The New Adulteress

Well, here's an interesting article I came across, should be good for some general chit-chat. It's a long, multi-page article but worth reading because in addition to its bold general claims, it has a lot of interesting details and anecdotes.

Seems like proactive adultry on the part of women may be on the rise. Women are less afraid to be "the other woman", and less ashamed.

This could be seen as a symptom of cultural rot, decadence, bad values from trashy media, etc. That was my first impression. But it is more complicated. I have opined on this board before that I think there is a trend towards more acceptance of multiple women for high-status men, and perhaps leading even to legal and socially accepted poligamy. As the recession drags on a lot of men are having financial troubles which, fair or not, makes it harder for them to attract a woman. Women are more educated and successful in business than ever before, and most seek to "marry up" to a higher-status male. But with so many high status and low status women alike competing for the same pool of high status males, there simply aren't enough to go around. I think its not a stretch to imagine some women wouldn't mind living in a harem or mistress-type setup, and might even find it preferable to share a high-status male with other women rather than date a low-status male.

If this is truly going on, then the bolder acceptance of adultery among women can be read as a step in that direction.

That's just one idea that came to me, there are a lot of other angles to talk about here as well, so have fun.


The New Adulteress
Women who cheat with married men are no longer getting a bad rap. Today's mistress isn't a vamp, she's not desperate, and she's not afraid to poach what's yours

...The media has traditionally depicted the Other Woman as either a lonely psycho (Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction), a young Lolita desperate for male approval (Mena Suvari in American Beauty), or a dimwitted bimbo plotting social advancement (Gennifer Flowers). But now there's a new breed of mistresses who, like Dina, doesn't fit the stereotypes of slut or sad-sack. Angelina Jolie was anything but hard up when she allegedly poached Brad from Jen. Film producer Rielle Hunter didn't boil any bunnies after she and political bedfellow John Edwards ended their extramarital affair. And this year French President Nicolas Sarkozy's bride, ex-model and Euro-pop star Carla Bruni, scored both a glowing profile in Vanity Fair and a girl-talk interview with Barbara Walters on 20/20--despite having replaced Sarkozy's ex so quickly.

If the other woman is no longer a wanton villainess and social pariah come to tear your marriage to shreds, then who is she? According to a recent online poll WH conducted, she might be you. Though 79 percent of respondents said that having an affair with a taken man was never acceptable, a surprising 46 percent admitted to having done it--and more than half of you said they felt no regrets. Even more intriguing, when asked whether you'd rather be a mistress or a deceived wife, more than 62 percent of you opted for the former.

I don't need an article to tell me this. Look at Hollywood.

I mean when you have a reality show about "cougars" it shows society that this behavior is ok.

This is something that's probably always existed, it's just been swept under the rug.

Frankly, I think it's about time that this happened. The cheating man puts on a strategic amount of shame and goes along his merry way, while the mistress becomes a social pariah.

Oh boy, I know I'm getting old when I am flabbergasted at the results of a poll of my fellow women. I guess I'm from the hippie generation where something is cool only if it doesn't hurt anybody else.

Adultery DOES hurt other people. Not just the rejected wife, who is usually tossed aside like a used kleenex, but also any children that are involved, who are usually either pushed aside because they remind daddy too much of the ex, or by the new "poacher", who doesn't want any kids around who aren't hers.

Apparently, nobody pays attention to the marriage vows they speak, and nobody else respects them. If you are so unhappy in a marriage, break if off and THEN go find somebody else. But no, that would take too much bravery and character. One doesn't dump their partner until they have another to run off with.

To the women who would take somebody else's husband, I got news for ya, honey: The man whom you romanticize so much and want so badly because he belongs to another woman, is really just another man. After a while, he'll be sick of you too, and you of him. Then the cycle will continue again.

As for the money angle, I've had half a million dollars in the bank, and I've been overdrawn by hundreds of dollars. Such has been the roller coaster of my life. Trust me when I say that money will make paying the bills easier, but it doesn't buy happiness, love, or security. You will reap what you sow eventually, and if you destroy a family, karma's gonna get you.

Lol kidding...couldn't resist

Being single is the way to go. Focus on your job, joys of life and building yourself as a person. Relationships in todays world is a waste of time. Too many mind games and people manipulated by hollywood's silly idea of love.

cool theory cept you actually see this behavior with "low status" men and regular joes on a day to day basis, Haven't you ever watched Maury?

reply to post by LoonyConservative


Turn off the TV..I would say we are seeing the effects of a godless society.

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Interesting little story your link was, but it does read like some cheep dime novel, only the writing and script is even crappier. However I would call this behavior as pretty normal. What its only been going on like for the past couple, pretty much all of history.

And the thing about multiple females for high standing males or dude with $$$ and all such things is definitely true, however there is a problem with the numbers in that factual theory, one would even say that its superimposed....A magic trick, of the mind as well as the eye. But whatever the only regret I would have is that I cant get rid of all these supposed females fast enough, I even tried my mean and scary face. And even the silence. But no really who in there right mind would want to even talk with one, much less be with one.

But it's good to see that at least there all becoming more real and true to themselves definitely less acting going on, and for some there outsides are starting to match up and catch up to whats on the inside...That is plastic. The real housewives of whatever, or whatever current plastic shows they all watch on tube I would say is a good representation of the majority of them all.

Strange hobbies people have, and they are amusing to witness, kind of like a cheese movie, you know the movie I am talking about, that one that sucks so much that its actually good in it's suckyness.

One thing that stands true as always is that we will see. Everybody is looking for justifications to what they want to do, and everybody will find them.