feelings of reclusiveness

TheDoctor46
I get what your saying. I mean it does sound appealing being in the mountains away from people. Then I think..Nah I would be to lonely...Then when I socialise i realize how many fake people and liars are about whom I would love to knock there teeth out...LOL.....So I'm still no wiser

....Society sure is a pain sometimes!!!!

There are even THOSE kinds in the country. LOL! Men have a distinct advantage though. They can grow a crazy beard and look like a deranged mountain man so no one messes with them.
Me? I can let my leg and armpit hair grow.. and all Ill look like is a hippy chick.. and get hit up for smoke, granola, and incense from the townies.

Another female chiming in here....I've been in 'reclusive mode' for about 3 years now.
There is something very 'real' about being out in nature.
Living in a city, the constant hum of electricity being pumped out of everything is really disturbing. I'm pretty sure that all the artificial city crap (lighting, fake trees, fake heat/air conditioning, etc.) is the reason so many people are depressed.

jacygirl

reply to post by Advantage


Lol I'm currently growing a crazy beard now in fact. Maybe it's a sign. You could try and grow one, I know some of the ladies round here have no problem growing them

reply to post by TheDoctor46


I always dreamed of having an off the grid home on a couple acres. Nothing big, nothing fancy, but sustainable, simple, and beautiful. Of course, that never happened. I'm in a suburban home that I can't afford to even fix up, drowning in my American Dream of debt.

Even so, I'm reclusive in the sense that I don't feel I need to interact with people. I don't feel lonely. But occasionally, I think it would be great to have a spouse who shares my same reclusive aspects.

Interestingly, I would love to also be a perpetual traveler, and interact with people as I travelled around the world, getting to know each "place" and the people who call it home.

Yes, doesn't make sense, but that's me.

reply to post by Galadriel


I know what you mean. I would to travel and just meet people from different places. That does sound so appealing. Just me and my camera. I just love to get in the countryside. And it's only a ten minute walk thankfully. My house is being sold atm so I will be debt free then (makes a change). I hate my job so I can't see me doing that much longer. I feel it's time for change all round. New job new home.....and hopefully new people. Because the people round here are just so annoying!!..

After reading your guys comments I had an idea that I ran past my wife...

The idea. Stay living where we live for the kids friends, school etc, and both our jobs that are secure. We purchase a piece of land about 1 hour drive away (yes I have had my eye on it). its a piece of land that is 22.5 acres 60% treed which also sits on the side of a major (clean running) river. its very remote, closet town being 30mins away. We would use this as our own private camp ground. We would camp out there as much as we could, and if at any time she and the kids didn't want to go, I could go on my own; and she would know I am only an hour away.

The best part - She loves the idea

We also mentioned, once the kids were grown and moved out..THEN we could think of building a cabin on it.

Feeling good.

TheDoctor46
reply to post by Galadriel

 

I know what you mean. I would to travel and just meet people from different places. That does sound so appealing. Just me and my camera. I just love to get in the countryside. And it's only a ten minute walk thankfully. My house is being sold atm so I will be debt free then (makes a change). I hate my job so I can't see me doing that much longer. I feel it's time for change all round. New job new home.....and hopefully new people. Because the people round here are just so annoying!!..

What does "being sold atm" mean?

Also, I'm not fond of my job either, but I am grateful to be working and having a paycheck.

Hope your plans turn out well for a new job/home/people.

reply to post by Walkingsenseless


I always feel like that - Grew up in an area that had a lot of farms and woodlands (some of it may or may not have been private property). I lived there for probably about 3/4ths of my lived life - and had to move away from it the day after I graduated :'( .

Now, I live on the outskirts of a major city, where I don't really belong. When I'm able to retire though, my destination is going to be closer to the mountains, as I fell in love with them the last time I was in Gatlinburg. (Statewise, I'm aiming for Tennessee or Kentucky - I want to live somewhere where winter doesn't really set in much).

-fossilera

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Can I get a woman cabin that's just my own?? ... Meh ... Probably not. I'm a stay at home mama... I am soon looking for a job so I can be able to support myself ... Being broke jokers is no fun.
You seem blessed that you and your wife have steady jobs and that's great that you are able to buy some land and do what you please with it. Glad your wife is with ya on that

* I see a lot of others would like the same thing. Society isn't all that bad.. Imo. I guess I look for the good in everything. And people being fake doesn't bother me. More power to them...cause I feel that what goes around comes around...

And I'm thinking I like advantages idea about becoming a real hippie chick.. That sounds good to me

Get yourself a boat or a fishing buddy with one.....go fishing.....
It saved my sanity.......................

reply to post by Galadriel

Sorry I should of made it clearer for you. I meant my house its being sold at the moment. I was being lazy with shorthand !...... And thank you for your kind words. The best of luck to you as well

I've always been that way - I never married because I never felt a strong need for companionship.

I don't understand people who are married with kids wanting to be reclusive, unless it's just a reaction to your present circumstances (I don't believe that if you are truly reclusive, as I am, you would throw yourself into the 'married with kids' whirlpool without a second thought).

I don't really like people (though have got a high tolerance level) and have always fantasised about getting away from it all, buying the hundred-acre farmhouse in the wilds of Scotland and having my food delivered in bulk every couple of months.

But I'm not a millionaire and it's a pipe dream, so I'll just have to settle for what I've got.

If I was really determined I'd rough it, but I'm too old and pampered to be bothered now.