Should I stay or should I go now?

Been with this girl for about a year and a half. Before we hooked up, she was involved with another man.It was a long distance thing. 4 months into our relationship she told him that she was involved with me, and that she wanted to end it. Now we have moved back to where she is from originally ( where this guy lives) and she wants to hang out with him ( as a friend) She went out to lunch with him without telling me. Two weeks ago we had a fight. she took her children and stayed at his house for 3 days.. She said he was the only person she knew in the area. This was a lie because her sister lives in the area. Found out that she dropped her kids off at her sisters house and stayed at his house by her self. I was pissed off however, we made up. This weekend she wanted to stay the weekend at his house so she could hang out with old friends while I take care of her kids.She was stressed and needed to get away. She told me that the only reason she was staying there was because he has a huge house with an extra room. She assured me that she was just using him just for a place to crash. Come to find out that she went out to dinner twice with him and went hiking with him. Should I end it. Should I stay or should I go.

She's at it.Show her the door.

too much drama for me
is it the same for you???

reply to post by Theophorus


Walk away...peacefully and gracefully,

It's your decision. Asking near random people on a conspiracy forum for advice is like playing dice with a hundred dice. Get off the board tonight. Do it now. Take the rest of the day to reflect on your issue alone.
Find a guiet place and relax. Think. Balance. Project. Reflect. Do it again tomorrow. Until then, stay off the boards. Replace board time for considering your delimia time.

She's playing you for a fool. Cut her loose and move on.

reply to post by Theophorus


Most definitely go!! Sounds like she's using you.

Don't be a sucker, she's so banging that dude on the side, move on.

Woman are like the seasons, they come & go.

Don't take this the wrong way. I'm sure most of us guys have dealt with this before. Anyway she was basically cheating on him with you before she officially ended it, and you really thought she wouldn't do the same to you? Now she has YOU watching HER kids so SHE can go out and have FUN with another GUY. She not only sounds like a $hitty girlfriend but a $hitty mother as well. She has also lied about minor things like going out to eat, so do you really think she would tell you if she slept with him? Like I said I'm not trying to be mean but I'm trying to show you whats wrong. You already know what to do about it. I wouldn't be surprised if she has been stringing him along the whole time shes been away just to have another guy to fall back on if things went south with you.

Ive heard everything I need to hear. Thank you ATS.

This woman reminds me of my first marriage. The person whom I was married to reconnected with a previous significant other. They communicated and spent time together. One evening, I was over at some friend's house. I was not allowed to have friends in my marriage, but since we could not afford internet at the time, my spouse let me hang out with some friends when we were together so that my spouse could use their internet. My spouse found out on that stupid facebook thing that their lover was getting a divorce. Consequentially, my spouse decided to end our marriage that evening because of that post on facebook. If you have a fickle partner, move on. My second spouse was the exact opposite. Nothing ever came between us and we got along perfectly. There was never any doubt and never any trust issues. Unfortunately my spouse died this year, but at least I know what true love is. In true love, you never need fear the other person going astray. Just some thoughts to ponder.

Originally posted by NysgjerrigDame
This woman reminds me of my first marriage. The person whom I was married to reconnected with a previous significant other. They communicated and spent time together. One evening, I was over at some friend's house. I was not allowed to have friends in my marriage, but since we could not afford internet at the time, my spouse let me hang out with some friends when we were together so that my spouse could use their internet. My spouse found out on that stupid facebook thing that their lover was getting a divorce. Consequentially, my spouse decided to end our marriage that evening because of that post on facebook. If you have a fickle partner, move on. My second spouse was the exact opposite. Nothing ever came between us and we got along perfectly. There was never any doubt and never any trust issues. Unfortunately my spouse died this year, but at least I know what true love is. In true love, you never need fear the other person going astray. Just some thoughts to ponder.

WOW!!! That is fudged up man! Divorce over a facebook status! Thank goodness I'm not on Facebook Sorry to hear your spouse passed away, like you said... at least you know what true love is. Keep up the good fight my friend

Originally posted by Theophorus
Ive heard everything I need to hear. Thank you ATS.

One more problem solved

Originally posted by UFCG2012AFHS

Originally posted by NysgjerrigDame
This woman reminds me of my first marriage. The person whom I was married to reconnected with a previous significant other. They communicated and spent time together. One evening, I was over at some friend's house. I was not allowed to have friends in my marriage, but since we could not afford internet at the time, my spouse let me hang out with some friends when we were together so that my spouse could use their internet. My spouse found out on that stupid facebook thing that their lover was getting a divorce. Consequentially, my spouse decided to end our marriage that evening because of that post on facebook. If you have a fickle partner, move on. My second spouse was the exact opposite. Nothing ever came between us and we got along perfectly. There was never any doubt and never any trust issues. Unfortunately my spouse died this year, but at least I know what true love is. In true love, you never need fear the other person going astray. Just some thoughts to ponder.

WOW!!! That is fudged up man! Divorce over a facebook status! Thank goodness I'm not on Facebook

Sorry to hear your spouse passed away, like you said... at least you know what true love is. Keep up the good fight my friend

One of the reasons I hate facebook

reply to post by NysgjerrigDame

Unfortunately my spouse died this year, but at least I know what true love is. In true love, you never need fear the other person going astray. Just some thoughts to ponder.

Sorry for the lost of your loved one.
Peace be with you,
K

reply to post by Theophorus


Only had to read half your post.

Go. Now.

reply to post by Theophorus

Now we have moved back to where she is from originally ( where this guy lives) and she wants to hang out with him ( as a friend) She went out to lunch with him without telling me. Two weeks ago we had a fight. she took her children and stayed at his house for 3 days..

Uh... You should go. She has rekindled things with him. She's cheating on you because she is not upfront about it. And I would bet a large chunk of my wealth there is something going on between them.

(The lies usually indicate so.) Which you have already got her on.

I would do the same to her though, find someone first, and then when you are ready to leave drop her.

reply to post by boncho

I would do the same to her though, find someone first, and then when you are ready to leave drop her.

Not the best of advice,Boncho.
It's not like it's highschool or similar.
Give her a smooth transition out,because of the kids,and move on.

Originally posted by Theophorus
Been with this girl for about a year and a half. Before we hooked up, she was involved with another man.It was a long distance thing. 4 months into our relationship she told him that she was involved with me, and that she wanted to end it. Now we have moved back to where she is from originally ( where this guy lives) and she wants to hang out with him ( as a friend) She went out to lunch with him without telling me. Two weeks ago we had a fight. she took her children and stayed at his house for 3 days.. She said he was the only person she knew in the area. This was a lie because her sister lives in the area. Found out that she dropped her kids off at her sisters house and stayed at his house by her self. I was pissed off however, we made up. This weekend she wanted to stay the weekend at his house so she could hang out with old friends while I take care of her kids.She was stressed and needed to get away. She told me that the only reason she was staying there was because he has a huge house with an extra room. She assured me that she was just using him just for a place to crash. Come to find out that she went out to dinner twice with him and went hiking with him. Should I end it. Should I stay or should I go.

They're totally bonking dude.

C'mon get a spine.