When you die, where will you haunt?

I decided to create this post because recently, Ive been having tons of dreams that I go back to my childhood home. It was the first place where I experienced the paranormal. In my dreams, I always go back to this place as if to look for something but every time I end up running into ghosts and the shape of the inside structure changes. I'm not sure if any of you watched American Horror Story but the basis of that first season was on ghosts being trapped inside the house if they die on the property. For the record, these dreams have occurred long before I saw this tv show.

American Horror Story

However, here is where I am confused. A few years ago, I remembered staying a beachfront hotel in Santa Monica. It was supposed to be my honeymoon ( I divorced not too long after) but instead ended up experiencing many different emotions such as hate, pain, love, and ultimately sadness. I remembered looking out into the ocean the day I left and this thought came into my mind "This is where my spirit will come to haunt if I ever die"

Here's my question to you guys, do you think that when you die you can choose a location to haunt or do you think that your spirit might be bound to a place where you underwent a lot of emotional experiences?

Or is it simply all in my mind and ultimately I have no control of where my spirit goes? I'd like to think this is the most possible scenario.

When I die, I'm coming back to haunt the ATS forums...what better place for a ghost to show up.

I'll be the one posting threads like "Am I dead?" and "Where did all the people go?"




....but on a serious note. I've often wondered about what exist beyond our lives. In all my years of looking for answers, I'm no closer to solving the riddle.

I got more important things to than to haunt after I die, unless of course if that's you on your avatar then I'll probably haunt your bedroom

Just kidding btw, no offense. Don't know too much about ghosts but my intuition tells me it's leftover energy from living beings not the beings themselves. The more malevolent ones (poltergeists) are probably lesser souls from some sort of lower density/dimension, negative entities that are attracted to the area for whatever reason.

Again I am going by what little I've read and inuition so I could be wrong but am open minded. If I needed to "haunt" a place it would probably be a family member's residence (maybe my brother) to protect and watch over them.

I would haunt a movie theater, free movies and allways a free seat when you scare away the viewers.

To fill the 2'nd line....What happens to all the ghost, if the earth exploded

I believe we all go back to where we was when we was born

Originally posted by blackmetalmist
do you think that when you die you can choose a location to haunt or do you think that your spirit might be bound to a place where you underwent a lot of emotional experiences?

Certain spirits (like myself) have places of origin.

It is where a spirit is reincarnated.

Tell me, have you had a strong urge to be at your place and you cannot explain why ?

I believe you will find many of the emotional experiences of your place will be joy, freedom, paradise, hope and love.

When you reached that beach was your main feeling a sense of completion ?

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Ah but....how do we know there aren't ghosties posting here already eh? I bet there are.

Personally, I would pick someone like Richard Dawkins to haunt if I had a choice. I could have so much fun tormenting him. I'm not sure we do have a choice about where and if we haunt, although I have very strong feelings that we don't stop at death of the physical. Maybe the emotional tie theory is the most likely..maybe it would be irrelevent or a waste of energy to revisit someone or somewhere just for the hell of it. On the other hand....I need to go write a bucket list..

Your mom!

Ok I just had to get that little bit of immaturity out

If I have a choice I will not haunt anywhere on earth, I'm getting the F outta here!

ETA I know what you mean about your childhood dreams. I have the most dreams in my adult life about my childhood home, it holds such a magic for me that I will never forget. The feelings it brings up when I think about it or dream of it. I still dream of the forests surrounding my house, and how it was always like a safe haven for me. Interesting thoughts though...hmmm

First off, interesting post! It is a question that has crossed my mind a time or two. I naturally have no way of *knowing* but I'd like to think I could choose the place as well. However, from the little I understand of ghost lore, usually ghosts haunt the place where they die right?

Although, I find it interesting you felt that you would haunt the location of your honeymoon. Perhaps that place is symbolic of a significant point in your life and so you felt a connection to it. As far as your dreams go, I tend to think that when we dream of certain places they definetly hold symbolic meaning for us. Dreams are the language of our hearts, our emotions and they use images to describe things we try not to think about in our waking moments....our brains have to process all incoming images, experiences, information.....but some of that stuff are things we do not want to process.

I too watched AHS, and really loved it until the last few episodes.....it really made you think about the afterlife and how negativity can be a powerful energy that can leave a residue. There have been places where I felt very uncomfortable, and I have always wondered the history of those areas. Do you think this was the case when you were on honeymoon? Did you feel that there was a deeper *reason* behind all those terrible feelings you experienced while you were there? Why do you think you felt drawn to haunt that place?

I feel like I'd haunt the Atlantic ocean. For me, the Atlantic is symbolic of purgatory, being caught in between two worlds. I feel like I could roam the entire ocean but I'd never touch either shoreline.

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Originally posted by blackmetalmist
do you think that when you die you can choose a location to haunt or do you think that your spirit might be bound to a place where you underwent a lot of emotional experiences?

Certain spirits (like myself) have places of origin.

It is where a spirit is reincarnated.

Tell me, have you had a strong urge to be at your place and you cannot explain why ?

I believe you will find many of the emotional experiences of your place will be joy, freedom, paradise, hope and love.

When you reached that beach was your main feeling a sense of completion ?

edit on 23-4-2012 by Rapha because: Completion question

I actually have had much better experiences since then but the only reason I though of haunting that particular place was because I associate the negative sad aspect of ghostly hauntings.

In my ideal situation, it would be for my soul to go to a heaven where there I am reunited with all my pets and my family members. I would hate to be stuck on this earth for eternity.

Originally posted by Mijamija
First off, interesting post! It is a question that has crossed my mind a time or two. I naturally have no way of *knowing* but I'd like to think I could choose the place as well. However, from the little I understand of ghost lore, usually ghosts haunt the place where they die right?

Although, I find it interesting you felt that you would haunt the location of your honeymoon. Perhaps that place is symbolic of a significant point in your life and so you felt a connection to it. As far as your dreams go, I tend to think that when we dream of certain places they definetly hold symbolic meaning for us. Dreams are the language of our hearts, our emotions and they use images to describe things we try not to think about in our waking moments....our brains have to process all incoming images, experiences, information.....but some of that stuff are things we do not want to process.

I too watched AHS, and really loved it until the last few episodes.....it really made you think about the afterlife and how negativity can be a powerful energy that can leave a residue. There have been places where I felt very uncomfortable, and I have always wondered the history of those areas. Do you think this was the case when you were on honeymoon? Did you feel that there was a deeper *reason* behind all those terrible feelings you experienced while you were there? Why do you think you felt drawn to haunt that place?

I feel like I'd haunt the Atlantic ocean. For me, the Atlantic is symbolic of purgatory, being caught in between two worlds. I feel like I could roam the entire ocean but I'd never touch either shoreline.

AHS really was great until the last few, I agree! I do believe that day of my honeymoon became a turning point in my life because I came to the realization that I could no longer allow such harm and such sorrow to rule my life anymore. Before that I let it go on for so long and when I finally looked out to the ocean, I decided that my life should be like a vast ocean full of new possibilities. However, I knew that what happened during those days would stay in my mind the rest of my life. In that sense, I would be haunted by these memories forever. Perhaps, someone else had gone through those emotions before me and I felt them. After all, hotels have a constant stream of visitors and those energies tend to linger. Maybe at one point there had been another bride or another woman who had experienced those feelings as well.

I think the first place I intend to haunt is my autopsy. Since I have a medical issue that can't be fully diagnosed atm. Maybe I can get some answers after I'm dead from the pathology report. And since ghosts don't usually have email addresses, the best way to know is just to be there and watch!!
Yeah..I'm warped like that.

i believe you have the power to do what you want in the after life including haunting something or someone, but I've got better things in mind im not going to get caught in any spiritual belief bundles, going to explore whats there to see and experience.


but for the sake of the thread i'd haunt someone that really annoyed me and just slap things around him...maybe him when he sleeps, muahaha ! ....

EDIT: webpirate, your avatar i drive past to go to work such great energy around it..

The Playboy mansion for obvious reasons.

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Wow...Don't rub it in though!! It's one of the greatest places I've ever been! Maybe I'll haunt there!



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Originally posted by chrismicha77
The Playboy mansion for obvious reasons.

If that's the case...I bet it's really really crowded there!

Originally posted by chrismicha77
The Playboy mansion for obvious reasons.

I had a friend that worked there and he did say he had a few run ins with mysterious shadows lurking about. So there may be some truth to that !

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I think it is very possible that another person experienced those same emotions and you picked up on them. Funny how people always say that your wedding is supposed to be the happiest moment of your life, but for so many people it is so bittersweet! I am happy you experienced a change that set you on a new course, those are truly precious moments, and in my humble opinion life should be like a vast ocean, full of diversity and ever changing experiences and possibilities, the sadness comes when you feel trapped or stuck and you are held down and not able to explore those options, then the realization that you have bound yourself to only one path dawns on you and you feel a urge to break free. It reminds me of when Virginia Woolf put rocks in her pockets and went out into the water to die because it was the only way she knew to be set free. So much sadness, so much longing for a different kind of life....we shouldn't have to kill ourselves to find that freedom, I am glad you found yours and are here to write about it. That to me is the secret of it all......being free is a state of mind.

I honestly think I might haunt someplace with a lot of naked women. That's just me though. lol

what a huge question that would take a lot of thought, an interesting one though.

Over the years and many hours researching i have been wondering if hauntings of buildings and such are more likly along the lines of memories, emotions so strong they are bound to a place. it may sound a little far fetched by there are many many cases over the years that would explain it. For example there was a famous battle called the battle of hastings fought out in a field. Every year at the same time battle cries can be heard, horse hooves, yelling and the clanking of swords. Many other occurrences of this nature as been foretold on other battlefields

Other occurrences in houses for example were specific things happen regularly, always at the same time, always the same thing, the same smells and sounds like the houses are reliving the memories.

Of course though this doesn't explain many other cases were there is poltergeist activity, cases of possessive spirits and things like that.

I believe that what we call souls are like a ball of energy - think of us like light bulbs, for us to work we have to be interconnected to wires and filiments and such like, those are connected to fuses and boxes to runt he electricity, Eventually the bulb will flicker out but the energy doesnt leave it simply recycles itself and awaits a new bulb to connect with it. hopefully you understand what i mean

If we were able to choose were we haunt , i would remain with my family and keep them safe and comforted....plus to kick their butts if they misbehave

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I have faith when I die my soul won't be left roaming aimlessly in Sheol/ the outer realm / in between this realm and the netherrealm,

I have faith i will be comfortable in Paradise, and not a lost soul roaming sheol