16 million Chinese wives are married to gay men

There may be as many as 16 million women on the Chinese mainland who are married to homosexual men, a leading expert has estimated. Professor Zhang Bei-chuan at Qingdao University, an authority on AIDS and HIV, says that due to traditional family values in China, about 90 percent of homosexual men get married because of pressure to conform. "But their wives are struggling to cope and their plight should be recognized," he said on Thursday. Xiao Yao, a 29-year-old magazine editor in Xi'an, Shaanxi province, divorced her gay husband in 2008. "Most gay men's wives I've known are silently suffering at the hands of husbands who could never love them, and like me, some even got abused by husbands who were also under great pressure," she said.

www.chinadaily.com.cn...

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I'm not sure if this is the right forum, but I found this very interesting and sad. It's depressing to think about all the women who's husbands will never love them and all the men who feel the need to hide their sexuality. Homophobia is terrible.

This does not sound like a bad arrangement!

As a lover of male genitalia myself, I can firmly testify that if I lived with a female and not a boy then my closet wouldnt be constantly raided and all my clothes stolen >

The OP article source claims 90% Chinese gays marry women, LOL hello propaganda.

Homosexual adultery is MORE rampant in America by far. The problem is Americans are better self-righteous actors, just look on Craiglist.org "Wifes away, let's play sword fight"..... These men would never admit they're gay, at least Chinese gays do! 1 in 10 is 10% of the population is.... GAY no ifs ands or "butts"

Heres an interesting American article to put things in perspective:

advice.friendsandlovers.com...

The following is excerpted with permission from Husbands Who Love Men by Arleen Alwood:

“A recent survey of sex therapists and psychiatrists who treat mostly men noted that the vast majority of their homosexual and bisexual patients (between 40 and 100 percent) kept their sexual preferences from their spouses (Hill 260).

Homosexual men may feel shame for their sexual orientation. Some men may be confused by their lack of sexual attraction to women and their strong attraction to men. Some men may hide behind displays of “manly” behavior to their attraction for and to women.

Adultery is a shattering experience, moreso when the “other woman” is a man. When a husband commits adultery with another man, it is overwhelmingly destructive to the wife, producing feelings that cannot be understood by women who have husbands who cheat with women. Some wives may fight to get their husband back from the other woman. When her husband’s lover is another man, she can consider her chances as being slim to none.

All marriages face challenges of various proportions. The homosexual or bisexual issue may be an insurmountable challenge for the majority of husbands, wives, and families affected by it."

Click here for more information.

Originally posted by theBigToe
This does not sound like a bad arrangement!

As a lover of male genitalia myself, I can firmly testify that if I lived with a female and not a boy then my closet wouldnt be constantly raided and all my clothes stolen >

I really think you are never going to find your outlet here. When you mention "boy" I can only think that NAMBLA is your home.

And if that's the case...get a life.

Peace

The whole hypocrisy of human existance seems well illustrated by your article.
It seems to me that the whole human race is being phoney at least half the time.....for one reason oe another......
This herd instinct type of behavior is driving us mental.
Firstly, because there is no need for it in our society pther than social reasons, and second because the people thius affexted eventually end up traumatized to a certain degree depending on their individual surremder to social moores.

The whole hypocrisy of human existance seems well illustrated by your article.
It seems to me that the whole human race is being phoney at least half the time.....for one reason oe another......
This herd instinct type of behavior is driving us mental.
Firstly, because there is no need for it in our society pther than social reasons, and second because the people thius affexted eventually end up traumatized to a certain degree depending on their individual surremder to social moores.

" a leading expert has estimated. "

Originally posted by jude11

Originally posted by theBigToe
This does not sound like a bad arrangement!

As a lover of male genitalia myself, I can firmly testify that if I lived with a female and not a boy then my closet wouldnt be constantly raided and all my clothes stolen >

I really think you are never going to find your outlet here. When you mention "boy" I can only think that NAMBLA is your home.

And if that's the case...get a life.

Peace

What the hell are you talking about?

Grow up you sick weirdo.

Originally posted by theBigToe

Originally posted by jude11

Originally posted by theBigToe
This does not sound like a bad arrangement!

As a lover of male genitalia myself, I can firmly testify that if I lived with a female and not a boy then my closet wouldnt be constantly raided and all my clothes stolen >

I really think you are never going to find your outlet here. When you mention "boy" I can only think that NAMBLA is your home.

And if that's the case...get a life.

Peace

What the hell are you talking about?

Grow up you sick weirdo.

I have sent a U2U apology as well will post it here for all:

The message:

Apologies if it was taken wrong but when I seen this, it reads as you are gay and living with a boy:

"As a lover of male genitalia myself, I can firmly testify that if I lived with a female and not a boy then my closet wouldnt be constantly raided and all my clothes stolen."

In fact that is exactly how it reads and although I have no problem with gay people the other is truly repugnant of course. Again, if I was mistaken and judging by your response I was, my apologies. Truly. Jude11

Originally posted by targeting
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I'm not sure if this is the right forum, but I found this very interesting and sad. It's depressing to think about all the women who's husbands will never love them and all the men who feel the need to hide their sexuality. Homophobia is terrible.

If you're really interested about gays in China here is a Great Site For You: factsanddetails.com...
Very Informative.

Homosexuality in China Purple Dragon gay travel specialists Purple Dragon ; China Daily article chinadaily.com ; National Institute of Health paper /gateway.nlm.nih.gov ; Articles from the 1990s brooklyn.cuny.edu ; Some Sources on gay life in China fordham.edu/halsall ; Gay in Rural China sfgate.com ; Gay Scene in Shanghai shanghai-guy.com

And How About That Gay Travelers Web-Site The China Purple Dragon,,, Check it out if you're into that life style.
www.purpledrag.com...
Here is a recent news story for anyone here that is interested.

Homosexuality in China

同性恋在中国

In China, where tradition reigns, homosexuality is no longer taboo. What is the view from those living in the country?

www.uschina.usc.edu...

China has a history of being tolerant to homosexuality. Confucianism doesn’t condemn homosexuality as some religions do. Homosexuality has been documented in China since ancient times. In the Song dynasty it was considered fashionable for both men and women. Several emperors reportedly kept male consorts. Homosexuality was common enough in the 19th century for a English emissary to remark that “many of the first officers of the state seemed to make no hesitation in publicly avowing it.” In the 20th century the renowned scholar Kang Youwei proposed same sex marriages. See Han Dynasty Emperor Ai.

So if not the social stigma, then why the hiding? Unless it is just the normal shame issue. I don't get it really, how a guy can like another guy in that way, but hey, to each their own. Live and let live.

Seems this would be very destructive to the false wives.

As another pointed out though, an expert's estimate probably just means a weird statistical extrapolation, probably based on faulty sample data, to get him that percentage.