List of things never to say to a woman as a nice guy if you want to date.

reply to post by KwisatzHaderach


Ooooh, how enticing hehe :]

But if I were you, I wouldn't have even said it was a joke. Have men believe it so you can get all of the girls

Like I said, figured it was trolling and hoped it was trolling haha.

Again, thanks for the entertainment

reply to post by GreenEyedVixen


That's the thing I'm not looking for a $&@? Buddy. I'm looking for intelligent funny women and there are none were I live.

Originally posted by KwisatzHaderach
This is coming straight from the "nice guy" horses mouth. I've seen way to many lists of what nice guys need to change and do to attract women and I thought it would be nice if we had a list of things not to say. Please feel free to add your own.

1. Never say "wow your beautiful" that's a death sentence, and they will think your creepy.

2. Never let your eyes linger beyond half a second if your checking a girl out it makes them uncomfortable.

3. Do not open doors for women and do not pull out chairs, its a sure fire way to say you are easily manipulated.



5. Do not speak to women unless they speak to you first, if spoken to feign disinterest, and walk away halfway through the conversation.

6. When a woman is speaking to you never look at her, look of into space with a bored expression or if other women are around check them out.

7. Never let women in a two foot radius of yourself, this entails no hugs, no cupped to the ear secrets, etc.

8. Never allow a woman to cry on your shoulder, It's suicide.

9. Never say anything in foreign languages it scares them.
Those are my basic tips to fellow nice guys, learned through personal experience.

edit on 15-3-2012 by KwisatzHaderach because: (no reason given)

Personally speaking:
1. Tell me I'm beautiful and add a few original thoughts from the heart.
2. Depends on where your eyes are lingering. Linger on my eyes and you have my attention. I don't like a guy
who carries on a conversation with my breasts.
3. Open all the doors and pull all the chairs you want. It tells me you are a gentleman. If the girl looks uncomfortable with you doing this ask her about it. "Does it bother you if I_______?"

4. If a woman is crying for anything other than physical pain do not even acknowledge she exists, this is the worst thing you can do, and are automatically in the "friend zone" which is inescapable.

I think my response to this would be "Well, I guess he doesn't care a bit about me." I can't ever remember being in this situation though.

5. Do not speak to women unless they speak to you first, if spoken to feign disinterest, and walk away halfway through the conversation.

You don't want to talk = you aren't interested. How many dates did you get by snubbing someone?

6. When a woman is speaking to you never look at her, look of into space with a bored expression or if other women are around check them out.

6. All I can say is, if you do this to me we won't talk much in the future.

7. Never let women in a two foot radius of yourself, this entails no hugs, no cupped to the ear secrets, etc.

7. Likewise, don't get in my space. This is one I'd probably agree with you on. Getting close takes time.

8. Never allow a woman to cry on your shoulder, It's suicide.

8. I don't cry for attention. I'll just go to the restroom and bawl. What would you do if one tried? Run?

9. Never say anything in foreign languages it scares them.

9. Maybe, I guess it depends on how to said it. If you said it I may not know where you were coming from and probably just not want to advertise I was clueless and nod my head or ask what it meant.

Thanks nice guy for the education. Hopefully, I helped you see things a bit differently. I see men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.

reply to post by GreenEyedVixen


No problem I really needed to blow off steam, I'm glad everybody got a kick or at least some feeling out of this. Also to those that say nice guys need to change their wrong, we may be single forever but who cares, at least we have lots of female and male friends, it's very strange being a male match maker lol.

reply to post by yourmaker


What Questforevidence said was very good advice.

As to how to meet a woman that you're attracted to, try a smile. A really big broad one, kinda like a golden retriever puppy. You have no idea how rare that is, for a stranger to smile at you. Crack a bit of a joke if you can think of something. It's not about pickup lines, it's about being a real person in an era of Iphones and utter impersonality. If you're in a public place and there's not much time, ask her for a date right there and then; tell her you have tickets and would she like to join you, there's something at the college auditorium coming up, or maybe you had a hike and picnic planned and would love the company. Get her contact information but make most/all of the communication IN PERSON. Can't stress this enough unless you'll be satisfied with something that will happen 99% on line.. (you young people nowadays with your electronic thingies)

After that, yeah, wait until a friendship happens. You have to have chemistry and it has to be mutual. A good relationship is a friendship that catches fire.

This probably deserves a separate thread but there is evidence that males today are being feminized by the residue of birth control pills in the water (it's not being removed in the water treatment plants). If that's true, you're going to really have to work hard at maintaining your muscle mass and your deep voices... think about it, how many deep voices are there amongst your male friends? When I was a teenager in the 60s, guys over 18 had deep voices and most everyone was lean and muscular. Take a look at pictures of the hippies. That doesn't seem to be the case now.

Originally posted by KwisatzHaderach
reply to post by GreenEyedVixen

 

we may be single forever but who cares

as someone who has only ever been single, I do.
I want to love and be loved, I want to feel and be felt.
I don't want to die alone, and I don't want to live alone.

reply to post by KwisatzHaderach


Agreed. I am looking for an attractive, intelligent life partner who can hold a conversation instead of taking me to the movies(I HATE the movies) and wants to continously do something that distracts the mind.

I want to know a man for who he truly is, not all the "cool" bikes he works on, or the "awesome" mountain-climbing he does. Superficial things like that.

I want to know a man for HIM, not the things he does. Hobbies don't matter to me. I just want to find someone I feel like I can talk to about anything, as strange as my thoughts are. Someone I can just sit around with and we can stimulate each other, mentally and physically I don't want to have to play video games, or watch movies, or DO something, I just want to focus on each other. Don't get me wrong, I am a Warcraft player myself, I love adventure video games and the like, but this doesn't define me as a person and I usually never bring it up until they catch me looking at my Warcraft auctioneer or armory on my phone haha.

Alas, I cannot find any "man" around here who can stimulate me in conversation. So I am stuck with "f--- buddies" until my true life partner comes along. As that is the only thing I can stand them for because they wish to talk about video games, and sports, movies, things dealing with the MSM. I don't wish to go out clubbing, I can do that with friends, I want someone to come home to and care for me.

You know what I mean? I kind of ranted but, whatever Conversation is intriguing

reply to post by sad_eyed_lady


This was a joke and everything I said was the opposite of what I had done with the last girl I tried to date and needed to blow of steam.

reply to post by signalfire


I actually prefer talking face to face, it's nice to be able to talk to people the world over, but face to face is so much nicer. I also don't have to worry about tainted water, fresh tap brought all the way underground from Alaska.

reply to post by yourmaker


I have been single, but dating for about a year now after being with someone for three years and experiencing an awful break up.

The break up was one of the most difficult things I have had to go through, for many serious reasons, but I will say that love is so amazing to be in, that I still chase it, regardless of how bad I had been hurt. I know something is out there for me, somewhere and I just have to wait for it, patiently.

Something is out there for you too. It's inevitable Love is a great thing to feel, and when you finally do feel it, CHERISH it. That is the most important thing. I took my love for granted and I have my regrets, but I can't dwell on it.

Of course if I had the chance though, I would do things quite differently.

Although maybe in the end, considering the circumstances, my altered actions really would not have mattered. Upon this door shutting, another one will eventually open. He was just not the one for me apparently, because if he were, he'd still be here.

reply to post by GreenEyedVixen


No I completely understand, I want somebody I can have an intelligent conversation with. I too enjoy the occasional video game but am much more interested in discussing philosophy or politics, or just getting lost in the woods for a few hours. It's extremely hard to find intelligent women in this world.

reply to post by yourmaker


What I'm saying is if it will happen it will if not oh well. We may have lost out, but somebody lost out even more.

Well, for all you people looking to love and be loved, I really hope your dreams come true. Like one poster said don't settle for anything less than true love and I hope you get it in return.

Originally posted by KwisatzHaderach
reply to post by yourmaker

 

What I'm saying is if it will happen it will if not oh well. We may have lost out, but somebody lost out even more.

tomorrow we both need to go out, and meet one woman each who we are attracted to and share a common interest.
say hello, the worst that will happen is she will say nothing and walk away, not ment to be.

this thread gave me a shi-ton of confidence in myself.

i'm not looking for ms. perfect, but rather ms. looking for love in someone like me

shes out there, saying hello to a girl your attracted to in a confident way with a smile is the first step needed to opening her mind to the prospect of you.

screw it, i'm doing it.

reply to post by yourmaker


Lol go for it then man good for you, I'm not in a position were I can right now, but I helped brighten somebody's day so I feel better.

reply to post by yourmaker


Good for you!

Maybe I will too, just walk up to some man I find attractive haha. But I'm kind of shy unless I'm approached first. If it goes wrong, screw it, dating in general goes wrong anyway hahahaha.

But that's great, atleast you'll be honest in your approach instead of using stupid pick-up lines or putting on a facade to manipulate a woman to be with you.

Originally posted by GreenEyedVixen
8. Never allow a woman to cry on your shoulder, It's suicide.
I don't think I've ever cried on any man's shoulder. I usually keep my emotions to myself because I know most people don't want to hear about how I feel, most people just plain out don't care.

Originally posted by sad_eyed_lady
8. Never allow a woman to cry on your shoulder, It's suicide.
I don't cry for attention. I'll just go to the restroom and bawl. What would you do if one tried? Run?

It is hilarious how you two wind up on number 8.
Come to think of it - being a man, shouldn't stop me from being self-centered. To add authenticity to it and for the purpose of imitation, I'll relate my persona to visual traits and hereby want be known as BlueEyedStallion:

Originally posted by KwisatzHaderach
8. Never allow a woman to cry on your shoulder, It's suicide.

My shoulder is not just for crying. I only rarely comfort crying women. And even if I did, which I do, because I can't help it and because the women in my life can't help it either, it doesn't change my opinion on the argument, given an argument was the reason for the woman crying.

Originally posted by GreenEyedVixen
reply to post by yourmaker

 

I'm kind of shy unless I'm approached first.

no wonder no girls ever talked to me unless I talked to them first.

reply to post by GreenEyedVixen


What region of the world do you live in?

reply to post by CriticalCK


Hahaha, I love how you look so deeply into my SN and wish to ridicule it.

A vixen is a female fox, a green eyed vixen is a female fox with green eyes. It is derived from a Firefox persona called Green eyed vixen. A fox is indeed my favorite critter aswell.

If you wish to ridicule someone, merely for their SN, then choose to educate yourself beforehand.

Either way, your reply was quite entertaining