My Dog ( best friend) just died in my arms

He was acting like he didn't feel well last Friday morning so I took him to the vet. they ran a bunch of tests and $2,000 later I had to put him down.

He was my best friend and really the only friend I had in this town. He has been with me thru a divorce and two back surgeries. We moved from our hometown to try and get a fresh start...and we did.

He was always so glad to see me when I got home from anywhere as I was to see him.

They originally told me had had pancreatitis but when he wasn't better after 3 day on an I.V. they told me he had pancreatic cancer.

My heart hurts so badly right now that I don't know what to do. I feel more alone than I think I ever have. I need to bring myself to pick up all his toys and put away all of his things but can't seem to do it yet.

It has been he and I against the world for so long and now it's just me. I know many of you will say "it's just a dog" and feel sorry for you. If you think he was just a dog then you have never felt the unconditional love of a pet.

I did everything I could do to make him better but it wasn't enough. Life can be so cruel sometimes.

I am sorry to hear about your pup. Putting a friend down is really hard, had to do it a couple of times myself. Nothing much more I can say. Sorry for your loss.

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I feel your pain......My doberman died in my arms on July 4th of this year!! He had liver failure, and ours was about $1,200 in vet bills to make him better.....It was the hardest thing in the world to deal with and I completely understand your situation....

My dogs toys are still out and about and I refuse to forget him!!

I feel for you and want to let you know someone else out there just had it happen to them losing their best friend and all.....My wife still won't entertain the idea he isn't around anymore......

Sad times indeed!!

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im sorry. I recently experienced a similar event. It isnt easy. Especially when its money that is the deciding factor. I spent 4800 on my dog in his final 3 years.. And he was cureable.. But it becomes too much, and you question how they actually feel. Its a sad experience. I wish the vets would just do the surgery, or procedures out of good will, but I understand thats business.. Good luck feeling better. I wish you the best.

My heart goes out to you.
I volunteer for a dog rescue organization.. i have 4 of my own dogs... i am very sorry for your loss.
Its not easy losing someone you loved with all your heart, and someone who loved you unconditionally.

I will be praying for your strength... as we say in the animal world, your dog crossed over the rainbow bridge, waiting for you on the other side.

www.sweetk9cookies.com/memorial

be strong and happy knowing that your dog lived a wonderful life, thank to you.

I feel your pain my friend and a comment such as this is the circle of life may seem coy. but may from these ashes rise yet another phoenix to come and assist you as life's co pilot yet again.


in other words grieve but to not dwell and when you find the courage, adopt another companion.

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Hey there, I'm really sorry to hear of your loss. It's never just a dog or a cat, it's a part of your family and it's uniqueness can't be replaced. There's really nothing I can say to make you feel better, but I understand how you feel. Just remember that there are many, many homeless animals that need help. When you feel a little better, maybe consider going out to help one of them. They always appreciate it. Take care.

Same thing happened to me bro.......hang in there and as time goes by, think about getting a puppy, it will help you cope and also fall in love again with a new "best friend".

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I feel for you and I can say I understand. My little girl came to me when I went to a divorce, just showed up and I could find no owner, I didn't feed her so she would go home as she was well cared for, but she curled up on my doorstep and went without food several days, so I brought her in.

She slept in my bed for a month even though I later learned she preferred to be out in the cool air and never slept inside again after my need was less, , she comforted me and loved me for 18 years.

She was the best friend I have ever had and will ever have. I have her picture on the refrigerator because I want to look at her and remember her every day, I never want to forget what she gave to me. I will never ever stop missing her.

Oh, hon....I'm so incredibly sorry. Losing a beloved pet is heart wrenching.

There's nothing I can say that will make you feel better, so I wont even try.

It's okay to cry. Let out that emotion, grieve.

Your in my thoughts....sending love your way. Please keep us informed over the next few days as you adjust to your new circumstances. Sometimes telling it to others helps.

Smylee

Losing a beloved pet, friend or familymember always sucks to emphatic people.

Hope you feel a little better within a few days.

I am so sorry.
I lost two last spring, one to old age and a 15 month old to hip dysplasia/bad breeder.
We had them both put down at home, in my arms.
I know it hurts, but after a while you will think more on all the great times you had and what a great dog he was.

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I am sorry for your loss.I had to have one of my cats put
to sleep about 7 years ago.I cried more over that cat then
I did my dad when he passed away.
I had a great time with my dad right before and I think that
is one of the reasons why I didn't cry that much.I had my kitty
cremated and have her ashes in a little pine box.

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Im so sorry. My Beagle has bladder cancer and given only weeks to live. He is one of my best friends in the world. I do evety thing I can to make the lil guys life easier. Always there to greet me at the door.
Take care man.

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How sad, I'm so sorry to hear you lost your best mate; our cat went much the same way a couple of years ago. Damn heart breaking.

So sorry for your loss.

You are correct when you say that anyone that would say "it is just a dog" doesn't understand the love of a dog.

I have had several dogs during my life and have witnessed family members losing their beloved friend. My thoughts are with you through this tough time.

I am really sorry for you...

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Honey, I wish I could be more help. I've been through this in April with my German Shepherd, almost exactly what you've described, and it's just so painful...it still is, and I can't say that you will ever really get over it. But...you will learn to deal with it eventually, and cope with it....that's all I've learned to expect anyway. The pain never goes away. I don't have kids, but people who have say it truly is like losing one of your children when you lose a pet. Our bond with them is so close, and rightly so.

The only thing that I hope will comfort you a little bit is to remember that we all have our time to go, and this was his. Everything that could be done was done, and he is clearly very loved. We drive ourselves mad thinking that they will blame us and hate us for letting them go, but they don't. A friend of mine pointed out to me when Murphy died that they have no idea what's happening to them....we are the ones who are fully aware and torturing ourselves with guilt. All they know is that it's their time and they are pain free.

Don't push yourself to clear up his things either. Leave them where they are if it helps you and don't apologise for it...Murphy's dish still sits in my kitchen, and his toys are all over the garden. My new little boy who I've had just a few days will play with them when he's in the mood.

Please allow yourself to grieve without guilt or explanation to anyone. It's a hard and painful process, but you will start to heal soon. Takes a while, I won't lie, but you'll recover a little and start to think only about the the dumb things he did to make you laugh.

On a practical level, if you're up for some woo woo stuff....there is a Bach Flower Remedy called Star of Bethlehem that is excellent for the grief process. Track some down if you can, and it will help.

Otherwise, consider yourself hugged and loved my many people here I'm sure, and rant all you like....we're listening.


Cait xxx

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Im so sorry. My Beagle has bladder cancer and given only weeks to live. He is one of my best friends in the world. I do evety thing I can to make the lil guys life easier. Always there to greet me at the door.
Take care man.

Thanks for your kind words. I will be praying for you guys.

I wish I could say something to make you feel better but I know there's nothing....

I had to get my cat Oscar put down 10 months ago.....We had the vet come to the house, he was in his favourite basket and that brings me a tiny bit of comfort... Him becoming ill was the worst week of my life..... Only recently I've been able to look at photos of him again and there's certain songs I use to sing to him that I just can't do anymore....

I still have his sister here though and she keeps me going even though she's deaf and getting a bit incontinent... I know though it could be any time I'm going to have my heart broken again

Your heart will never heal completely but you will learn to smile and eventually laugh at the amazing memories you shared... I feel your pain & am thinking of you....