Hello from the GF of a WATS member....

Originally posted by Chadwickus

 

 

Welcome to ATS
You can choose your fancy here, and it can be very educational as well as a lot of fun.

PS
Wow Chad, what did you do to get smegmaed

Originally posted by watchitburn
I find it disturbing you identify your self as some ones girlfriend instead of by your own personality.

For all intents and purposes you are saying " Hi, I'm Bob's towel". By projecting yourself as such you cheapen your ideas as just being a reflections of your boyfriends.

I know I said I was leaving, and I did, and I will again after this... but ah...I can't resist this particular post.

To this I would say, I would shout, I may: if you only knew.

This is a woman who has not budged in the slightest in her hardline views despite repeated exposure to..well, me, and my hardline views. I've been told before I can be very "persuasive" about my own views by those close to me. Deep down I know this means: "maybe if I just shut up and pretend to agree with him quickly he'll stop ranting endlessly like a nutbar quicker that way. It's worth a try anyway."

But not with Sara, she always has the will to both engage with and overpower whatever I happen to say, without fail. And thus she's the one who wears *me* into the ground. If I dare to get up on my high horse and start to pontificate, she'll out-pontificate the grand pontificator, and just to make a point, when four AM rolls around and I'm dying to get a few simple ours of sleep she'll be quietly streaming whispered dialectics into my ear in a sub-aural hypnotic murmer, and the content will be precise and original enought that I'll find myself wanting to strain to listen and, sleep be tossed to the wind. She has that effect. All the time. It's fantastc.

She is much, much more preceise and controlled about who she is than I could ever be, which means she has a more solid sense of self than I could ever have. In the end sound and fury always signifies nothing while its the sharp, quiet, precise mind prevails. It's not that original of an insight and I'd be nodding my head along with it too like "yeah, so what," but to see the woman embody this on a daily basis leaves me in awe. I am abashed in the face of it, and nobody else but you can tye my tonge any time you feel like it, Sara. Your the first person ever to be able to do that to me. And so effortlessly and gracefully too.

Sara's entire way of thinking, value system, aspirations, and perspective on realiyt is completely at odds from mine and the two are utterly, grandly, hoplessley incompatible. But we both vibrate on the same frequency and that's what draws people like us to our conceptual opposites, again and again because we both share the delicious sense of humor and "can we pull this thing of?f" nuttiness that seems to be peculiar to our personality type.

People like us never, not even once ever fail to find each other across even the widest imaginable gulfs.

Sara, know this: You are a far better person thanI deserve, I think we both know that. It is an absolute joy each day to see your strength of self and so stainless and adamantine. I know, too, the fire that tempers you is the fire of my own foolish self burning, burning up into a total irredemibale crisp for you. I don't care, I feed myself to the flames with nothing but joy.

And we also share that same unique type of uniunderstanding, again so strangely peculiar to...what? What are we? Peculiar to whatever the rare and nameless personality type is we both share, that we both embody with all our beings. Whatever else people like us can be considered -.we can bear to look calmly, flat and egyptian-eyed at something so many others turn away from with all their lifeforce. They call us damaged but we have that ability and they always, always stand dowin in the face if it.

And its stronger in you of course. Not like either of us has to say it or its a big deal but just look at the quoted post above! How could I ignore a gauntlet tossed on the ground so directly like that, right in the middle of the patch of sunlight that is you. Sunlight is always sunlight but I gotta pick up the gauntlet cause I'm a guantlet picker upper and thats what I do. Repetition is a sign of dullness even if its recognized.

These things don't happen to sara, the sun shines impassively. And if we want to, We ALL shine on.

Your Godless socialism and my Unshakable Spiritual Faith will never admit of one another, but as lovers we peek round the corners of those rigid walls and smile the same smile smile to each other in the gloom.

Thank you for being in my life, sara

reply to post by silent thunder


That was beautiful... =)

Silent, you can flirt with me online if you write me something like that that some time.

Just joking.

Sarah, I hope you do something nice for him after reading that.

Oh and welcome to ATS. too.

reply to post by silent thunder


Thank you. Really.

I don't know what else to say right now. Don't worry about the screen door I guess. I'll have something to say later and it won't be something bad.

Thanks to the other posters too. I guess I should be trying to control my thread or something but I'm still wandering around looking at all the other threads here so I don't know what I'm doing yet.

I really like how its easy to inbed photos here, its easier than the main community I use anyway. And I like playing with my signature a bit too much maybe. That's what I've learned so far.

I didn't realize this board was so big.

Thanks again everyone who welcomed me. People here seem especially kind to each other compared to most online communities I've tried out.

reply to post by silent thunder


Very Nice and Touching, Yup, Pulled on the really Old Heart Strings,,,,,,,,,,,,, Now go fix that Screen Door like she asked you to.

Hi, Girl Friend of silent thunder, Glad Your here and hope to see you around the board.

Hi again, actually something about this thread just hit me. Sarah says in her signature she is not a good speller and Mr. Thunder I have noticed once or twice before is not always the best of spellers either, even though he has a really good vocabulary. I am also a bad speller, and I think I can say my vocabulary is better than my spelling too. Silent, I think I got the impression from something you wrote once that you are kind of self-taught, maybe you didn't finish high school but you love reading and taught yourself that way, right? Did I remember that right? There is something unconventional about your background but I forget. And Sarah I don't know but it sounds like you might have the same?

This works into a theory about self-taught but smart people (I am not trying so say I'm smart, hold the attacks ) But I am similar, I didn't finish normal high school but I kept reading on my own love. Always these are interesting people when I come across them, and my theory is you can tell because they have good vocabularies but bad spelling or maybe they make grammar mistakes that nobody else does, etc. What do you think of this hypothesis, does this mesh with your experiences? Don't meen to pry but I wonder.

I come across a number of people like this on ATS - no offense (after all that's my story too) - and they always strike me as among the most interesting.

reply to post by TheXoor


That's a pretty interesting theory you have going for you there. Without getting into details, you are more or less correct, for the two of us, anyway. I've never made that connection before, but in my case I always have had terrible spelling and been ashamed of it. I have some other issues for the same reason. But we all have our issues, no?

Upon brief reflection however I am not sure how much water this theory will ultimately hold. Because it seems to me most people are pretty bad spellers unless they make an effort. This place helped me improve my English and writing skillls so much, simply as a result of how much time I spent here. I'm a great multitasker and a longtime multiple screen surfer so even though I am always logged in here, im always going a lot of other things too. But the point is, this place helped make my spelling much better because there is no spellcheck so I would look like an idiot if I didn't take more care. By making me work, ATS worked for me.

I noticed after I got a smartphone and tablet my spelling skills started to slide. Really fast. The autofilll thong in words is what does it. Last year I made a conscious decision to disable as much autopfill in my life as possible. I still use it on the smartphone however. By reducing my dependence on it, my writing skills got better again (I hope).

Moral of the story seems to be "use it or lose it."

Do you see yourself only as someone's girlfriend;

Or are you more than that?

If the answer is just a girlfriend then Rigel4 has a collective for you to join.

reply to post by FiliusSecundus


This is "his board," to my mind, so I identify myself this way. Probably should have picked a different name.

If he comes to one of my communities he will take my name. lol.

Originally posted by SilentThundersGF
This is "his board," to my mind, so I identify myself this way. Probably should have picked a different name.

If he comes to one of my communities he will take my name. lol.

fwiw,
and don't let him tell you different ... ATS is everyone's 'board', if they so choose.

the back and forth banter you share is reminiscent of jeanie and i over the years. don't let it go or go by the wayside ... you obviously have 'your glue'. that which keeps the two of you 'stuck together'. *good stuff*

* ... as long as we don't have to read about who burnt or screwed up dinner last night*



all the best, to the Both of ya.
12m8keall2c
jon

reply to post by 12m8keall2c


Why thank you! It is a very nice message. Endurance in a relationship demands a lot of patience and tolerance. Especially if you are dating him. I'm perfect, of course.

He calls us "the union of the opposites" but I'm not so sure. We are both eccentrics. Self taught, former juvinile delinquents, but try to improve constantly.

Originally posted by SilentThundersGF
We are both eccentrics. Self taught, former juvinile delinquents, but try to improve constantly.

DARN ...

guess I'll have to recuse myself from This discussion.


... having been All of the above and Then Some...

You two be well.





*hold true to the 'improve constantly', though*

reply to post by 12m8keall2c


LOL!!!

I wish I could add more.

A "GF" of an ATS member? Speaking as a male.....just..."Good Luck"!!!!

(All 'tongue in cheek....just so ya know!!!!).........

EDIT....oops....meant this to be directed at the OP...uh oh....

(hanging my head, in shame).....

Originally posted by TheXoor
Hi again, actually something about this thread just hit me. Sarah says in her signature she is not a good speller and Mr. Thunder I have noticed once or twice before is not always the best of spellers either, even though he has a really good vocabulary. I am also a bad speller, and I think I can say my vocabulary is better than my spelling too. Silent, I think I got the impression from something you wrote once that you are kind of self-taught, maybe you didn't finish high school but you love reading and taught yourself that way, right? Did I remember that right? There is something unconventional about your background but I forget. And Sarah I don't know but it sounds like you might have the same?

This works into a theory about self-taught but smart people (I am not trying so say I'm smart, hold the attacks

) But I am similar, I didn't finish normal high school but I kept reading on my own love. Always these are interesting people when I come across them, and my theory is you can tell because they have good vocabularies but bad spelling or maybe they make grammar mistakes that nobody else does, etc. What do you think of this hypothesis, does this mesh with your experiences? Don't meen to pry but I wonder.

I come across a number of people like this on ATS - no offense (after all that's my story too) - and they always strike me as among the most interesting.

I would guess people that teach themselves might tend to disagree with the way something is and apply their solution for themselves. Such as with grammar, someone might dislike they way a word is spelled formally or the way a sentence is put together. They don't have someone instructing and scoring them, so they just begin using their own version of whatever. For some it's probably not so much a grammatical mistake as it is a personal rebellion.

Language evolves and different boundaries are pushed. Pretty amazing when you consider the languages we have today all probably came from a simple grunt or something and that the people responsible for a part of the evolution of language actually went against grammatical correctness... and won.

Sorry for being all off topic and everything, but Xoor was glancing on some stuff that interests me as well.

Originally posted by RSF77

I would guess people that teach themselves might tend to disagree with the way something is and apply their solution for themselves. Such as with grammar, someone might dislike they way a word is spelled formally or the way a sentence is put together. They don't have someone instructing and scoring them, so they just begin using their own version of whatever. For some it's probably not so much a grammatical mistake as it is a personal rebellion.

Language evolves and different boundaries are pushed. Pretty amazing when you consider the languages we have today all probably came from a simple grunt or something and that the people responsible for a part of the evolution of language actually went against grammatical correctness... and won.

Sorry for being all off topic and everything, but Xoor was glancing on some stuff that interests me as well.

Ah this topic rears its head again...at least its about grammar this time.

I can't speak for others, but in teaching myself things, I always wanted to jump ahead of the "boring stuff." It's boring to memorize spelling, but necessary. It's boring to do drills, which is why people need drill instructors to be screamers and tyrants. This kind of motivation doesn't come easy. But i was always interested in ideas, so I liked reading like I liked breathing, and through reading, I picked up grammar and spelling "on the way" without thinking about it. Grammar is less of a problem but before I started writing on ATS all the time, my spelling was truly horrifying.

I think if one were to pay close enough attention to my posts, although I've come a long way as a writer (not braggings - its a fact - and thanks to this site enormously), I still make some really strange mistakes that are just the result of me imprinting a falty "rule" long ago without anybody correcting me. There are some basic grammar and spelling problems I still have that make me feel like an idiot so my strategy has been "to avoid using those words/grammar forms." Example: I do weird things with "ought" or "aught" endings for no reason at all if I don't concentrate. These words mistify me. That part of your body below your chin people call the "throat" I will spell "thraught" or the "throaght" or something similarly stupid if I'm not paying careful attention. Or in the opposite direction"I thought it was tough"/"I thut it was tuff" and that sort of thing. You are right. I would say in my case the problems come from laziness about memorizing, trying to skip ahead and read above my level before getting the basics down, and a few false imprints. The cure? For me at least, Its been lots of reading of people with good grammar. Lots and lots. And then followed by lots of writing. Fear of looking stupid is a great motivator. This post was pretty good I think, for example, but ten years ago I would have been all over the place with this.

reply to post by silent thunder


Yea, I still make the "your/you're" mistake a lot. I'm not exactly a popular writer on ATS so many times I end up leaving mistakes and the horde comes for my head. The most difficult thing about writing for me is trying not to be too overly complex, I have a good vocabulary but I guess its just something about the way I think when I write out ideas I can see that I am being too anal and too liberal about different things at the same time. Like for example I'll be super strict about spelling things but disregard tense a lot.

Plus on ATS I tend to get angry and rant a lot, throwing a lot of grammatical correctness our the window.

Also I tend to favor certain words instead of using a thesaurus. I just plain like certain words and phrases... like "symbiotic", "in essence", "subvert" or "affect". I don't like the word "especially", I don't like the way it's spelled but I tend to want to use it too much for my own comfort. My language and grammar have a mind of their own I guess.

I suppose we could start talking about the psychological effects of certain words on people, but that would be a long and off topic conversation. Plus wouldn't want to let your GF in on some of the secret guy stuff, I trust you haven't broken bro code and shown her the secret manual?