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Originally posted by pcrobotwolf
reply to post by RightWingAvenger
actually i asked about child support payments she said she didn't want a thing from me also. If she get full custody i dont think she is allowed to get child support seeing as how i cant be in the childs life
Originally posted by TinkerHaus
Her being in college is not an indicator of her immigration status.
I had custody problems with my daughter too, so I know where you're coming from.
My advice for now, while she's still pregnant, is to remain on friendly terms with her. Don't make her angry or upset, or give her any reason to flee with your child. Don't threaten her, don't make her aware of any legal action you decide to take. (let the lawyer/courts do this) Let her know you want to accept this responsibility and you would like to be in the child's life - but if she's not receptive to this don't force anything just yet.
The system is slanted toward mothers, and many judges will dismiss out without consideration simply because you are male. If you truly want to be in your child's life you need to eventually get into court and have a court order saying so. There are various hotlines and help centers for fathers in your situation, I would advise calling them as they deal with this every single day. They will give you much better advice than I imagine ATS could, unless we have a family services lawyer in our midst.
No offense, but it really sounds like you fathered an anchor baby. Doesn't mean that baby deserves any less than any other baby, and as YOUR baby I'm sure he/she will deserve the world. If I were you I would start looking at your ex's immigration status too - it might help if you eventually do end up in a courtroom.
Good luck!
Originally posted by pcrobotwolf
reply to post by RightWingAvenger
actually i asked about child support payments she said she didn't want a thing from me also. If she get full custody i dont think she is allowed to get child support seeing as how i cant be in the childs life