!

This is my way of coping with the corporate holiday.



Hope it lessen the loneliness!