Here is one for ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Id like to know,I have a 13 year old in school she has been held back once.Ok so what is this whole no child left behind sh**. She has been behind for a long time and has been offered NO help at all


She was tested and found out when she was in the 2nd grade that she is dyslexic.No school i have put her in has any government granted help.So were do the funds go??? Oh that's right it all goes to football,basketball,baseball,wrestling,and all other GAMES. So i ask again were is the help she needs?? I was mistaken to think that a school was for teaching,No matter the problem.I cant afford to pay for someone to tutor her.So really she has been left behind to fall in the cracks.Where is the justice in this.If i could afford it i would have her in a special school or a special teacher for her but i cant.She tested to high for special ed but to low to be in reg classes,But they dont offer any other solutions for this. So what do i do really???????????????





I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

reply to post by LadyLurker


I wish you well.

I know it can be frustrating trying to find help for those who need it.

If she's autistic, you should be able to get her more help.

I would go to D.S.S. for options and I know it can be rather painful going there. But they may be able to point you in the right direction.

Good Luck

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You need to look into your local programs ...I know it may be exhausting but think of it as WAR!!!!

Your child has a well known learning disability ..perhaps you could meet with her teachers and your child could help educate the rest of the class, or the school, about dyslexia ? Would you mind joining the PTA? You can't be the ONLY person in the entire school system or community that has this setback .....

they won't "give" you anything. It's your job as a concerned parent to get in their face and make them provide the special attention that your child needs

acacko
It's your job as a concerned parent to get in their face and make them provide the special attention that your child needs

It's also the job of a parent to be responsible for educating them aswell and not leaving everything up to relative strangers.

What has been done on a parent to child basis to help them?

acacko
they won't "give" you anything. It's your job as a concerned parent to get in their face and make them provide the special attention that your child needs

Exactly!

As a father of an autistic child, I can tell you with no hesitation that no one will help with anything unless you force help out of them...

If all else fails, write to your senator.

Make enough noise, they will listen.

Those bastards don't care about anyone unless they absolutely have to...

...and, yet they still try to tell us parents what's best for our children.

nerbot

acacko
It's your job as a concerned parent to get in their face and make them provide the special attention that your child needs

It's also the job of a parent to be responsible for educating them aswell and not leaving everything up to relative strangers.

Your child's teacher is not a relative stranger. They have the responsibility of making sure your child is getting an education.

If the child is having trouble, then the teacher should work with the parents at developing a solution. Teachers don't usually do that these days... they just fail the kid.

The school system is ridiculous.

LadyLurker
So what do i do really??????????????? I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Academic Language Therapy Association

I had a bit of trouble reaching this website through a link from another website, but if you have trouble with the link above, type the organization name into Google and it should pop right up. At the top of the page, click on "Resources", then "Directory of Certified Members" and it should pull up a map of the US. Click on your state and a list of certified professionals should pop up. If none of those folks are able to help you, contact the association directly, explain your situation and perhaps they will be able to point you in the right direction.

Children's Dyslexia Centers, Inc.

Another organization that may be able to assist you in your search for assistance.

I hope this helps some.

reply to post by LadyLurker


Bring up your issue at the next PTA & Board of Education meetings...

Helping your family starts with YOU and not THEM.

applesthateatpeople

nerbot

acacko
It's your job as a concerned parent to get in their face and make them provide the special attention that your child needs

It's also the job of a parent to be responsible for educating them aswell and not leaving everything up to relative strangers.

Your child's teacher is not a relative stranger. They have the responsibility of making sure your child is getting an education.

If the child is having trouble, then the teacher should work with the parents at developing a solution. Teachers don't usually do that these days... they just fail the kid.

The school system is ridiculous.

Really grinds my gears when I hear this. Teachers have meeting with parents all the time.

The kids who do better in school usually have proactive and caring parents that attend these meetings. The kids who do horrible in school usually have the opposite.

ChuckNasty

applesthateatpeople

nerbot

acacko
It's your job as a concerned parent to get in their face and make them provide the special attention that your child needs

It's also the job of a parent to be responsible for educating them aswell and not leaving everything up to relative strangers.

Your child's teacher is not a relative stranger. They have the responsibility of making sure your child is getting an education.

If the child is having trouble, then the teacher should work with the parents at developing a solution. Teachers don't usually do that these days... they just fail the kid.

The school system is ridiculous.

Really grinds my gears when I hear this. Teachers have meeting with parents all the time.

The kids who do better in school usually have proactive and caring parents that attend these meetings. The kids who do horrible in school usually have the opposite.

First of all, I don't care what grinds your gears.

Second, yes teachers do meet with parents...

From my experience, there are very FEW teachers who care enough to actually help parents help their children...

Most teachers think THEY have all the answers and the parent should listen.

I can only think of one teacher (off hand) that showed any interest in what I (the parent) felt about a situation.

Not every school is the same. Some of them are brimming with incompetence.

applesthateatpeople

ChuckNasty

applesthateatpeople

nerbot

acacko
It's your job as a concerned parent to get in their face and make them provide the special attention that your child needs

It's also the job of a parent to be responsible for educating them aswell and not leaving everything up to relative strangers.

Your child's teacher is not a relative stranger. They have the responsibility of making sure your child is getting an education.

If the child is having trouble, then the teacher should work with the parents at developing a solution. Teachers don't usually do that these days... they just fail the kid.

The school system is ridiculous.

Really grinds my gears when I hear this. Teachers have meeting with parents all the time.

The kids who do better in school usually have proactive and caring parents that attend these meetings. The kids who do horrible in school usually have the opposite.

First of all, I don't care what grinds your gears.

Second, yes teachers do meet with parents...

Parents meet with teachers. Maybe writing that way will help a person see who owns the problem. Those who own the problem are the ones who need to fix it.

From my experience, there are very FEW teachers who care enough to actually help parents help their children...

Most teachers think THEY have all the answers and the parent should listen.

These 2 lines cancel out each other..

I can only think of one teacher (off hand) that showed any interest in what I (the parent) felt about a situation.

So this one time, the situation was grave enough for the usually non caring teacher to care? Teachers are trained professionals, you trust them enough to teach your children...but don't trust them to give you advice unless it is along your same way of thinking?

Not every school is the same. Some of them are brimming with incompetence.

edit on 2-12-2013 by applesthateatpeople because: (no reason given)

I really hope that you find a teacher who helps your troubled children.

When you point fingers - you have 3 pointing back at you.

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"I really hope that you find a teacher who helps your troubled children."

Autistic child (as I said in my first post).

He runs around destroying their classrooms, and most of them (there have been many) have no interest in my advice. I laugh at them. Had they listened to me things could have been a lot easier on them.

We finally found a good teacher, but it was a long hard road.

A long...

Hard...

Road...

reply to post by applesthateatpeople

My bad. Had you mixed up with the OP.

Autism is no joke. Really takes a good teacher for that. Thought your kid had the dyslexia...

Again, my bad.

applesthateatpeople
Your child's teacher is not a relative stranger.

I don't have a child.

Regardless...unless you socialise and know a teacher outside of their work environment they ARE a relative stranger. You will have no idea what they really think or how they feel towards the children they teach.

They have the responsibility of making sure your child is getting an education.

And parents have a resonsibility to make sure their children CAN be taught. The influence of an unhappy home life or other social, medical etc problems often reflects on schooling with the slow or bad learners. I was one so I know.

If the child is having trouble, then the teacher should work with the parents at developing a solution. Teachers don't usually do that these days... they just fail the kid.

Quite right, they "should" in an ideal world, but how many teachers have the time or incentive to go above and beyond for each child in need of help?

The school system is ridiculous.

Which is why I finished my schooling early and got a job while others were sucking up the spoonfed agenda. I learned more in a year out of school than many years of education could provide. My parents were pretty useless btw. Not their fault, they were just being parents who didn't want the grief of having to think outside the box.

Parenting should come with an extensive written exam imo before sprogs are allowed to be squeezed out. Orwellian I know, but why should that make it wrong?

ChuckNasty
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My bad. Had you mixed up with the OP.

Autism is no joke. Really takes a good teacher for that. Thought your kid had the dyslexia...

Again, my bad.

So all that trash talk was for the OP?? You really think i haven't try ed pulling all my resources.Well news flash i have and came up with nothing ..I go to the school 2 times a month talking to her teachers the principle and a few other places.I am the first to know it is not up to the teachers to do ANYTHING!!!!!I do not put anything on them they have to teach a classroom not one child so yes i know this.To be a jerk to some one who is asking for help doesn't say much about yourself. I was asking for help to get better ideas on anything else i could try not to be bashed about what you feel i have or haven't tried or done . But thank you for your input anyways.

LadyLurker

ChuckNasty
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My bad. Had you mixed up with the OP.

Autism is no joke. Really takes a good teacher for that. Thought your kid had the dyslexia...

Again, my bad.

So all that trash talk was for the OP?? You really think i haven't try ed pulling all my resources.Well news flash i have and came up with nothing ..I go to the school 2 times a month talking to her teachers the principle and a few other places.I am the first to know it is not up to the teachers to do ANYTHING!!!!!I do not put anything on them they have to teach a classroom not one child so yes i know this.To be a jerk to some one who is asking for help doesn't say much about yourself. I was asking for help to get better ideas on anything else i could try not to be bashed about what you feel i have or haven't tried or done . But thank you for your input anyways.

Guilty as charged.

Attend those PTA meetings AND board of education meetings. That other guy had a real issue of autism. Your child has dyslexia. Sorry for your child's schooling.

I went through something a bit different than simple dyslexia. Try working with kids who are ESL. It really takes an effort on the parents part more so than the teacher. I never blamed a teacher because I understood that the kids behavior and effort is a solid reflection of how the parents react.

So I've been there and realized that I was the one who needed to get 99% involved and not shift blame.

Really hope you find assistance for your child. Teachers can be lacking in experience - but in the end, it is YOU who needs to take charge and not shift blame. Shifting blame is akin to giving up IMO.

God bless.

Edit - The 'trash' talk was in reaction to what I thought was facts. The fact being a mountain being made from a molehill. Autism is no joke. Everyone knows a parent going through similar. The hospital appointments alone are difficult. Dyslexia - even I have that...

im not putting all of the blame on her disability or on any of her teachers. The school system itself seems somewhat unproductive, in that her grades dont seem to make any difference. she can fail every class and they still pass her to the next grade. There is no drive or motivation to even achieve if you know they are going to pass you to the next grade anyway. for some reason here they cant hold the children back until 9th grade. My fear is that by time she is made to try she will be older and already used to not even having to try...many kids in that situation prefer to simply drop out.

i can put a lot of the blame on myself. And sure the PTA is a path to change, but by time i tackle a challenge as big as changing the entire system itself, she wont even be in school anymore.

other schools in the region have all kinds of in-and-after-school tutoring programs, and truth be told ill probably have to breakdown and find a way to get her into one of those schools. but my main gripe is that this particular school spends all of its $$$ on baseball/football fields and other various infrastructure....but very little goes toward improving academics. one of the nicest looking schools youll ever see...with some of the most horrid test scores.