Planned Life?

I was just sitting here thinking! (I do this a bit now and again) about life and what it brings!. The old sayings like "what's for you won't go by you" and "life is written in stone".

When I was young(er)! and still at school I'd dream of being a dress designer, passed my exams, was then put off college by the school careers teacher! and went to work in an office for the next 7 years, good job promoted a couple of times all was OK.

Then met the ONE!! we both said we wouldn't get serious! we married 3 years later, we decided on either 2 or 4 kids! we had 3 (you know enough was enough!). Through his family working in the rage trade, I started machining (good way of being at home with the kids and at the same time earning a living).
So I went to evening class to learn pattern making ( I do have a natural ability to make clothing) It was so slow I took the book home and taught myself.
I do make a living as a dressmaker/designer all be it small.

My question is this, do you ever get the feeling that you can only go so far then smack into a brick wall (in life)? You pick yourself up start again and whack! there it is again! are you on the wrong path? why can't you get passed that wall? If you try to change things! and you think OK this is right! whack! there it is again?
Are we only meant to do certain things? Are our lives written in stone before we get here? If so I wish we could be let in on the plan, that wall can be very annoying sometimes!

reply to post by nanny


Hi nanny,

I was older when I started having dreams of what would happen. I came to the same conclusion after trying to change the outcome. I never could and everything played out as planned. It is as though we have no choice in the matter.

I have wondered if we take a certain road (not the road less traveled) and the course is set.

Would love to talk more of this but gotta run. Looking forward to what others say.

I would say with this premise-you are more correct than you could possibly imagine-here is where the rabbithole is at its deepest and darkest.But to keep one from quitting the game,there are consolations.Only thing is,the consolations are leashes,tethers too:-) All you can do is hold on to the beauty in life,the love,the funny things,the uplifting things,the treats.Its only life,we all get through it:-)

Maybe 99% set in stone. The walls are your tests, these are the forks in your path. Pay attention, make choices and decisions, how you get through, over, under or around the wall and the attitude and intent you do it with is important. The universe will serve you what you think you can handle. it's soul growth and all that malarky.

I tend to think we can achieve basically anything we want. Take your natural talent and beat on it with practice each day and never take no for an answer, unless no is the answer you seek.

Set in stone..... Got Chissel? Got Hammer? They start knicking away~ I've done it. Learned skills that were not in my realm of learning.... Hit more brick walls.... Upgraded Chissel and Hammer, to JACKHAMMER! And kept on digging! But yes ultimately..... It's weird how as you get older it seems and even dreams tend to show you the path you will be taking...

reply to post by sulaw


Yes but were the new skills you learnt already in written? and do you just think you changed your path or was it a path you were actually meant to take?
I too have changed path, I moved country, it feels right! I feel like I belong here! was it a choice I made or was it one that was written for me?