Hello My Freinds... My Daughter Has Less than 1 Year to Live

Thank you for sharing those pictures.....I am crying because though I have her on my list, I didn't know what she looks like....it's just having a face to go with the name. It just seems like so many are getting serious illnesses.
I feel your pain. and I understand what you and your daughter are going through. It's so hard to find the words to express the profound sympathy and empathy I feel for you right now.

If I were there, I wouldn't say anything...I would just hug you both because there are really no words that haven't been said a million times over (or that's how it seems)

I hope that you guys will hold onto whatever glimmer of hope you can, because we never know what the next hour, day, or week will hold. Yes, the chance may be slim....but if there is even one fine thread of hope, hold onto it. Cherish the time left as I know you will. You also have those grandchildren, and she will live on through them.

If you need a friend, or just want to rant and someone to listen....I am only a U2U away ok?

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Sweetheart... I don't know about hope for life anymore... really. She has to take 210 mg of morphine every 8 hours plus vicodin for breakthough pain.. 10/325 every 4 hours as needed... and she only weighs 76 pounds now.... and even with all that... she still cries the pain is so bad.

She cant bathe herself anymore... she needs help to even make it to the bathroom she is so weak... its been one infection after the other.. and in the last 4 months she has only been out of the hospital less than 3 weeks....

She died once already and they revived her...

Although hope is nice... sometimes an end to the fight is good too... but I do pray, if nothing else but God's will...

Thank you for your love... and know that I am also only a U2U away if you need as well!

Breaks my heart. my thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

keep us updated less we forget...such is the human mind.

I read something the other day that hit me like a train in it's poignant simplicity and brevity. After reading your thread it immediately surfaced into my thoughts.

"In the end all will be okay ... if it is not okay, it is not the end"

I wish you and your daughter healing and peace in your time of trial and hour of deepest soulful need. A loss like this ... there are just no words.

If and when she passes, it will still not be the end. But one day ... in His restored kingdom, in that place and on that day, all will be well.

Thank you for allowing us to help in whatever small way we can.

*Hugs*

Warmest regards,

FTE

I am so sorry for the pain you and your family are going through now. I think of my own daughter who is twenty years old now and I truly don't believe I would have even a measure of the strength that you have shown if something were to happen to her.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

OpinionatedB
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Sweetheart... I don't know about hope for life anymore... really. She has to take 210 mg of morphine every 8 hours plus vicodin for breakthough pain.. 10/325 every 4 hours as needed... and she only weighs 76 pounds now.... and even with all that... she still cries the pain is so bad.

She cant bathe herself anymore... she needs help to even make it to the bathroom she is so weak... its been one infection after the other.. and in the last 4 months she has only been out of the hospital less than 3 weeks....

She died once already and they revived her...

Although hope is nice... sometimes an end to the fight is good too... but I do pray, if nothing else but God's will...

Thank you for your love... and know that I am also only a U2U away if you need as well!

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Yes, I understand...I'm so very sorry you all are going through this. Trust me when I say I do know what you are going through. I'm going to continue to keep you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers. You are not alone ((((hugs))))

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Dear OpinionatedB,
Sending love and prayers to you and your family.
xoxoxo

I'm so sorry to hear about this. I lost my dad last year to lung cancer and in less than 9 months from diagnosis he was gone. Thing is he never smoked. I think God is calling his angels home at this time, I really do. He's preparing us for something and we must trust in his judgement no matter how much it hurts, and it does - plenty.

Be there for her and for each other during this time. Savor the time you have and take comfort in knowing she made this world a better place for her being in it.

She sounds like an amazing person and your love for her is painfully obvious. In the final tally it seems like all that ever matters is love.

Best wishes to her and your entire family, be strong for her - she is counting on it.

Asktheanimals

Eta: I just read your link. Dear lady, I may not know you but your daughter is great because you are her mother. No mistakes were made by you, that was another's fault.

Asktheanimals
I lost my dad last year to lung cancer and in less than 9 months from diagnosis he was gone. Thing is he never smoked.

I think God is calling his angels home at this time, I really do. He's preparing us for something and we must trust in his judgement no matter how much it hurts, and it does - plenty.


Asktheanimals

I know its so weird... my daughter has cervical cancer... this, the MOST curable form of cancer today... she was diagnosed one year ago... thats it, one year and it is now EVERYWHERE... she now has it throughout her entire abdomen and stomach, liver, lungs.... everywhere... she has lost her bladder, most of her bowels, all her reproductive system... cancer... everywhere


and this was cervical! flipping curable!

and with everything going on, I cant help but think the same thing.... he is calling his angels home now... and we are about to see hell on this earth....

if that is true... I am so very glad she wont be here for that! but oddly... I cant stop thinking it!

which yes, sounds completely nuts... but then I don't know if I can make any claim to sanity lately!

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Lost my father to cancer in 2005. My prayers go out to her and you and your family. Stay strong, and do everything for her. I have had people with 1 month left and 5 years later actually healthy.

OP,
I believe my mom sent me here to read your post. This past Friday was the day my family moved into her beautiful home which was also the date of my fathers 33yrd year anniversary of his death.

All I can say you need to be strong. Your daughter has children and to be honest that is probably her first and only priority, it's should be her only thought a GED is nothing next to being a good mother. She is probably thinking who will take care of them. Who is going to pass joy to them. Who is going to make sure they grow up happy and also make sure they don't forget her. Their life history and future passes through her mind every day every minute.

You need to be strong for her children I remember when I was small and lost my father I needed everyone around me to help and support me.
You got a job to do, and you can't let grief get in the way. Your daughter needs you for the kids because how much you believe you need and miss your daughter they will need her spirit more.

For my mom, she beat stage 4 breast cancer and then took on and beat stage 2 lung cancer in her left lower lobe by having it removed. Unfortunately last month she became a victim in a homicide but she brought me here to tell you it's all about your grandchildren.

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Dear sister,
thank you for sharing the hardest thing you have ever had to face in life with us here on ATS. I feel an agony in the pain you are going through watching a most beloved child of yours fighting the battle of her life. I am so sorry for your pain and anguish but I have a message for you which may be hard to bear, it may even sound ridiculous.

The longer we are alive here in this world the harder it is to be clean and in this the young that leave this world are blessed. It is harder the longer we are in this world spiritually. I know this is not anything to be consoled about amidst this tremendous battle but through my life I have come to understand that indeed 'only the good die young', the rest of us must account for plenty more which in many ways may even be harder in the great beyond. She has given you two beautiful grandchildren and even consoled you because she is wise beyond her years. Trust what she says to you in a readiness because she is touching the Divine.

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From the bottom of my heart i hope for the best luck and lots of love for you and your family, now and for days to come.

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I know EXACTLY how your daughter feels because 3 yrs ago I was also dying. I had 4th stage cirrhosis of the liver. Miracles DO happen and I pray it will happen for your daughter too as it did for me. My wife never gave up and it turned out she was the only one who was right.

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You know my heart and prayers are with her and you, and your family. You are staying strong in an impossible situation. She is beautiful, thank you for showing us who she is.

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Thank you for sharing this so open-heartedly. Your daughter looks like a wonderfull woman and mother. And you certainly are a very strong and loving mother to her. I wish you the best moments possible in the remaining time you have with her.

From a stranger who cares deeply,

soulwaxer

Conventional medical treatments are often not enough, because they do not treat the cause of the cancer, but only the symptoms. There is something that will treat the cause of it.

Look into Ayahuasca. It is something that the natives of the amazon use for healing purposes. It is very much worth taking the risk, the effort, to go to peru and to a place called the lighthouse. They will help you by donation and your daughter will have to stay in peru, taking ayahuasca while the treatment heals her. Please look into this, it can save her life if you both have open enough minds. Conventional medical is not the only way to go. Thank you.

OpinionatedB

.. tonight was the first time I cried in front of her... but I smiled even in the tears....

This.

It's God's own truth. I was there, I saw it. The woman had tears running down her face, yet maintained a smile, and you could even hear the smile in her voice.

It's a hard conversation to have, on both sides. There is never any "right" thing to say. Afterwards, there is always a lot of "I shoulda said...", but in truth there just isn't anything right to say. You have "the talk", as best you can, and then THAT conversation is behind you, and you get on with making the time left memorable and comforting. You do your best. OB did a great job of keeping it together an on track - she done good.

Our daughter, for her part, was having just as much difficulty delivering the news. She's known for a couple of days (since Wednesday, I suspect) and didn't know how to go about presenting it. She knew it was going to hurt people, and didn't want to be the bearer of that news. She wouldn't talk to her mom at all night before last, because she didn't know HOW to. OB was in a bit of a tizzy, wondering why she wouldn't talk to her, so I knew something was up. Same with OB's mom - the daughter didn't want to talk to her, because she didn't know HOW to talk to her.

That's the kind of kid she is. Here she is the one dying, and worrying over how to make OTHER folks comfortable with it.

I answered the phone when she called, and the first words out of her mouth were "I need you to do me a favor. I need you to be there for mom, and make sure she's ok, because I've got some bad news to tell." That was it. Rather than screaming "dammit I'm DYING!" she wanted to make sure her mom was OK through it. So I said "aiight, no problem", handed the phone over, and sat down to wait.

I talked to her some the night before. She never said anything much about it then, either, but because of the tone of the conversation I pretty well knew what was up. She's scared, as she has a right to be. We talked about life in general and death in general, and then she went to sleep to rest up and gather herself to deliver the news the next day.

She's keeping a positive attitude. How, I don't know, but she is. I can only hope I've got half that attitude when my own time comes.

That's my little trooper.

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I'm so sorry to here this, this truly is sad. I hope you dont accept that the said outcome is final until it actually happens. I would be willing to try absoloutly anything until the end. Have you looked into any cancer fighting foods ? For example, a fruit called soursop is said to be 10,000 times more potent than chemotherapy. I have always thought that nature has a cure for most if not all of our ailments. Their is a lot of information out their about cancer fighting foods, some people maybe sceptical, but I would think anything would be worth considering at this stage. I'm going to send some long distance reiki for your daughter in just a moment, and I wish her and your family abundant health and prosperity. Much love.

Steve.

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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Life ain't fair, not even a little bit, and we never know what it's going to throw next.

OB is on top of the grandkids angle. She told the daughter last night to write letters to them commemorating the milestones in their lives, to be delivered at the appropriate times. Birthdays, graduations, the birth of THEIR first child - it's going to be covered. Their momma will be there when those events occur, even if she can't be there.

I was told a long time ago that as long as you remain alive in the memories of those you have touched, you are never truly gone.