Be careful what you wish for.....

I have heard the saying, "Be Careful What you wish for" many times by people older then me, when I was younger, and now being in my 30's I have to agree about this. I want to give a few examples and perhaps you can add yours.

I used to work as a metals specialist having to do w/ welding, realigning, heating different pipes and various metals and I always wanted to climb the ladder in the Co. Eventually I was a manager running jobs and crews and got what I wished for. Will this included more pay but was not worth the stress. Some times going 20 hours straight, more paperwork, more responsibility, more chaos, etc and I started wishing I can go back to be a field guy.

When I was a broke teenager, I always wished for lots of money and had to deal w/ the problems associated w/ being broke. When I was working crazy hours and had lots of money, I had to worry about what to invest it in, whether the economy will crash, what to do with the money, people coming out of the wood works asking me to borrow it. Life was simpler when broke.

When I was in high school, I went after the hottest girl in our school. Everyone wanted her and she had a bf at the time. I used notes, candy, flowers, all types of tricks and even fought her bf and won, and eventually got the girl. Well as beautiful as she was, she was shallow and a surface walker and not all there at the time. Whereas afterwords I have dated average looking girls and they have been awesome, soulful, deep, compassionate.

My sister hated her job and looked for months for a new one. She got the new one and its 20 times more busier and crazier than her last one where she at least could sit down, check emails, read the news, etc. This new gig, she's on her feet all day and exhausted once getting home and now says she kind of misses her old job and old co-workers. I warned her about the "Careful what you wish for" theory, but she had to learn this on her own

All this to say, that I have found the saying, "Be careful what you wish for" to be True.

reply to post by dominicus


Some good life lessons there, dominicus, life is about finding a happy compromise in most things. Usually these things are discovered as we travel life's path.

Two things;

Money doesn't bring happiness, it can give you security and choices.

The sexiest girls with some depth of personality are'nt the self obsessed, shallow, very attractive girls.

Two things we don't appreciate when we're young, though I know some middle aged people who won't agree with me on the two points above...

P.s. Not forgetting that old phrase " The grass is always greener " We're neve happy with our lot ! There is always something better just around the corner.....

i wish i had a million pounds

cant see a down side to that...

except that i dont have a million pounds

awww, now im sad

reply to post by dominicus


I know exactly what you mean. Almost seems like karma at times. You want something so bad that when you get it and find out what it is really about then you realize that's not what you wanted at all.

It's almost like the desire to want what you can't have, then when you get it, you realize that it wasn't all that it played up to be.

I believe there is a difference beween those that are dreamers and those that wish.

dream big, don't wish for object's, material things, or love. Wish for dreams, your dreams will guide you in the direction of where you really want to go.

reply to post by DaveNorris


The downside is it would put you up a couple tax brackets from where you are now

reply to post by DaveNorris

i wish i had a million pounds cant see a down side to that... except that i dont have a million pounds awww, now im sad

I got a childhood friend whos up to a million in savings and he's still not happy. He was telling how when he started that he told himself that once he reaches 200k, he'll feel secure and happy. Got to that and was still insecure. So he figure 500k will do it. Nope. Figured 750k will do it. Nope. Figured a million will give him security and comfort, nope.... he's still obsessing to make more and more and more and more like a never ending cycle.

All that money got him a nice house and nice cars, but the people he has to be around to shmooze w/ in his industry are all coke head and alcoholics and it has gotten him addicted to coke and several DUI's, I think he's on his third or fourth dui and now actually has to go sit in jail for a few months. SO there you go. He told me he wished we can go back to high school w/ no money and everything so simple. Go figure!!!

reply to post by openeyeswideshut


oh well, ill survive, ill just use the same loophole as jimmy carr and pay only 1% tax

reply to post by dominicus


well, if he ever wants to swap places then drop me a line lol

reply to post by DaveNorris


I guess if you keep it penned up in a swiss account then they wont be able to tax you cause they won't know how much money you have

I wish I was dead.. But i'm still alive lol

reply to post by Crashyy

I wish I was dead.. But i'm still alive lol

i wish you werent dead. We're all here for some purpose, even if its just to give someone some advice or put a smile on their face or whatevs. I'm glad you exist and contribute to threads and whatnot. I hope we can be friends. Serious. I wished for death alot too once, but its really not too bad here once you get into the flow of things

The saying goes that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.....


And its been said before, If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, Never make a pretty woman your wife.

reply to post by dominicus


I wish someone would tell a story about someone who made a lot of money. Was finally able to get all the things he always wanted and was as happy as a pig in .....

reply to post by karen61057

That would be ME, if only fate would give me a chance and drop those millions into my lap. Was born poor and am, it puts you at nearly everyone's mercy, and you don't have much choice in where and how you live, which is hellish for someone like myself who is reclusive and hates noise and pollution. I'm the most vulnerable/unsafe, too, when a shtf scenario comes about.


(I wish I was filthy rich I wish I wish I wish I wish)

This cliché proves that wishfulness and hopefulness lead to nothing but disappointment.

Interesting stories, thanks for sharing.

ahem you can say that again,

this works with people before this generation to,

Indicating certainty?

Get the vibe?

Positive and loving, happy wishing...

Elf

I think the problem is that people tend to wish for material possessions instead of wishing for spiritual or metaphysical fulfilment. The accumulation of goods generally does not bring forth feelings of happiness and fulfilment, which is at the heart of our most innate desires.

Yes yes, the grass may be greener on the other side of the fence, yet your probably gonna have more to mow.

reply to post by Saucerwench


My Mom used to say wish in one hand and spit in the other and see which one gets filled first.

reply to post by LesMisanthrope


That is so sad. Wishfulness and hopefulness bring possibilities that move the world forward. Wishfulness and hopefulness offer opportunities. Of course a bad attitude will only hold you back.