Bringing Anonimity To ATS In A Whole New Way! The "You Cant Prove It Was Me" Thread.

There was a thread not to long ago, that said something along the lines of ATS possibility being a place to share experiences with others that either have similar stories or events that have happened that have something to do with the subjects here, or personal stories that have caused them to search for more truth.

Most members showed concern about sharing personal stories and it possibly causing some sort of "label" for them. This I feel is a good enough reason to remain silent, even though we have screen names, we still have a link to each other that may cause embarrassment, or ridicule, if another decided to cause such chaos.

I propose that we use the old technique of "I have a friend who", or "I heard through the grapevine", or even "I have a friend of a friend who", and then complete the story.

This in NO way can be called false. There is no way to prove that a "friend" hadn't had that happen to them, and this can make others more comfortable to share their stories.

Since I have been a member here, I have had the opportunity to become friends with many of you, and some out there have reached out to me about threads I have written, wanting to share their story. I of course cannot give advice to everyone, but I know that many of us here can help.

This can be known as the "You cant prove it was me" thread. ATS is a pretty close knit community, and with the minds and hearts out there, and the silent hell that some of you out there are feeling, doesn't have to be done alone.

Mind you for those still hesitant, there are many of us that know of people out that have had something happen to them but they are afraid to ask, of even afraid to face it. There are even more people out there that we personally know that are scared of what they have been through or noticed, and fear repercussions of being a member.

This is a way to help everyone, and still be anonymous.

Thanks for taking the time to read this. Please share your thoughts as well, it doesn't have to pertain to the actual subject, but the idea itself, maybe we can come up with something that can be beneficial to all members.

Peace, NRE.

Hey NRE!

To be honest I was only thinking last week that I was in a few dilemas the ATS folks could maybe help and advise me on... The draw back was, these are quite personnal exsperiences, and I decided I couldn't share them publicly, as when I think of it, many people know me on here, I portray my self as my self, and no other persona... So I couldn't really "hang my dirty washing on the line"..

The there have been the 2 "Emotional support" threads, that offered help via U2Us... Still a draw back as someone somewhere will know who I am, and my most closest thoughts... I'm not sure how I feel about it.. Can't we open a shrink forum? Lol

I Do Know... That.. Making My Title... In Full Capitols For Every... Word..

I Hear... William.... Shatner...

It Is... Just... How... It is... Or Is It?

Let You Be The.... Judge... Or... Not...

Spock, All Hailing Frequencies... A ... Thing... Must be... Said...

reply to post by NoRegretsEver


I see where you're coming from and I think it would be good to encourage people to come forward with personal stories about things that have happened to them but, I think what you suggest would just subject them to more ridicule.

I propose that we use the old technique of "I have a friend who", or "I heard through the grapevine", or even "I have a friend of a friend who", and then complete the story.

These are such old and tired stereotypes that I don't think anyone would fall for them anymore. The poster will be immediately called out for using such a lame device and, if they were to use the old "friend of a friend" cliche, their story could rightly be moved to the URBAN LEGENDS forum where such stories belong.

I think its better to be truthful and come right out and say that you were the one who experienced something if you wish to share your stories here. Using one of the other tired cliches will open posters up to more ridicule than their story ever could have resulted in and may make them seem untrustworthy in the future.

Just my 2 cents.

reply to post by NoRegretsEver


Interesting ideas and thread - thank you for posting.

I think the "I have a friend" approach can be presented more easily in some situations then others. Not as easy to do, as an example, when an experience includes a profound emotional and/or intuitive context.

There is nothing to hide, nothing to cover up. Every word is spoken from the heart so there is nothing to take back or regret. Even the most bold statements have such strong sincerity behind them that there is nothing to fear. I do not speak that which I do not mean. Therefore, I do not take back that which I say. What use, then, is there for further anonimity beyond screen-names?

Growing up in Detroit and then joining the Army, I learned fast to never admit anything.

I never did the "I have a friend who...." thing, I have always said "I read a book one time..." as a means of plausible deniability.

I got a friend who said
they read this thread
and they told me that
men in black visit the OP
at night. He also said
that this has led to, and
will single highhandedly lead
to more hoaxes ever.
Because people can then post
whatever crap they want
like my friend told me the OP
sees dead people.

Cool. Well I got this friend, who thinks we should, and will revolt (period)

Originally posted by mainidh
I Do Know... That.. Making My Title... In Full Capitols For Every... Word..

I Hear... William.... Shatner...

It Is... Just... How... It is... Or Is It?

Let You Be The.... Judge... Or... Not...

Spock, All Hailing Frequencies... A ... Thing... Must be... Said...

Did That Make you Feel Better?

Thank you for the encouragement NoRegretsEver , and I sometimes wish I had the "courage" to share what I have been through, and am still going through.

Researching has helped put some of it into perspective, but it has also made me very wary of what I expose, and to who.

I have lost trust, especially on sites such as these, though I do believe there are many very good caring members here.

I have never been a great liar, so even saying "this happened to a friend of mine" is difficult for me.

Holding so much inside can be painful though,and sometimes I wish could talk to someone who would listen without judgement.

I get through my days, believing there is a higher spiritual realm that is good and loving, and knows the truth behind many deceptions.

Originally posted by popsmayhem
I got a friend who said
they read this thread
and they told me that
men in black visit the OP
at night. He also said
that this has lead to, and
will single highhandedly lead
to more hoaxes ever.
Because people can then post
whatever crap they want
like my friend told me the OP
sees dead people.

yeah, one, could see it that way

after all who could deny my brothers sisters cousin told me to tell you that

oooops did I just break my, I mean your anonymity , now I an confused,,,, forget it.
enjoy this video, hearing it from a friend who heard it from a friend, gossip, its UGLY

Originally posted by BlastedCaddy

Originally posted by mainidh
I Do Know... That.. Making My Title... In Full Capitols For Every... Word..

I Hear... William.... Shatner...

It Is... Just... How... It is... Or Is It?

Let You Be The.... Judge... Or... Not...

Spock, All Hailing Frequencies... A ... Thing... Must be... Said...

Did That Make you Feel Better?

My friend told me it made
him feel better

Originally posted by rebellender

oooops did I just break my, I mean your anonymity , now I an confused,,,, forget it.
enjoy this video, hearing it from a friend who heard it from a friend, gossip, its UGLY

Song is great for the thread
love it!!

Anyways, I think encouraging people
to lie is a bad thing always..

reply to post by WhisperingWinds


Thanks for sharing that, that was the purpose of the thread. I am not concerned at all with those that choose to make fun of others, of decide to derail, because they cant focus on anything but themselves.

This was meant for those who were trying to cope, and could see that they are not alone.

Peace, NRE.

Originally posted by NoRegretsEver
reply to post by WhisperingWinds

 

Thanks for sharing that, that was the purpose of the thread. I am not concerned at all with those that choose to make fun of others, of decide to derail, because they cant focus on anything but themselves.

This was meant for those who were trying to cope, and could see that they are not alone.

Peace, NRE.

Thanks, sometime i find it hard to wake up
in the morning. I am so glad their are
people out there that care online.
I just feel like opening up and telling
you people everything, I feel so safe
with your posting habits. Again thank you
thank you so much

reply to post by popsmayhem


I am asking in the most polite way that I can that though I understand that you may not like my thread, that I truly have this here for those that would like to share.

For those that have bypassed some of the comments, I hope that this has not deterred those that actually wanted to share.

Peace, NRE.

Originally posted by Sinny
Hey NRE!

To be honest I was only thinking last week that I was in a few dilemas the ATS folks could maybe help and advise me on... The draw back was, these are quite personnal exsperiences, and I decided I couldn't share them publicly, as when I think of it, many people know me on here, I portray my self as my self, and no other persona... So I couldn't really "hang my dirty washing on the line"..

The there have been the 2 "Emotional support" threads, that offered help via U2Us... Still a draw back as someone somewhere will know who I am, and my most closest thoughts... I'm not sure how I feel about it.. Can't we open a shrink forum? Lol

I used to feel like this as well. I have a terrible panic/anxiety disorder that doesn't even allow me to leave the house most of the time. I always rejected my friends and family and would make up any excuse to hang out with them because I was worried what they would think about me if I told them. What would they think? Perhaps that I'm not mentally stable, or I'm weak, or a freak, whatever.

Then I had a talk with my boss at work explaining to him the situation. Much to my surprise, he told me that he had to take "40mg of paxil" a day just to cope with his anxiety. I felt better.

Everyone has problems, you just don't realize it. They keep them close inside their head (or their closest like you have referred to), and everyone (just like you) wants to let these things out. But nobody feels comfortable doing it because we worry about social rejection.

I tell you what though, if you open up to someone and tell them your problems, they will feel much more comfortable and be willing to tell you theirs.

So, that's what I do now. I'm not afraid to let someone know that I'm "mentally unstable, weak, and a freak."


Also, now that I accept that everyone has problems, I don't let those problems define the person for me. I know what you are thinking: "If I tell them my problems, they won't be able to read a post of mine without thinking of them." This may be true for some, but most people (and I know this is an ugly truth) care about themselves much more than they do you and are more worried about their own problems.

Still, if you need to talk and don't want to do it publicly, feel free to U2U me.

i have some issues i would like to bring to ats because i know there are many here that could help me, but i refuse to, i fear being brought down any farther than i already am by certain members.

Oops, guess i killed the thread, sorry.

Meh. My screen name is my name. I don't worry about what I say or what others think of me. I have seen some things in my life that can not be explained and I don't care if anyone believes me or not. If I think the government is wrong about something I will state it.