Would you like to be blissfully wealthy or poor with your lover ?

This question is less a moral issue and more a circumstance issue. I know people who are both poor and never had a lover, so A would be an easy choice. However, with old folks who have a spouse, multiple children/grandchildren, etc., B would be an easy choice.

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Well I would have gone for option B without a thought until you brought up the terrible misery. Lol

I would assume that my husband and son would also be suffering horribly then. Why would I do that to them just for the pleasure of my company? Lol. It would be selfish of me to make them suffer in pain agony povert and illness just so I would have the comfort of being with them.

If I knew us being together would cause them misfortune then I would have to let them go out of my love for them.

Option A then. It would be painful beyond measure but at least they'd be free from suffering. I love them more than my own heartbreak.

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if ur rich u can still feel pain,
was it pac that said"more money more problems"
i personalty could never give up willfully the right to be with my children, but as far as women go if i was rich i could have a new women every day and try and break wilt chamberlains record,

I think I would choose option B, although homelessness is a little extreme, I lean towards wanting this lifestyle more than the lifestyle with a lot of money. I think money distracts us from what is important in life, actually.

Originally posted by darkbake
I think money distracts us from what is important in life, actually.

Cakes, Tea, Sleep all of which you can get if you have tons of money.

Alyssa +1 point

I would rather be dirt poor with someone I love. Unfortunately, many women need your money to make love these days.
Or thats how the media projects it and teaches our young ones, through celebrities and stories of princesses

edit: hence why some of the most beautiful women are ugly on the inside

I can do one better -- I'm broke and virtually homeless, I'm divorced and have no girlfriend and my kids never come to see me.

Easy choice -- B -- broke and homeless with my darlin'. We've overcome all manner of hardship before and we'd do it again.

Thanks to her, I think of myself as 'rich in a way that matters'. yah, go ahead and make gagging sounds. It's still true.

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Choice C -
Neither rich nor poor; enjoying life, yet looking for more; loved and loving but missing loving the loved; sometimes happy, sometimes sad; living the life I live, not the one I had.

Choice C. Real life.

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I would say poor definitely, but then I thought how often dirt poor is usually because of dumb choices. I am too old to be in love with someone who doesn't learn from their errors. So poor only if it included the selfless kind of love.

"Better a dinner of herbs where love is
Than a stalled ox and hatred therewith".
Proverbs ch15 v17

So much dishonesty in this topic. A nice warm large home, Tons of food, Beautiful (or handsome) looks, you basically have a very relaxing life. By NOT picking choice (A) you people are being selfish. All of you went with (B) because it made YOU feel good.

Choice (A) was about natural logical comfort that had nothing to do with selfishness.
Choice (B) was about YOU picking it because YOU thought it was the right thing to do. YOU want to be with your loved one because it makes YOU feel good. If choice (B) didn't make YOU feel better most of you wouldn't have picked it. All your acts of warmth and kindness toward loved ones are pure selfishness based on how good it made YOU feel.

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Originally posted by Alyssa
So much dishonesty in this topic.

Not necessarily.

1. This "pain and suffering" you've talked about... What is "pain and suffering" to you? Because I've lived on the streets. I've been HUNGRY! I've lost a baby. I've had breast cancer and faced death. My mother died in front of me. And I have chronic physical pain now and live with it every single day... And I would choose it every time over losing my husband. And it's not because I NEED him. It's because he needs me... I won't mention what he's gone through and continues to face every day. But my presence in his life has saved his life. And I think he would tell you the same.

2. You said that I would feel pain and suffering. You didn't mention any pain and suffering of my loved ones...

Maybe you should be explicit about this "pain and suffering" and also mention that my husband and child would ALSO be experiencing pain and suffering before you pass this incredibly closed-minded judgment against your fellow ATS members.

I'm just saying...