Women are literally as bad as men, even worse.

I guess I better not talk about it all. Just "this".

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Aw man, brutally honest post. We've all been there.

I shocked another forum by expressing my true opinion on this matter, and they never viewed me the same after that. But I'll say it again here: The way to get out of these traps (if you're in one) is to overcome the tyranny of the feminine in your own mind: Dress up like a girl if you need to, and kiss a boy. Whether your gay or not, just do it. See that the potential to be feminine is inside you yourself, like Brad- I mean Chelsea Manning, and you don't need to worship women who are abusive to you. After you have found the feminine in yourself, you'll never fall for another abusive woman again, because you'll stop worshipping the opposite sex as a God, knowing the same is within you. You'll face each possible relationship as a complete person, evaluating another complete person, and you'll drop the abusers by the wayside.

I know what I just said sounds absolutely crazy, but I really believe its more sane than spending years in an abusive relationship, and this message goes out to guys AND gals. Find what you're missing, what you're dependent on the other person for, within yourself, and then look for a partner from a position of independence, seeking someone to share joy with you, without depending on them to complete you in any way. Partners in an adventure of joy, neither needing the other. In my honest opinion, that's the path to real happiness.

Peace!

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AWWHHHH

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Its powerful stuff man, playing out at very high levels right now. Forget about gay or straight narratives, the truth is that people, in any imposed circumstances, have what they need within themselves to find real joy. Its a political narrative as much as it is an interpersonal one. We don't need any external force to depend on, all the power we need in this world is within ourselves if we look deep enough.

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That makes sense, yeah abusive relationships can definitely happen on either side, male or female. I've had a dad that was super controlling and that has tainted my relationships - and it is hard to get out of.

One of the best ways that I have found is to be able to support yourself monetarily and spiritually, if possible, before moving into a relationship.

Originally posted by darkbake
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That makes sense, yeah abusive relationships can definitely happen on either side, male or female. I've had a dad that was super controlling and that has tainted my relationships - and it is hard to get out of.

One of the best ways that I have found is to be able to support yourself monetarily and spiritually, if possible, before moving into a relationship.

edit on 25-8-2013 by darkbake because: (no reason given)

Thanks for commenting, darkbake.

The simplest way I've heard it phrased is that until you're really able to love yourself, don't expect any one else to be able to love you. I think that's as good of wisdom as I've ever heard. Once we look at ourselves through the lens of relentless love, and see how miraculously deep we really are, we're free. We don't need anyone, either in government or relationships, to tell us we're worthy, we just are. And in my calculations, the best it gets, is loving yourself, and meeting someone else who loves themselves, and finding a partner to enjoy life with as two strong independent people. That's really the ideal, self love, and charity blossoming out of it to help others. Loving because we can, not because we have to.

It takes time to meet the right person, but in my opinion its worth the wait. It seems like everything in this crazy world is connected, and the good decisions we make for ourselves go way, way beyond our little lives, but also have healing effects in the lives of others. Its worth betting on.

PEace!

Originally posted by tridentblue
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Its powerful stuff man, playing out at very high levels right now. Forget about gay or straight narratives, the truth is that people, in any imposed circumstances, have what they need within themselves to find real joy. Its a political narrative as much as it is an interpersonal one. We don't need any external force to depend on, all the power we need in this world is within ourselves if we look deep enough.

Haha So the answer to lifes problems is to kiss a guy?

Humm, not even if the last woman on earth danced on the isle of lsebos and chucked me raspberries.



you do know how hairy blokes are, right? Oo

Originally posted by tridentblue
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Its powerful stuff man, playing out at very high levels right now. Forget about gay or straight narratives, the truth is that people, in any imposed circumstances, have what they need within themselves to find real joy. Its a political narrative as much as it is an interpersonal one. We don't need any external force to depend on, all the power we need in this world is within ourselves if we look deep enough.

you're weird

Originally posted by spartacus699

Originally posted by tridentblue
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Its powerful stuff man, playing out at very high levels right now. Forget about gay or straight narratives, the truth is that people, in any imposed circumstances, have what they need within themselves to find real joy. Its a political narrative as much as it is an interpersonal one. We don't need any external force to depend on, all the power we need in this world is within ourselves if we look deep enough.

you're weird

You tell 'em Sparty!! You tell 'em what for I say !!!

Wish I'd read your post before you deicded to kiss a guy and delete the content

ahhha.. no? Oo

Originally posted by spartacus699

Originally posted by tridentblue
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Its powerful stuff man, playing out at very high levels right now. Forget about gay or straight narratives, the truth is that people, in any imposed circumstances, have what they need within themselves to find real joy. Its a political narrative as much as it is an interpersonal one. We don't need any external force to depend on, all the power we need in this world is within ourselves if we look deep enough.

you're weird

He's weird?! He seems to be the one who's gotten over whatever issue it is you have. You deleted your OP so I guess we won't get to see just how "weird" you are but it sounds almost as if you have vagina envy?

The title doesn't really match that though, but since you erased your OP, we are only left with our imaginations and a crappy song to determine what your problem is with females.

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I'm a female, and I can relate. Happens to males and females both. I believe people can be too forgiving sometimes and end up being a doormat.

I myself, have become better at saying "I deserve better", and "go do what you're gonna do but you can do it without me (as in-I won't allow you stomp all over my heart).

I recently have come to the realization that if allow a guy to do these things to me and I keep getting sucked back in, I'll never allow myself to be with the guy who is gonna treat me right, when he finally comes along.

If you can't say no once you open that door or answer the phone, just don't answer it. Say "no" that way.

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Nothing chicks could do could ever compete with bad naughty men !!
Group hug tween the deadlier species and the lesser male species aint giving off good vibes baby !!

More chance of unicorns appearing in a puff of glitter and rainbows !!

Originally posted by winofiend

Originally posted by spartacus699

Originally posted by tridentblue
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Its powerful stuff man, playing out at very high levels right now. Forget about gay or straight narratives, the truth is that people, in any imposed circumstances, have what they need within themselves to find real joy. Its a political narrative as much as it is an interpersonal one. We don't need any external force to depend on, all the power we need in this world is within ourselves if we look deep enough.

you're weird

You tell 'em Sparty!! You tell 'em what for I say !!!

Wish I'd read your post before you deicded to kiss a guy and delete the content

ahhha.. no? Oo

I think the video describes a wild girl who's a player. I think you and your gay friend "tridentblue" got it confused with the gay porn you've been watching.