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reply to post by openyourmind1262
I tried to be the dad you all did not have.
Originally posted by cody599
Big mistake right there.
Be a friend first. Try to be a dad right off the bat? Big mistake
Originally posted by FlySolo
meth - a hellava drug.
Tough love all the way. Don't listen to the bleeding hearts condemning you for the rant, they're enablers.
Originally posted by openyourmind1262
reply to post by Evil_Santa
Again, she did not do drugs. She is a college graduate. For the record. there's I's because it's MY RANT. And understand something real clear. I don't rescue people nor do I have a complex about it. I help those who WANT to help them selves. It would be no different that of it was my two blood children. I /we would still take this stance.
There comes a point to where enough is enough, a breaking point. We have reached ours. And IMHO we all have a breaking point. We will not participate any longer. It bad enough you go on here to simply vent, vent about a real problem with lives at stake. And be lambasted as not doing eoungh. No, we've done more than enough. No more enableing on our parts. If you've never been faced with putting your kids out of your life because of these problems, you have no idea the amount of guilt you have to get over. I would not wish problems like this on my own worse enemy.
Nor would I wish them on some one with your attitude toward these problems.edit on 1-2-2013 by openyourmind1262 because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Evil_Santa
Don't you dare try to make me feel guilty for my past. I have spent years holding that guilt inside, have finally learned how-to let go of it in healthy ways, and look towards the future of making responsible choices.
You don't seem like you have let go of one ounce of guilt, you are one of the most defensive people I have seen. You are personalizing everything, and can't accept that not everyone is you....
I think you are still on a long long road to healthy unfortunately....
It became a disease when the insurance companies lobbied for it to be.
Originally posted by hidingthistime I probably came from one of the worst childhoods ever, but I never became an addict or a user, I became one of the most independent people I know.
Originally posted by WaterBottle
reply to post by openyourmind1262
It became a disease when the insurance companies lobbied for it to be.
Insurance companies loose money from drug addicts. Do you not know how expensive rehab is? Why would they lobby to pay for more things? : They lobby to pay for less, not more.edit on 2-2-2013 by WaterBottle because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Evil_Santa
reply to post by hidingthistime
You should read through the rest of my posts in this thread before passing judgement. The anger I felt at his statement was directed at the fact that he was telling me how to feel after sharing my past with him. No one has the right to tell another how-to feel in any circumstance. It's an absolute violation of that person's boundaries and shows zero respect from the person who is violating them.
Am i a totally healthy individual now? No, and I am looking at about another 40 - 80 sessions of neurofeedback to fix the parietal region of my brain, and doing some targeted training to improve cohesion between the left/right hemispheres. Am I in a better position then I was 10 years ago, 5 years ago, even 1 year ago? You're damn right I am.
And c'mon, you accuse me of "thinking that everyone is just like me" when your previous post contains the following information -
Originally posted by hidingthistime I probably came from one of the worst childhoods ever, but I never became an addict or a user, I became one of the most independent people I know.
Not everyone is like you... have some empathy.edit on 2-2-2013 by Evil_Santa because: (no reason given)edit on 2-2-2013 by Evil_Santa because: (no reason given)edit on 2-2-2013 by Evil_Santa because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by ErgoTheConclusion
reply to post by hidingthistime
Do you think there are people in here suggesting this person shouldn't have stopped enabling those kids?
Because if you do then you need to re-read those posts that lead you to that opinion and try to understand what is really being said.
Stopping enabling is the first step to recovery. It's a difficult step to be proud of but at the same time "congrats" for doing what is a parent's responsibility from the start. Truth hurts.
There is more going on in this story as the OP has advertised via their approach to the thread and followup responses... and that is what is being responded to as would be expected on a forum thread.
EDIT: Different way to put it: What *exactly* are you suggesting the OP stand their ground against? What accusation or "suggestion" being put towards the OP is it that you feel needs to be rejected?edit on 2-2-2013 by ErgoTheConclusion because: (no reason given)