Public Bathroom Shyness(Pee Shyness)?

I've suffered from stage fright for as long as I've been urinating on my own. It's awful when you wait forever only to find out that the only place available is between two dudes. There's no way it'll come out and then the pressure to get it done with so someone else can go about their business only compounds the problem.

As I rarely find myself in those situations anymore, I forgot about it. Now, the only time I'm using public bathrooms, it seems, is when I'm taking my son to the bathroom and we always wind up in a stall because he can't always reach the urinals.

So, yesterday, I found myself in a bathroom with 2 urinals. No toilet at all, that was in the next room. It was late in the afternoon, the crowds, for the most part, had left the park and the little concession stand was closed. I went into the bathroom, stood at the urinal and started doing my thing. Then, some big, burly dude walks in, apologizes, notices the empty urinal next to me, unzips and bumps me.

That's right, a mid-stream bump. I thought about turning on him, marking my territory and blaming the bump but I chickened out. Now, I'm sure, the stage fright will return.

This is more common than not.

As for me, because of my occupation, I take showers with groups of old men daily.
I am used to being around male nudity, and unfortunately for me it is very unpleasant.
Being a hetero- it is definitely NOT something I want to see daily, but I have to.
There's no way around it.

Even with my ability to completely ignore a mans body, I am urinal shy a bit.
Don't know if I'll ever get over it, and it's purely psychological.

When I have to us a public restroom, I always focus on the wall.
The tile grout is bland but you can count lines, or count tiles...
Or the urinal brand name, or if it has a pink urinal cake, etc...
Anything to take focus off of that little annoyance of a problem.

An inventor needs to develop cheap displays to install right above the flush valve.
That way we all have something to look at whilst trying to relieve ourselves.

I especially enjoy when there's a newspaper clipping above the urinals.
A giant sigh of relief usually belts out upon discovering the restroom owner is considerate.
Considerate of a problem that doesn't seem to have an easy cure.

Originally posted by havok
This is more common than not.

As for me, because of my occupation, I take showers with groups of old men daily.
I am used to being around male nudity, and unfortunately for me it is very unpleasant.
Being a hetero- it is definitely NOT something I want to see daily, but I have to.
There's no way around it.

Even with my ability to completely ignore a mans body, I am urinal shy a bit.
Don't know if I'll ever get over it, and it's purely psychological.

When I have to us a public restroom, I always focus on the wall.
The tile grout is bland but you can count lines, or count tiles...
Or the urinal brand name, or if it has a pink urinal cake, etc...
Anything to take focus off of that little annoyance of a problem.

An inventor needs to develop cheap displays to install right above the flush valve.
That way we all have something to look at whilst trying to relieve ourselves.

I especially enjoy when there's a newspaper clipping above the urinals.
A giant sigh of relief usually belts out upon discovering the restroom owner is considerate.
Considerate of a problem that doesn't seem to have an easy cure.

True, i been to some fancy restaurants where they have had a LCD screen playing either a football game or some Ads. They do take my mind off as well as, i know that they keep others mind occupied and not "all ears" for the noise.


There is no place like Home :/

The only shyness I get is when the guy next to me is staring at my cock, this wouldn't bother me if it was huge but it's not so that makes me a little nervous! And yes, this has happened on numerous occasions.

Originally posted by Wide-Eyes
The only shyness I get is when the guy next to me is staring at my cock, this wouldn't bother me if it was huge but it's not so that makes me a little nervous!

And yes, this has happened on numerous occasions.

edit on 4-6-2012 by Wide-Eyes because: (no reason given)

99% of the time, men get the penis that is appropriate for their body/race. If you think its small its because you are comparing to steroid pumped hogs on porn movies and your occasional enlargement ads.

reply to post by luciddream

I have pee shyness too, friend, I think a lot of people do. If the rest room is crowded, I wait for a stall, then flush the stool to make noise, and to tell my body it needs to release water. This works for me. Another thing that is hard for me is when my doctor wants a sample. Going in there with the clear intention to pee in a cup is not really conducive to the job at hand. I can easily pee right in front of my wife and sons. (not that I do that)

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Hey, there's nothing wrong with it when it comes to business time but when it's limp, It's tiny!

Originally posted by Wide-Eyes
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Hey, there's nothing wrong with it when it comes to business time but when it's limp, It's tiny!

edit on 4-6-2012 by Wide-Eyes because: (no reason given)

If the guy beside you is "pumped up" in a men's washroom, then you got other things to worry about.

Originally posted by luciddream

Originally posted by Wide-Eyes
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Hey, there's nothing wrong with it when it comes to business time but when it's limp, It's tiny!

edit on 4-6-2012 by Wide-Eyes because: (no reason given)

If the guy beside you is "pumped up" in a men's washroom, then you got other things to worry about.

PMSL

Good point, that might explain the staring too!

My main problem is going when someone is there. Also, peeing in a cup is a hassle. I can't ever go easy for drug tests. I hate it so I don't apply to any jobs that require one.

Originally posted by Skid Mark
My main problem is going when someone is there. Also, peeing in a cup is a hassle. I can't ever go easy for drug tests. I hate it so I don't apply to any jobs that require one.

For some reason, peeing in a cup was never a problem for me, as long as i get a private bathroom, or one with a stall. Chances are you will get a private one if you are doing it for a test.

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Mmmmm,..Carry a small wedge around with you, and wedge the main entrance door closed when you go in, assuming no one is already in there, if they are, wait ,til they,ve gone, then use the wedge...

Originally posted by MrJohnSmith
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Mmmmm,..Carry a small wedge around with you, and wedge the main entrance door closed when you go in, assuming no one is already in there, if they are, wait ,til they,ve gone, then use the wedge...

Lol, its a good idea, but im sure if it repeats, they will eventually complain, although at my work place, the janitor leaves his "out of order" sign in his room(which is always open).

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I have Paruresis, and a very serious case of it.

I can't go to any restroom outside of my home, if I do, I have to be the only one around. It's so bad that I've had to drive home to use the restroom, when I was out with friends. I've even had to have a catheter put in because I went so long without going. I've lost jobs because I couldn't pee for a drug test.

So if you think you've got it bad, you could be me!

a good way to help your self when ur nervous about number one is to push on your bladder in rapid succession, be careful though, it could be mis-construed and people might think ur trying to tug one out

Originally posted by Isabelx

run the faucet water or flush the toilet first to get some noise going... that way you dont feel so self-conscious about having everyone hear you tinkle

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this works very well for me, also.

plus... think waterfalls. that also helps.

but i'm with ya'... it sure makes cross country road trips difficult at times.

Originally posted by luciddream
Hi Everyone,

I just found out im pee shyness, after i found out, its actually a "disorder" and not "just me", i seem to notice lot of other people have it too.

Well to tell the truth, im "shy" to use public bathroom for both(#1 and #2) purpose, and it make sense why i avoid using public bathroom for #2.

You may notice or see if you have it by few events.

When you are in a public washroom taking a piss and someone is waiting in line next for your stall and at this moment you feel uncomfortable and you can't do your business, that's how you know you have it.

For me its mainly the #2 business, i barely used public bathroom for that purpose(i think in my life i only maybe used outside washroom, maybe 50x). I can;t do anything if there is another person in the washroom, i have to wait until they leave...

Also whats with those grunting noise people make, can't they just go quiet? lol

Its a mental problem, how i knew this? no i didn't Wikipedia. i found out about this is when i was in the washroom, and did my business assuming there was no one, but later found out that there was someone(it was a big washroom).

Anyone dealt with this before? have you found your way of focus on something else?

Ok, I understand exactly where you're coming from. I have issues using public restrooms as well. I even have issues using any restroom, if it doesn't have a fan in it. I know with myself, I not only don't like hearing others going to the bathroom, I really don't like people hearing me go to the bathroom. If people can hear, I can't go. I know it's retarded, my friends have teased me about it, but that's who I am.

I did find a trick around it, though. I don't know if this will work for you, but this helps me get over it. I trick myself. I'll plug my ears, so I can't hear anything around me. I know it's retarded, doesn't really make sense at all, but I tell my brain that if I can't hear it, they can't hear it. Now I'm not stupid, I know they can still hear it, but for some reason, it does help.

So maybe you need to trick your brain, until you can get the mental strength to not let it worry you anymore. Hope this helps in some ways, even if just to give you ideas on how to overcome your public restroom issues.

I read this years and years ago and I've honestly forgotten where I read it.

But, I used to suffer from it and following this bit of advice helped me over come it. When you start getting the stage fright do this..

1. Stare straight ahead or slightly up then..

2. Start running through the multiplication tables in your head. Start with 1x1=1, 1x2=2, etc.. all the way up to 12 (1x12=12). Then go to the 2's, 3's and so on. Honestly, the furthest I've ever had to go with it is starting the 4's.

Before you know it you'll be going like a race horse and you'll be better at basic math too!

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So that was you I saw? Seriously, I saw some dude drop his pants and undies to his ankles and lift his shirt when he went to the urinal. Lets just say the rest of us in there hurried out leaving just a little more confused than we entered.

As for helping out the problem of being pee shy try what I do when I want to feel like I'm isolated and need to focus at any given time. Picture yourself in a large empty black cube. There is no noise, there are no people nor anything else for that matter. Just keep repeating to yourself I'm alone. You may want to work on it at home before you try it in the field. It will help if you remember the relaxed feeling you get when you are home.

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Holy freaking Mary of McGuillicuty..... you've gotta be kidding me! While a woman's restroom is a den of posturing and stuffiness in front of the mirror, behind the door its another world. I doubt very much there will be murders happening over such things as stalling in the stall, as it were, but there might be cold shoulders or unfriendly glances. If it gets as bad as all this, I'm getting my own cat-copter to clear the areas. ( please see the cat flap thread for details)