posted on Jan, 12 2014 @ 06:44 AM
Wow! I can soooo identify with those of you saying what living with 'ADHD' is like. My life is littered with incomplete tasks. I find it so hard to
do things that bore me and get so easily distracted by something else, but give me a project I am interested in and it will take me over. I am also a
perfectionist and need a time limit to actually complete something or it never will be done to my satisfaction. If I somewhere where there is a lot of
people talking I find it so hard to concentrate on what someone is saying to me as I am picking up on so many other things. I also do this with
people's mental states particularly zoning in to people who are distressed. Suppose I have always known I didn't seem to be like many others I met
and was a bit different and used to be very anxious.
I have never been diagnosed with this but seem to have found a way to live with it and certainly never previously considered this. I used to have a
big problem with zoning out totally when faced with boredom either finding it impossible to stay awake or stimulating myself by being the class clown.
And I have to say that I have found stimulants very helpful in counteracting this. At the advanced age of 59 I actually feel quite blessed and realise
that I have an enhanced ability to be able to stand back from situations and see all sides to an argument and generally the 'bigger picture'.
I also want to make the observation of how we live today being so different to 50 odd years ago. We now seem to expect both parents to work so how
can we possibly give our children the time and attention they need. The last thing we can cope with after a hard days work is an active child and
endless questions. Result - inability for parents to cope and medication of said child!
Also, what child today walks miles to get to school or is allowed to go off and play in the woods. We are kept in fear of a bogeyman around every
corner and want to keep our children close. When I was a kid I used to roam for miles (not that I was actually allowed to but still did) and spent
many happy hours knee deep in ponds etc. How many kids these days live in an environment where they can do this, the streets are a very different
environment! Also there was a time when children were seen as an economic necessity to help with food production etc and we're not expecting to sit
in front of a box with moving pictures and keep out of exhausted parents hair. This is still the case in parts of the world - do they identify ADHD? I
suspect not but am about to wander off into cyber land to see if I can find out.
Raising children was once much more of a tribal or extended family affair - now we all live in our little boxes and most of us have little experience
of children until we have them and can have very unrealistic ideas of what parenthood is really like. And now we live in a society that values the
accumulation of money and we humans are so good at exploiting every situation to do so. Result - the drug industry! Do NOT underestimate their power
and the drive to produce more and more pills to 'fix' things when time is so expensive.
There are so many different factors at work here and humans seem to think there is only ONE cause for everything - this is totally illogical when you
really think about it?
Other things that may have a bearing on the topic - maybe it is due to the process of evolution and therefore very normal. Society's structure needs
time to evolve with it but most people find change very stressful and when do humans agree on anything, as this and most threads on ATS show?
Right off to Africa, cyber speaking!