I'm getting sick of this journey..

let it all out, don't need to worry about the journey until you are better. If I had a word of advice, it's that the spiritual journey is probably the hardest journey you'll ever take. It sounds like you had just begun this journey, keep going at it! Good luck with your significant other!

reply to post by OhNoItsCritical

"Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls." Matthew 11:28-29

This is what ive noticed about most postings of this matter.
No one ever has an actual answer.....

Could be a perception of hell. But I know that many people gone through worse situations. We live in tough times indeed. When I had a gf, it was almost a living hell. lol It's so much better being single. I do feel lonely at times, but I learn to enjoy and think about all the things that I can do alone. Whether if it's walking around naked in the house. Do something that you always wanted to do. Even if it's ridiculous, it's fun entertaining myself to the strangest things.

what people really want as their destination in life's spiritual journey is love.

Everybody has adivce for you, OP, including going and seeing a doctor and medicating yourself. By the nature of your post all I can give is my two cents, so it may sound hypocritical given my previous statement about others, but here goes...

Do YOUR thing. Find something you want to do, and maybe even are afraid to do, and do it. Do it alone and accept no help and make sure, through your total commitment, stubbornness, and self-determination that you do it alone and without any help. Aim low if you are afraid, but do it! Ignore all of the talk about letting go of ego and actually serve it (it is you). Be you and not one of the "collective" - be an individualist. Do something that proves to you that you do not need or require anyone but you and the Creator of this universe to live, survive, and thrive. To prove that life really is that simple - just between you and your Creator.

Nothing else matters... If you can make it with nothing but who made you, then you are alive and self-determined, which means your life is your own. Forget about everything else and concentrate on that. You will find happiness in you by looking inside. Free yourself from the prison of what others think and do and feel by learning why you think and feel and do your own thing - which can only be found by pursuing your inner desires.

Feed yourself, and then worry about how to feed others. True care for others is found in care for the self. How can you care for another if you do not care for yourself, or how can you save a man from a splinter in his eye if you have a splinter in your own?

From your words and what you say - I speak from experience... It may already be gone and you may already know it (about your relationship) - at least for now. Don't give up, just focus your attention of what is supposedly the problem in the first place- you. Fix yourself by finding yourself in a way you never have before, and if it don't save that relationship - so be it. It WILL save you!

Be good enough for yourself.

To hell with what others think and whether or not they love you as YOU think they should, at least if you do as I suggest you know you can live loving who and what you tried your hardest to be.

No one who supposedly ever loved you or who claims to love you should ever stand in the way of your absolute rise to your full potential, whether your relationship is currently up or currently down - they should be thinking of your rise and progress if they ever loved you, and who knows... maybe they are, and you just can't see it, or even they cannot?

Just get out there and do your thing, and forget about them. If they love YOU, then they will love you being you, but if they no longer love you, then they will not love what it is that you do which is you, but YOU will love what is you and they will no longer matter as much as you thought they earned the right to mean to you.

Originally posted by trig_grl
This is what ive noticed about most postings of this matter.
No one ever has an actual answer.....

Psssst. *whispers* We are trying to distract him

Originally posted by Shrukin89

Originally posted by trig_grl
This is what ive noticed about most postings of this matter.
No one ever has an actual answer.....

Psssst. *whispers* We are trying to distract him

edit on 30-3-2012 by Shrukin89 because: (no reason given)

i just want to make a statement that this is not what i was doing.

i mean, you know... just for the record. I was trying to relate to the feelings and they have their own twist but none of it was meant to distract,,, eve though i know you meant this lightly. It just caught my eye because a lot of people do that but minds operate differently and I find this interesting.

Originally posted by OhNoItsCritical
I've been, almost daily, stressing out and thinking and trying to deal with my "spiritual journey" for the last year and a half or so. Sometimes there will be days where everything is perfect and I'm empowered, and as happy as can be, then other times where I'm absolutely disempowered, disconnected, and frustrated with everything.

I don't know what to believe anymore, but I do know that as I change the world reflects that. I'm having relationship issues (my significant other and I may be parting our separate ways soon, which neither of us want but we both have a feeling that it's going to happen) and it seems almost every other person I know or read about is experiencing the same thing. Every problem that I'm experiencing, so is other people. I can't find a job, nor do I want one. I feel forced into looking for employment, and I'm actually pretty miserable about that.

I've been emailing a few people, listening to bashaar, listening to mooji, and just reading and contemplating, and it only leads to me stressing out. I keep getting stuck in loops of thoughts and beliefs, and I'm just getting sick of it. I remember when I believed and look forward to december 21st 2012, believing that something magical was going to happen and save me from all of my problems, but now I don't even believe that. I feel lost, alone, and I'm pretty much losing faith in everything.

I used to be afraid of things like the illuminati, GMO, flouride, whether I'll make the ascension or not, and some other things like aliens and whatnot, but I'm not afraid and couldn't care less about any of that anymore.. now it boils down to my relationship with my significant other (which that situation is BEYOND complicated, I won't even bother explaining that, I'll just say that we both want to be together but something is preventing it).

It seems like I'm being stripped down of everything that I love and enjoy. I'm just so sick of this back and forth crap. I feel as if everything and everybody aside from me is god, and it's all just playing some frustrating game with me for some reason or another...

If that's the case, I just hope that me and my significant other can look back one day and laugh at all of this BS that's happening.. and I hope it's soon, because at this point I'm seriously getting fed up.

You need a job.

The rest of it is all mental fluff.

The true reality is that your future is unstable because you don't have good work. That's the cake. The rest is frosting. You are in denial. Sorry to be blunt but there it is. Don't feel too bad, as you said millions are in the same boat.

they might mentally torture you at work and do all sorts of things to mess with your head and derail your spiritual path... or maybe not. only you would know because you would see this pattern in your life glaring at you of not being to keep your head above water no matter what you do.

I guess I am trying to learn survival because i have a feeling i will have to strike out on my own off the grid having no other choice. I've got a lot of obstacles in my way concerning that but it is thoughts like this that bring me peace and clarity that there is still a real world out there and there is real living beyond the plastic facade we are trapped in.

to sit by a campfire with someone you know, love and trust is beyond all the riches I could think of.

About the job:
you dont want to work? A lot of people work for you, all you eat, all you wear and use, all was made by the work of a lot of people. And you? You don't want to work... If this is the case you are becoming an exploiter of the people that made all the things you use.

About the rest: what matters most in our lives is what we do, what we feel and how we treat others.

You can control what you do, what you feel, and how you treat others. Dont be bothered by what you cant control. You are your greatest friend and your greatest enemy because is what you do that matters more.

So just do the best you can, study and learn, observe, experience, evolve your thoughts, your actions, your words, just dont give up. Strong will, and effort is very important because everything comes from this.

Life is like a game and in every game you need to be working to reach goals.

You must have goals, you must have wishes to fulfill, otherwise life slowly fades away until you ran out of gas...

There is something very important: our goals must be within our control, so if we just control what we do, our goals must be about something that we want to do.

you used a question mark with that but you seem to be insinuating that the OP stated they did not want to work and are now kind of putting them on a guilt trip it seems when they did clearly state they'd like to run their own business. how is that not working?

what is your main goal here because I'm just trying to see how this off the wall post is going to be helpful at all and it seems kind of like a personal matter for you. why are you trying to shape the op into your own issue that it doesn't really seem to be about.

reply to post by NotAnAspie


If he wants to work then no problem.

Sometimes people get fed up of society but that cant be an excuse to stop doing things of value to others.

Originally posted by Manula
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If he wants to work then no problem.

Sometimes people get fed up of society but that cant be an excuse to stop doing things of value to others.

Ok, that's fine but why are you pre-empting a crusade about the value of labor when it doesn't really seem like he was talking about this.

You went and made a whole other thread about it. Are you dealing with a person in your life who does not work? how in the world is coming in here getting onto people you don't know going to help your personal situation?

seriously....I'll say it again. it sounds personal.

Im a respected martial arts teacher. I bet my students would not hold me in the same regard if they knew how bored I am. The journey was fun and exciting then. Not much anymore.

You are not alone, op.

reply to post by Snoopy1978


What we all need is something to conquer, all the passion and enthusiasm comes from trying to reach goals.

Just do the best we can, but we must have goals, without goals/wishes to fulfill life fades away.

We are only responsible for our actions, so we should focus on what we want to do, and do the best we can.

reply to post by NotAnAspie


Calm down. I was trying to help.
Sometimes people forget the importance of doing something useful for other people because we need things made from other people too.
Its a simple idea, very forgotten, it motivates me to work.
Really we have a duty to be useful, that's my opinion, can you respect it, and stop attacking me?

Originally posted by Manula
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Calm down. I was trying to help.
Sometimes people forget the importance of doing something useful for other people because we need things made from other people too.
Its a simple idea, very forgotten, it motivates me to work.
Really we have a duty to be useful, that's my opinion, can you respect it, and stop attacking me?

I'm calm. I'm just trying to explain to you that maybe this isn't helping and might sound more like condemnation to people. Heck, anyone who doesn't read the whole thread (because we all know no one has time to read every post of every thread) they might assume that since you asked the question, then he must have said it. I'm just saying I think there is something very fishy about how you build your premises and I'd really like to know why you don't have these small simple considerations before posting.

I mean, in another thread you want to talk about mindsets.

Do you really?

reply to post by NotAnAspie


Yes i think the correct mindset to deal with the problems of life is very important.
I addressed the motivation to work. I think the will to be useful to others is very important.
You said everyone knows this, but i don't know, i think with all the confusion of the everyday life, we forget this very often, we forget the big picture, we forget why we should do things.

I also feel the same way. But I keep myself happy by watching Glee and Jersey Shore. Move yourself into another reality for a while.