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no you just stick out since you always follow me in my limited time here. You are in every thread I participate in and only talk to me for the most part. You seem to have a "war path" towards making my time here conflictive.
Please do not speak to me. Thank you.
Long winded responses trying to vilify an entire country and make them out to be somehow less noble than the world.
Originally posted by manykapao
reply to post by Bluesma
so how long have you lived in france?
Left the US have you, for good?
just asking.
Originally posted by manykapao
So we see how passionate people can get when making the US out to be bigots and cultureless problem makers.
Long winded responses trying to vilify an entire country and make them out to be somehow less noble than the world.
This thread should be called America according to the world.
For many years, I hated france, and the french, (and every other european I came across). I believed, for a long time a lot of rubbish I had been fed since chidlhood and slowly through the years, had to acknowledge that I was wrong- I could not hold up my illusions faced with reality.
I suspect I could have if I had been with other american expats around, we could have formed a little community, where we aid each other to block out reality, keep ourselves in denial, and refuse to actually look deeper and comprehend the culture around us.
Originally posted by manykapao
Your "illusions" as it were, were what exactly?
That your country is one of the great ones? Is that really a lie?
Ask a Frenchman, your husband, who are the GREATEST culinary experts in the world.
It is funny you said fellow "ex-patriots" in response to me, and also my fellow Americans in another post.
What I think is opportunistic of you is to still call yourself an American when a simple notion of pride in ones country can lead you to attack it so underhandedly.
You can say what you will, but I see a deep seeded personality problem where you have to hate someone EDIT: I see your operational word for the same thing is "critisize". You talk as if all Americans are some stereotype you have in your mind of them. I hope your husband is not requiring of that of you, I know how possessive and chauvinistic they can be and how their intellectual class classifies everyone as inferior to "noble French ethics" and culture.
Oh no! I was never taught that and didn't think that. I was told and believed the US was the GREATEST country in the world, period.
But anyway, apparently you haven't had much experience with family values in France and that is understandable. In France, where home and family is more important than work and career, women have a very big power- much more so than in the US. This is part of that opposing values thing. Women are much more valuable here than in the US. Men do what their wife judges best, as she is considered the wiser sex.
That is, by the way, part of how they got the "fairy" stereotype. American men finding it less masculine to respect their wife so much.
No, he is very critical of his own land and culture, because like me, he left it for a while and got to see it from the outside, through the eyes of others.
Originally posted by manykapao
reply to post by Bluesma
so because you grew up in the cold war era, you think we still walk around spouting that garbage, there is your example of stereotyping Americans. We don't think that any more, like I said it is as out of date as the cold war the spawned it.
It is not that I class the word into greatest and worst. I do not make that distinction. Shows how little you thought about me before responding. I think we are great. Big difference.
You can represent the US abroad as you say you do. Try getting in touch with her some time to do so more accurately. Your "criticism" is not as welcomed as you think. Some might see it as being jaded personally and lacking integrity when speaking about your "home".
In the US women are just as favored OVER men as in France. Nice try.
American families are not as good as French families? How do you even equate that?
How about you criticize less, and appreciate more.
SO you guys are critical of everyone, seem like a blast to hang out with and get in a good mood.
It means, a french person considers their role in the family is MORE important to them then work. They will not generally be willing to move their family in order to get a job, for example.
A good example is that when I say this, many americans will bring up the statistics which show that even in France, more men have positions of responsibility and earn more! -As if an individuals value in a society is determined by their job or pay.
Now those two examples, each one of us is free to judge as good or bad, (I personally WOULD move my family for a good job, and feel uncomfortable just beign a housewife and mother- but that is due to my american deep seated values).
THIS one was about the self centered tendancies of Americans
Originally posted by manykapao
reply to post by Bluesma
and how would that mentality not be plausible in the US?
That is human nature, and I am sorry no one is above that. Last time I checked French people, and all people are just as greedy as humans. French ideals are no different than anyone else's, conditioning as you put it would lead you to believe otherwise.
As far as the US hating women and favoring men, you would have a whole culture worldwide that argues differently. That there has been for the last couple decades an escalation in divorce settlements and general legal disputes where a woman is left with everything and right, and the man gets nothing.
Take any domestic violence call, a cop shows up, and immediately restrains the male, even if the woman is clearly the aggressor and has no wounds. The man can have a broken jaw and be riddled in scratches and bruises, but gets put in hand cuffs immediately.
You can say what you will but you demonstrate a clear bias against US life style. That one example you have given of French families being more family oriented and family minded over career than their US counter parts is a clear indication.
try human nature, it is called the ego, and we did not invent it. All humans have it.
Originally posted by manykapao
If the aspect of American society you take issue with is individualism then look to its actual source, again human nature. You would need to examine more closely that which you as find as being an American invention or ideal.
You can argue against human nature but I recommended studying it instead. Exceptionalism is never true. Generalizations are only true from limited points of view. So again you have left yourself room to grow and learn.
Even in the middle of the night, if I get up to get a drink of water or use the bathroom, I never turn on a light and it makes my husband crazy. He says he never knows if I'll be "lurking" around in the dark or something...LOL.
Having grown up the way I did, I absolutely agree that many Americans are wasteful. But it is only because they are allowed to be. I am raising my children much the way my grandparents raised me....well, except for the toilet flushing business.....and it is a perpetual effort for me to stay on top of them about turning off the lights or ceiling fan. But I know that my perseverance will eventually pay off. Most parents probably either don't care or just give up and quit.
Or is it just the stereotypical perception the "world" has of americans?
The National Geographic-Roper 2002 Global Geographic Literacy Survey assesses the geographic knowledge of 3,250 young adults in nine countries, including the U.S.
The research also addresses young adults’ attitudes toward the importance of geography and how aware they are of geography in the context of current events.
In total, 2,916 interviews with 18- to 24-year-olds were conducted using an in-home, in-person methodology. Interviews were conducted in the following countries: United States, Canada, Mexico, France, Germany, Italy, Sweden, Great Britain, and Japan. A total of 300 interviews were conducted in each country except the U.S.; in the U.S. nearly 500 interviews were conducted with 18-to 24-year-olds and an additional sample of more than 300 25-to 34-year-olds.
These results suggest that young people in the United States—the most recent graduates of our educational system—are unprepared for an increasingly global future. Far too many lack even the most basic skills for navigating the international economy or understanding the relationships among people and places that provide critical context for world events.
Hopefully you are not reading this anymore, so I am free to answer the accusations, and interpretations, you left me with. I feel no desire to make you uncomfortable, but I'd like to have the right to defend myself.
These results suggest that young people in the United States—the most recent graduates of our educational system—are unprepared for an increasingly global future. Far too many lack even the most basic skills for navigating the international economy or understanding the relationships among people and places that provide critical context for world events.