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Originally posted by Daemonicon
Have you actually tried helping them beat their addiction?
If not, then you have ZERO room to complain about anything.
Either way, it's VERY cowardice of you to bash 3 drug addicted adults anonymously on the internet. Grow a set and be the example you are claiming to be.
Originally posted by openyourmind1262
You all have'nt been living in it.
Originally posted by openyourmind1262
reply to post by Daemonicon
Dear sir, it take's a coward to steal from the hand that feed's, clothes, and house you. Not go on a rant on the internet. As stated prior. This rant is for me. Because, different from some of you I actually respect the opinions of a lot of the members of this site. And was more than certain other members have the same problems. Because it's a hugh damn problem.edit on 1-2-2013 by openyourmind1262 because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by kaylaluv
There's more to this story than meets the eye, methinks. Maybe mom was busy working, so wasn't around the boys so much in their critical development stages. Not to say it's her fault, but that is a serious consequence when there is a lack of dedicated parenting.
I knew a woman who had two sons. She was a single, working mom. She was tired when she got home, so she didn't pay close enough attention to her boys and what they were involved in. Both boys got into serious trouble with drugs, alcohol, stealing, etc. The youngest boy went to go live with the father and his wife when he was around 12. The father and step-mother whipped that boy into shape pretty quick. How? They were VERY involved in his life. They made sure they knew exactly what he was doing, who he was with, and had no problem forbidding him from hanging out with bad influences. It was hard work, and took up a HUGE amount of their time and focus -- but it worked.
Once a kid grows up to being in their twenties, it's too late for the parents to have any affect. At that point, it's up to the kid/young adult to turn their life around. I would agree with the OP at this point, to cut their losses and break all ties with the kids -- unless the kids turn their lives around.
Originally posted by Evil_Santa
OP: If you want to spend a lot of money, and it seems like it's not an issue, then put all 3 into a rehab clinic, in addition to funding them each to go through neurofeedback. You're looking at about $20,000 per individual, but it has about a 90% success rate.
Originally posted by openyourmind1262
reply to post by Evil_Santa
Again, she did not do drugs. She is a college graduate. For the record. there's I's because it's MY RANT. And understand something real clear. I don't rescue people nor do I have a complex about it. I help those who WANT to help them selves. It would be no different that of it was my two blood children. I /we would still take this stance.
There comes a point to where enough is enough, a breaking point. We have reached ours. And IMHO we all have a breaking point. We will not participate any longer. It bad enough you go on here to simply vent, vent about a real problem with lives at stake. And be lambasted as not doing eoungh. No, we've done more than enough. No more enableing on our parts. If you've never been faced with putting your kids out of your life because of these problems, you have no idea the amount of guilt you have to get over. I would not wish problems like this on my own worse enemy.
Originally posted by Deetermined
Is there anything you won't blame on a parent or step parent?