So I dislike my best friend’s girlfriend of three years and she dislikes me as well. My buddy and I have been friends for 15 years or so, since
sophomore year of High School.
A little background info:
My buddy got married to a woman he met in the Army, long story short he got divorced after 18 months. Shortly after the divorce he started to get
BJ’s from the neighbor across the hall from his apartment. I used to joke that the ‘neighbor chick’ would become his girlfriend – he
staunchly opposed this idea. Eventually it came true. Next, I joked they would move in together – again he opposed this idea – this to came
true. Then finally, I joked they would get married – also opposed and now coming true.
Why she does not like me:
I refuse to kiss her a$$.
Why I do not like her:
She gets furious whenever my buddy used to talk with his ex-wife (who lives out of state) but expects my buddy to be okay with her hanging out with
her ex(s) or men she has slept with in the past.
She is extremely jealous of whenever my buddy and I hang out. It’s to the point that when we hang out she will have a temper tantrum and says she
is going to hang out with an ex (one time she even said she was going on a ‘date’.)
I caught her with a POF account she claims to have made when they broke up for a month and forgot to delete. Note this was a year after the fact.
Most recent example: yesterday I went over to his house and was disgusted by how filthy it was. About a year ago she bought a fox for $650, instead
of paying her bills, because it was burning a hole in her pocket like usual. Anyways, the fox poops and pees everywhere (including the stove,
countertops, their kitchen is covered in feces) [it’s her fox yet she refuses to train and or clean up after it] so I suggested an industrial mop +
bucket. I cleaned their entre house pretty much alone, as he received a lashing because I was over without her approval. In addition she complained
about him buying a mop to clean their utterly despicable living space… instead of saving that money for her engagement ring! Not to mention, the
fox has destroyed about $200 of my stuff, (PS3 controller and Razr Mamba mouse) and my buddies Xbox Kinect, microfiber couch, oversized matching
chair, matching ottoman and 3 Xbox 360 controllers; about $3500 worth of damage at least. Which will never be replaced by her as she cannot even pay
her living expenses.
Last fall they were debating starting a used car lot. Long story short, I spent about 50 hours or so making them a business plan. (I have an
MBA/MSF). She opposed every step of the plan, and all but inferred I was an idiot and knew nothing about the many schedules I made and market
research I had done, because she had worked at a used car lot for all of a month.
My buddy is miserable and it kills me. He is settling - plain and simple. It’s almost as if he projected everything from the divorce onto the
‘neighbor chick’ so he would not have to deal with the hurt and healing process he should have went through to grow and move on. They fight all
the time. She b*tched at him for three hours last night that I was over cleaning their dump of a house FFS!
It’s impossible for me to give you guys/gals the entire story in a thread, but do I have grounds for disapproval or am I the one who is immature?
Thoughts?
edit on 4-9-2012 by ConspiracyBuff because: (no reason given)